How do you start all over again?

First take a deep breath. Know that you aren't the only woman that has had to face this difficult situation. There are millions of divorced women with children in this world and they're doing it all on their own. You can do it and everything will work out. Stay positive...if not for yourself then for your children. While divorce is no easy task, there's always one very crucial thing you need to have in your life. You need strong support from others. Whether that be other family members you can talk to or friends to help you escape the reality from time to time. People who you feel close enough that you can share your fears and your future goals with and they'll just listen and lend a shoulder if need be. Divorce at any age is difficult and usually more so if there's children involved. I'm not sure what your state laws allow for divorced women who have been homemakers/stay-at-home moms, but here where I live they're allowed so much alimony for a certain amount of years or until they get remarried. Plus you will be receiving child support. You will need to find a job. Hopefully in something that you've been interested in doing or something you just enjoy. You could even get into some college courses to further your education and then find a decent paying career. It's pretty much a well known fact that graduates get payed better, even if they're doing the same work as someone who isn't a college grad. Just remember that this isn't the end. You have so much more to look forward to. I do wish you the best!

Rather than looking at it as starting all over again try looking at it as just being a new chapter in your life. If you see it as starting over again it will make the last 13 years seem like a waste and Im sure this was not the case. 41 is not old by any means and you have so much to look forward to still. Remember you still have your children. Could you not continue to be a stay at home mom? Maybe try looking into doing a course of some sort. It does not have to be anything educational. Try art classes or needlework. This will give you something to focus on and you might meet some new people as well throuh it.

My advice is one day at a the time. I am not sure where you live but check if there are any programs for woman like you. Good luck.

you will surprise yourself you are strong than you are giving yourself credit for. You are a mom and you will do what you have to to make sure that your children are took care of. So take a very deep breath and jump in with both feet and you will make it one second, one minute, one hour, and one day at a time. good luck and all the beat to you and your kids.

Maybe you can get some help from the grandparents, friends and family. You're probably going to have to get a job. I'm sorry. Hope you'll get back on your feet.