Is It Normal for Couples to Fight Over Money Matters?

I guess that happens when people object to how others spend. If you love somebody, why fight their spending ? You knew how that was when you married them, didn't you ? So why on earth are you fighting now ?

oh yes... i think it is very common nowadays especially with the economic conditions recently... prices increase and the salary is not enough between the couples even though they have worked hard for it... it is the similar conditions like in my family as well... but i try to reduce it as much as i can as it is not really worth it to fight over money... love is still the most important thing of all... take care and have a nice day...

we fight alot about money. usually about the lack of money and i guess i kinda am the one who spends the most of it. hehe. then the shift changes which bring home less money, and he just came in and mentioned it to me while im typing this. lolol so yea the answer is yes totally

It sounds like you don't have to worry about having this type of fight with your husband. When I was first married, my husband and I only fought about money. We never fought about anything else. Finally I confronted him about it and we talked it over. Now we never have a fight over money. I think alot of new marriages have money problems and maybe your sister was trying to help you keep a happy marriage.

it is normal. you can't help it. there are instances where a couple would fight about it. for me, fighting about money like you, is quite shallow. i think that couples fight about money because they lack it. if one of you can really take charge of handling the expenses and your partner is open about it, everything will turn out fine. both of you should have the instinct to think about major purchases, talked about it and decide together. wise spending could probably lessen the possibility of an argument about money and communication has always been a key to happy marriage.

We are not actually fighting over money but both of us are depressed when we don;t have money. My husband will give me all his salary. I am the one who is more in stress when we don't have money because I handle the budget. It is so much depressing when you really have nothing and bills are all over due. We are not fighting nor blaming each other because both of us are helping to provide our needs. Our problem is how to earn more for our needs,we don;t need to fight,, just be patient and work hand in hand.

Arguing about money is unavoidable because men and women think different. What I consider as necessary, he considers as junk, and what he considers necessary, I consider a waste of money. It also has to do with how quick it is to get the money to get the item, or who is the main breadwinner. It also has to do with attitude. If you did not make that much money and not enough to live on, you sort of regard it as an allowance. So just like you spent your allowance on yourself when you were young, that also happens in married life as well. In other cases, it all goes into a household fund. Neither was satisfactory to us, so my husband's money went into household, and I decided to buy my own clothes, and since I had not made enough during my working life, put a lot away so in case something happens to him. Also since I was not taking any of the household money and using mine for buy what I wanted or needed, it worked out well.

thats normal having fight because of money. actually, sometimes that is the main reason why couples really fight. especially when you are both out of budget for foods and for the bills... thats is why, you really need to talk about it and plan for the next time that it wont cause you both trouble...or else, you will always fight for money...

Depends on the couple I guess. We fight over money too because my husband doesn't like to worry about money and keep spending while I don't like spending all the time because I have plans for the future. He always works so he always has money and doesn't think much about it. I only work temp and just started a small business for 2 years now so it's crucial for me to keep an eye on our spending. But usually my husband knows I am just worried so no matter how bad the fight is we always make up. I am sure he is worried too only he never says that, then again we are both not gamblers or big spenders, so it's never been a huge fight.

The main thing my husband and I fight over is money. I'm inherently a penny pincher - my huband...not so much. He likes to buy video games and eat out a lot, then he wonders what happens to his money supply (*facepalm*). It's hard not to get caught up in it, because we have separate bank accounts and I don't know how much money we have. Usually when I ask, he likes to tell me we have "enough". At least, that's what he tells me, until rent day comes and he admits that he's just barely able to pay the bills. It frustrates me because one of my biggest fears is poverty. Usually everything ends up alright, especially because we have an emergency money supply to fall back on in times of great need. I don't like having to worry if we'll be able to pay the bills, though, and I hate having to frequently dip into the emergency account because of frequent unnecessary spending. As for lashing out - I tend to do that when I get very frustrated. I do also feel very sorry for it afterward, but it works out since my husband and I resolve our arguments, rather than ignoring them and letting the frustration fester in silence over time.

I am not married yet but I have heard many couples telling their stories of fighting with each other over money. Some of my cousins have the same problem. I still think that why wives or husbands fight over money, when they know money is just a matter of luck and it can't stay with you forever.

I was in charge of my own money for several years before I met my current husband and he was in charge of his own money all of his life. When we started living together and decided to combine finances, I let him take responsibility for our money because he wanted to and I didn't care as much about it as he did. We keep each other informed of our spending and discuss any large purchases before they are made but we rarely, if ever, argue about money.

I am constantly fighting about money with my man. lol he likes to spend and I like to save. He is constantly in the hole with his checking account where i always have SOMETHING in my account. He was going in and transferring money without me knowing it from my account which made me really mad - but I fixed it by changing my password so he cant get into my account anymore.... its frustrating I still havent thought of a way for us to stop arguing about money, if anyone knows a good way then PLEASE let me know lol I think that is my biggest stressor with him

I do think a lot of couples fight about money, how much to spend, what to spend it on etc. Especially if only one partner is working and the other isn't.I believe it all depends on the situation, I've heard my mom and her boyfriend fight over money before when I was underage,she never fought about that with my dad, so i guess it just depends really.

Hubby and I may bicker over finances once in a while but never an out and out fight. Most of the time it's over me not balancing the checking account right or b/c he wants something and we don't have the extra for it right then and there. We usually discuss it and work out a compromise. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Its normal to fight over money matters. Couples usually fight almost about everything so money is not an exception

Hi eihdra, Money is in the top 5 of the things that couples fight over most. I have heard it said on numerous occasions, "we are always fighting over money". I expect that it is also one of the major causes of divorce, while it may not be the end result, it is often where the problems start. Your sister's advice was very good. Blessings.

My husband and I have never fought about money. He's a very generous man and money's never been particularly important to him as long as we always had enough to live - so it's never come up. Most of our arguments were about the children.

ya. this has become a usual case happenin between the couples. since lack of proper planning is there this thing happens. only with proper understanding only they can realise that its their mistake and can rectify their fault