How do you live with people?
@highflyingxangel (9225)
United States
August 24, 2008 8:30pm CST
So it's another school year and it's another round of roommates. We're currently living in an apartment with two other girls both of which are a few years younger than we are. We knew a few days in advance that she was going to invite a few friends over. We were told about two friends a boy and a girl and we were fine with that.
Now, there are three people in our apartment that have stayed the entire weekend that we don't even think have been signed in (they must be signed in to visit or stay) because this is a university owned apartment. It's Sunday night of course and we're ready for them to leave because we're ready to focus on Monday's classes, not the loud annoying giggles and talking coming from the room next to us.
We're even dealing with a rude set of people that don't understand that not all food or drinks in the fridge are community property and can be used by everyone. They drank quite a bit of my drinks without asking and the roommate never told them to ask the other roommates (i.e us). It's just very rude and disrespectful and definitely not in good taste. Otherwise we haven't had any problems with these roommates until this very moment. We did remove our drinks from the fridge too and put them in our room so they would not have access to our drinks. We do have other food that we can't shove into our room but this incident has us thinking about buying a mini fridge that we can have to ourselves.
So, to turn this into a discussion, how do you live with other people that aren't family or your signifigant other? I personally don't like people all that much because they're mostly rude, annoying, disrespectful people that have no regard for anyone other than themselves (especially the young adult variety). Do you have any college roommate horror stories to share?
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Well, the best way I have found that works well is tell them up front what is what. Like about your drinks and other foods. If you don't want them drunk tell them that they are off limits and even have a name system that nothing with your name on it can be touched unless asked permission first. I have had people live with me before on several occasions and they was mostly always respectful enough to ask first. They were a few that didn't..
A mini fridge would keep them out of your stuff you could even add a luck so hen your gone it can't be gotten into. But the name thing would be cheaper so maybe see if that works first. But you have to label everything as this and that persons. I would also think that a sign on the fridge would help also,along with the names..Sorry, But the food in this fridge isn't free to consume.
A mini fridge would keep them out of your stuff you could even add a luck so hen your gone it can't be gotten into. But the name thing would be cheaper so maybe see if that works first. But you have to label everything as this and that persons. I would also think that a sign on the fridge would help also,along with the names..Sorry, But the food in this fridge isn't free to consume.@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I do hope you find something that works well for you both. Could have a no noise ordinance sign until a certain time..that might work for those giggles and stuff. If they had to pay a dollar everytime they broke it.. might break them.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Thanks for the best response I really appreciate it alot, again thanks..
@Latrivia (2878)
• United States
25 Aug 08
When I first started college, I lived with 4 other girls in a 4 bed/2 bath apartment. Two of the girls were pretty cool. One of them was always in her room, and the other was a lush who loved to party, but was always considerate enough to ask if the other roomies were cool with having people over. The 3rd room mate, however, got on my nerves a lot. She was a big girl who didn't do much. She sat on the couch in the living room during most of the day and watched MTV. God help us if the "Flavor of Love" came on - she went crazy watching that show. She never cleaned up after herself unless she was asked to repeatedly, and she had this thing with putting in and pulling out her weaves all over the apartment. She would sit on the couch and pull her weaves out of her hair, leaving behind her a crap load of hair all over the couch and living. Sometimes it even found it's way into our kitchen and fridge. I had to share a bathroom with her - a bathroom covered with her weave and hair products that she never cleaned, and never bought toilet paper for (but she used up more of it than me and my boyfriend combined). It was a tough time for me, because I usually was the one cleaning up after her.
Now I live in a 4 bed/ 2 bath house with my husband and another couple. They're pretty cool, but that's because we were all friends for over a year before we moved in together.
@oreed8 (77)
• United States
25 Aug 08
i would never live with a strangers just because, after a WHILE u going to get sick of them and drama always comes with it. thats why reality shows are successful. couple of strangers living together well find things they dislike about each other. thats why i never move in with stranger, remember that movie (single white female) lol perfect example ....
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 Aug 08
i don't have many experiences living with a roommate as i prefer to choose living in a university dormitary and in a single room... but i do have experience living with a roommate when i am in a foundation year in uni and it is not a good experience for me as well... i am an early person and she is a night owl... i prefer to sleep in a dark room and she can't sleep without any light... i am a tidy person and she is very untidy... when my father comes to visit me, he is amazed to see how untidy her part of the room is... and i can't say anything and just try to tolerate her... fortunately, we only live together for less than a year... take care and have a nice day...
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
25 Aug 08
[i]Hi angel,
Ohhh..I understand your situation very well...When I was in College, my Sister and I used to live with other girls in the room and our usual problem is they don't like to clean and we hate it, they just can live in a place with so much dust and all and we are not used to have that...Another thing is they will used our plates, spoon and glasses without any permission, they have their own but their problem is they will not used right away after using!
A lot of times I will confront and get mad and they will promise not to do it but always doing it, so, we come to a point where we are hiding all our things in our locker![/i]
@kuting (885)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i haven't experienced staying in dorms when i went to college coz my house is just within the vicinity. it was when i started working that got to experience living with other girls. i know that i have a very long patience and i high tolerance for others. its just that staying with my cousin right now in our apartments seems to be testing how long patience is and how high my tolerance is. we're both working and i just annoys me that some of the clothes that i intend to wear just disappears and appears just in the person of my cousin. i don't have any problems with sharing my things its just that i sometime had set my mind on using my things and suddenly i am at loss for anything to use because my cousin is already using them. she also has a bit of being obsessive-compulsive and i think its a behavior problem. if not for her mom that really asked me to stay i would have left her long ago.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I've never had to live with a stranger. (Un)fortunately, my housemates are my sister and my boyfriend. But I had a friend who had a roommate who used to walk around their place naked and would use her (my friend's) bar of soap when bathing. Another friend had a roommate who would have his F* buddy come after midnight and they would make a lot of noise around that time.
Can't you talk to the "new" roommates about rules regarding the fridge and visitors and just plain consideration for others? Is there anyway for all of you to divvy up the fridge space and go from there? Hopefully, when school gets along, your roommates would focus more on their classes and homework and less on being giggly-rude.
@k1tten (2318)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I seem to tolerate people. But lately my patience to tolerate people has gone down to about nill. This year is just rediculous and I'm starting to believe that I'd rather try to sabatoge the people we live with. I'm just tired of waking up to giggling and laughing and just load noises because people are just inconsiderate. Bloody annoying.
