felt betrayed...

he should read between the lines. his friend or friends does not want him around. these are the things that we should learn to understand and learn to let go. life is not perfect, he might be better off without these kind of friends. we go with people whom we can be with , aside from whom we want.it is better to go with friends who sets their feet on the ground. i think you know what i mean. down to earth friends where you can be yourself and people take you as you are.i have had my ups and downs with these kind of people and i came to understand that they are just a pain in the butt and an unwanted burden on my shoulders.i am better off without them.

Hello vanities, I came across a similar discussion few months back. I think there must be something wrong going on somewhere. They are the best of friends and I don't understand why his best friend changed out of sudden. Maybe there was something happened to them and your daughter's boyfriend didn't realize it. But to agree to a meeting and decided to cancel it after hours of waiting is such a coward attitude. He should see your daughter's boyfriend and talk about what actually happened between them. I understand he has the whole right not to invite your daughter's boyfriend but I just feel it was just too much to treat your best friend like that.

i will feel betrayed and dissapointed as well if i am in his position... i don't understand that if he is his best friend, why don't he invite him??? sounds weird to me... is there any incidents in the past that cause this to happen??? i would suggest him to talk to his best friend openly and find out the reason why... hopefully everything can be sorted out in peace... take care and have a nice day...

As tigerdragon said he needs to let it go and move on. Just because a person is your friend and or you their friend does not mean you have to be invited to every function they have. Maybe it was married couples getting together. I know when my best friend got married and at the time I wasn't things did change between us and they will when people get married. My maid of honor and I no longer talk we basically stopped talking a week after I was married because well she didn't think I couldn't have her as a best friend and have my husband as a best friend. We meaning my husband and I were invited to parties where it was just couples and normally if I was invited to parties I would take her but when you get invited to a married couple party just not cool to invite. But just because your daughters boyfriend was bestmand doesn't mean he has to be invited to every party his friend has. That's life. He might as well get over it or make new friends.

I don't blame him for feeling betrayed.....that was not a nice thing to do....to leave him out! If that happened to me then it's cut that person out of my life. True friends don't do things like that.

yeah i know how ya feel. one of my friends had a Halo 3 party and i wasnt invited. They played halo 3 and backyard football. i didnt let it bother me, and im still real good friends with him... but i kinda wondered what was up with him not inviting me.

i would obviously feel hurt. then will feel betrayed. also the sense of being unwanted will come to mind as well. it is nothing else than betrayal from the part whom i thought my best friend

That is so bad. Maybe his bestfriend has something that he doesn't know about. He have to know the reason for this, base on your story i think this is not a simple matter. He have to know why there is a sudden coldness in their friendship. Since they are best of friend, i believe communication is the best solution to this.

I will feel sad and wonder why he didn't invite me.

I think that if it was a party like that I would definitely be concerned about it. It's insulting that they would do that to him and it makes me wonder if it is not also the soon to be wife's fault. I hope that this doesn't cause the friendship to not be a friendship.

Hi vanities, I think its a disgusting behaviour on his friend's part, to be honest with you he is no longer a friend is he? so the best thing for your daughter's boyfriend to is just ignore him and forget about this man, if he doesn't want to know your daughter's boyfriend then he shouldn't bother about him and move on. Tamara

I would certainly feel that I'm super betrayed. That is a form of betrayal and it is an insult too. It seems that the friendship is not real. Or maybe there are deeper reasons why his bestfriend did that. But "bestfriend", I mean hello, why would a bestfriend would do such thing. In my opinion, their friendship is not real.

I will feel very sad in that situation. I am sure I will find out the problem. It will be uncomfortalbe before I realize the reason about it. I will do all what a best friend able to do, even though I may be misunderstood by my friend.

Everything happens for a reason.

so why wasnt he invited if they are such good friends. i would feel left out too and betrayed.

I know I went feel very good inside about it. I'd have to wonder why my best friend didn't invite me to the party. Was it something I said. Maybe he heard something from someone else. I sure would want to talk to him find out. To see if something that I did wrong. Is he feeling guilty for not inviting me? I sure would like to find out. Its hard when you lose a good friend.

That's betrayal in a way. Well, I think there's something wrong between the two friends. They may have experienced some big problems that were not resolved as of now. It's better to know what really happened along the way. I hope they would solve this problem in a nice way; thus maintaining the friendship still.

Hi Vanities.. I will be terribly upset.. and why is that he has not invited if he considers him as a good friend.. No reasons, i could find.. Probably holding a grudge..or some thing like that..

Good day...Yes I will feel left out and betrayed of that situation ever happens to me. I mean if I was his best man in the wedding why on earth would he left me out? If there is a misunderstanding, I think I deserved to know what that is and give me a chance to explain and defend myself if need be. Making me left out and felt betrayed is surely not the best way to handle the situation and it could nick our friendship permanently.

The coldness is deserved by all means, i mean if they're friends why wasn't he invited? If it had been me i would have shown up anyways, invite or not. I mean if he's his friend then he wouldn't of been bothered by him just showing up at the party. I've been there many times and finally did something about it by just showing up without an invite.