email from my hubby

what makes you sad

im touched...

@jairgirl (2877)

United States

August 25, 2008 9:21pm CST

i have been down all day coz of my husband's sickness. we dont talk much coz if he starts talking he will be coughing and that will make him worse. he hardly have a voice now coz of that so our conversation is very limited and i try not to bug him and just let him rest as he needs it very bad. i spent all my day trying to be busy so i dont have to dwell on the negative side coz he needs me to be stronger than i am used to at this time. it is hard not to talk to him nor hear him joke around coz he is such a clown and having the opposite is just not normal. anyway, i was busy trying to be busy tonight and just wait till itis time for us to go to bed. i saw a red notification on my mail dock so i opened it and this is what i got... hey, i don't know if i told you lately but you are the greatest woman ever in this world and probably in any world and i love you with all my heart. so please don't forget it and love me forever...ok? [i][/i] it is an email coming from my husband who is laying next to me in our couch. i saw him grabbing his computer for awhile while i am getting him some fruits so i guess that's what he did LOL i always cried when i read it, i am not supposed to cry coz it will make him cry so i have to smile and give him a kiss as soon as i read it. i am grateful for the man i have coz despite his sickness he still managed to let me know how he feels, i dont expect anything from him as i know he cant do much right now or can tell me how much he loves me in words coz he is trying not to talk much. i am sad all day but his emails touched my heart and assures me that we have each other no matter what. what touch you today? are you as sad as i am all day? what makes you sad? thanks for the time. good night!

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@rsa101 (38166)

• Philippines

26 Aug 08

Wow that is so sweet of your husband! Well I think somehow that universe has conspired with you forcing you're husband to lie low and try to let him feel your love and concern. There are times really that when we are very busy with work and juggling duties and responsibilities we more often neglect those that we love. I guess that fever and sore throat made your hubby internalized everything and saw what you are doing for him and somehow has touched his heart. sometimes it's good to slow down things to really feel what you're purpose is in this life.

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hi rsa101, thanks for being here. yes it is sweet indeed, my hubby is always a sweet man everyday no matter how busy his day was at his home office he will manage to spend a little time with me at the living room just to make sure i am doing well and that he is thinking of me even if he is busy at work. it is the same way even if he is out or before when he is working outside our home. not hearing his voice much makes me feel sad as i know he enjoys to joke around and make fun of my clumsiness LOL we are both grateful to each other specially in times like this, both of us are such a baby if we are sick and often ask for either extra time for each other or a peace of mine depends on the mood. i guess, part of the email is that he lately have a bad mood due to the frustration of what he is feeling. anyway, appreciate the kind words as well as the support. takecare

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@checapricorn (16061)

• United States

26 Aug 08

[i]Hi jair, wow..that is very sweet! hmm...I am sure your heart beats so fast! LOL! I remember that is the title of the first poem I have composed before! Anyway, Just last night, hubby also have some cough and flu, I pity him and tries to massage his chest and back to help him feel good! He is at work right now! yesterday, he was busy downloading something for his work and I prefer also to stay in the computer room and work online, he came in the room bringing a chocolate and a glass of juice! he knows I don't like chocolate, I bought some packs because I want to send it to my Family with the cellphone I have for my sister and her husband, he opened it and promised to get another pack as replacement! So, I was touched by that, I ate it and hug him..LOL! Char![/i]

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@checapricorn (16061)

• United States

27 Aug 08

[i]ohh..I am glad my hubby feels better now! I hope your hubby too! My Mother and Sister will be celebrating their birthday on 30th and 28th respectively of this month, ohh..that is tomorrow for my Sister! So, it's part 2 of what we gave them already! LOL![/i]

@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello che, thanks for sharing your touching moment. it makes me smile coz he often buy me chocolates but because i rarely eat it he often eats the most of it and i have to tease him about that, he just tells me that it is the thought that counts haha. that is something i sure miss about him coz he is such a clown like you man. i hope your hubby feels better soon, my sister's hubby have a flu as well and she told me that he took a sick leave today. i think the only good thing this sickness gives my hubby is that he gets extra massages, it is hard for him to sleep and having a body massage helps him someway. i can see how similar we are

anyway, it is great that your family will get something from you - is that a Christmas gift or just a surprise gift? enjoy your evening! takecare

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

28 Aug 08

that is great that your hubby feels better now, my husband feels a little better today, he said he will work tomorrow since he just works at home but inform everybody that he is not accepting phone calls yet and just email him whatever they need. oh cool, give my greetings to them. im sure they are very happy knowing there is a part two of their gifts - awesome! good night!

@vanities (11395)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Aug 08

so romantic and very touching!! youre lucky to have him so in love with you!( well i am too of course)the last time that i was touch and nearly say ohh how sweet! kind of expression was when we talked together of having a vacation this coming December that is just the two of us and we are going to visit our daughter in manila as well and i told him also that im planning to stay there until april 2009 since its the date where she is going to come home in davao together with her fiancee(that is from abroad and a filipino of course)in preparation of their wedding...and i expect him to say yes since i dont remember having a vacation alone with my daughter only ever since...but i was upset when he said no..and ask him why he is reluctant for me to be left behind...and he blatantly said to my face that im gonna miss you..since we are never part that long(3 to 4 months i guess)since we got married!!and i kept quiet for a minute and responded really?

and we laugh together!!

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touching situation

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@vanities (11395)

• Davao, Philippines

26 Aug 08

i wish you too(both of you) good life and more blessings

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello vanities, thanks for the smile. i cant help but smile when i read the part "really?" isnt it wonderful when you know that the man you love is loving you the same way you love him and even more? i am happy that you and your husband have such a wonderful relationship, i saw your daughter in picture and i have to say that your relationship with your husband is already tried and tested. great for you guys! i am looking forward to grow old with my man and learn the beauty of life and love together. i think the longest separation we had was 2 months, he need to fly back here to help his dad take care of his wife who is having a treatment for her cancer. i cant go coz my sister is studying then (back in china) and we have few pets at home and it is not easy to leave them behind with my sister. i know my sister is very responsible but the last time we left her for a vacation she had an accident and not a single chinese person help her out so that scares me a lot coz we dont know anybody in china and it will be hard for her to be left behind that long so i just give way and decided to stay at home. anyway, i hope your december vacation will be a wonderful fun time together. appreciate your post and the support. takeecare

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@maple_kisses (2156)

• Philippines

26 Aug 08

That's really sweet... affection seldom stays in marriage you know, especially if you've been married for years... Sigh, it's nice that his email touched your heart and had uplifted your lonely mood, I envy you... :) Anyway, nobody/nothing really "touched" me today though I had been sad all day (come to think of it, I've been sad all my life, hehehe). Well, life in general is sad for me, happiness is just too elusive and once found, it only stays for a moment... You are blesses... Good day.

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello maple_kisses, thanks for the support and for being here. your post reminds me of my way of living 23 years ago, i almost give up coz i often see people around me either happy or sad and like you said, it seems like the happiness only last for awhile. dont worry, if there is someone worthy of your love,.. he will surely come. sometimes we just have to stop chasing the love and let it rest in our hearts once it gets tired. that's how i got mind, i wish you get yours too one of these days. again, appreciate the post. have a good one!

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@blackmantra_x (2732)

• Philippines

26 Aug 08

Good day... Reading this I can't help imagine if I'm going to have the kind married life like yours. I mean you have a loving husband and you also love him as well. No money or material things could and would ever replace that, if I have to choose between material riches and what you have, I will choose what you have. I wish you, a continued happiness and love with your husband. I sincerely pray for his health and as well as yours. Good luck and God bless.

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hi blackmantra_x, thanks for being here to be part of my sadness - appreciate it! my husband and i have been through a lot in life and looking back i am happy that despite all those we are together and sharing the same love and more. my husband have given up so much for me, materials and dreams just to be with me. he knows if the situation is different i will do the same thing for him. I am happy to hear that you know what you want in life and what to pick when such time arrives. i used to wonder what my married life will be, it scares me back then but when he arrives i just knew it is him and i am happy that i trust my heart. i hope that when yours arrives you can be able to trust and know if what you are feeling is right and real. again, thanks for the support and prayer. i wish you all the best in life and love. takecare

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@berrys (864)

• Singapore

26 Aug 08

OMG you have obviously married the sweetest man in the world. I was touched just by reading your post. Even though his sick and ill he still found the time to tell you how much he loves you.... Man you are one lucky girl! and i hope he gets well soon... so then you'll have some one to clown around with you ;)

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello berrys, thanks for those wonderful words, i am very much aware how lucky i am and even though he thinks he is the lucky one i still feel that i have found the BEST one for me. it made me smile when i read the last part of your post, yeah he is my clown and though he can be a real @$s sometimes, id rather see the smarty pants than the one who is suffering right now LOL btw, i shouldnt let him read this discussion or he will think that he already achieved the sweetness i am looking for coz i often tease him to be sweet to me sometimes - i have to tease him or he will just think he is doing such a great job haha. anyway, thanks for making me smile appreciate it a lot. takecare and i wish you all the best

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@lingli_78 (12822)

• Australia

26 Aug 08

wowww... that is really sweet of your hubby to do that... my huby seldom say that kind of sweet words to me... may be i have to show this discussion to him and let him read it so that he can learn to treat me nicely as well... i wish your hubby a quick recovery and hopefully he will get well soon... you must be a very nice and supporting wife to be able to receive such a nice comment from your hubby... take care and have a nice day...

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

28 Aug 08

hello lingli, great to see you hear and thanks for your kind support. maybe your husband has his own way of showing his sweetness, my husband used to show me a different sweetness as well back then - instead of flowers he will buy me clothes and shoes and whatever when all i want is just a bunch of flowers. i wrote him an email after i had a talk to him what i feel is sweet for me. he read my email and said that he learned from it coz he have a different kind of sweetness in his perception. i guess because he used to date girls who is very formal and i am exactly the opposite LOL anyway, telling your man what you like and not let them wonder around will help them know exactly what you want and hopefully they can learn from it. as long as you guys are happy and together, even if your hubby is not that sweet it is ok coz love is all that matters. he is feeling a little better now still in bad shape but at least better than yesterday i think because he took a double dose of his medication that is why, yikes! takecare

@danishcanadian (28955)

• Canada

26 Aug 08

What a beautiful and touching thing for him to do. It's nice to be appreciated, and it's so niche that you two are able to stick together in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, and through all that other stuff. I am sure you are going to save that e-mail for the rest of your life. Thanks for telling us all about it.

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello danishcanadian, how are you? thanks for the response. yes, the email move me so much that it made me cry. he always knows how to touch my heart in a surprising way. oh, call me silly but every emails he wrote me and everything that relates with us, i have kept it since the very beginning we've met. i often tease him that he cant fool me coz i have a proof with me so he better be careful haha. it is always nice to feel appreciated and i honestly feel that it helps us a lot to understand and love each other more as time pass by. it's been 5 years but it seems like it just started. anyway, i hope that you are happy and enjoying your husband's vacation up there. takecare

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@n30wing (4767)

• Philippines

26 Aug 08

I feeling bad seeing her in her usual mode. I been living in with her for alamost two year. Early morning she woke up and having a hard to breath and telling me the pain in her head is to much to take. I don't know what to do to appease her but I just watch her all night massaging her head! This is the first time I saw her this way. I have to go to work thinking about her and promise her I be home early. She was trying to tell me something earlier. If we get married I think it will be unfair for you. I know that I am sick still trying to be strong because of you I love you! I hope you will understand me more.Love me more. I just don't wanna expect anything from now. I'm very tired! Just taking a lot of meds just to feel ok and not seeing me this way! I don't wanna go to work but I have too. that makes me feeling me hurt now. Have a nice day!

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hello, sorry to hear about your situation as well. i know it is not easy to leave and worry about her and i know it is not easy for her to feel like she is a big burden in your life. i hope she realize how much you loves her and that she is your life now., hoping such love will help her to be strong and see a better future for you both. i am sorry that i dont have the right words to say to ease both pains, i can only wish that she feels much better and there is no need for her to suffer both physically and emotionally. expectations is not easy to ignore but once you learned how to, such relationship will be a wonderful one to share and grow with. appreciate your time and i wish you both all the best. have a good one!

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@ashar123 (2357)

• India

26 Aug 08

Its really very sad to know about the condition of your husband. I hope you have consulted good doctor and giving the medicine to him on time. My prays are with you. May your husband get well and recover quickly.

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@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

hi ashar, thanks for the concern. We already have him check up with one of the best doctor i have met. we are both happy that he is diagnosed earlier (last wednesday) and had the necessary vaccine and test to make sure that the situation wont get worse. He is no longer taking medication right now coz the doctor suggested that it is best to clear his lungs. just need a lot of rest and fluids during the process (3-4 weeks). anyway, appreciate your kind support as well as the prayers. have a good one!

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@marilyn23 (295)

• Philippines

26 Aug 08

When i read your posting i feel sad about the situation u have had with your husband. I am so touched with it that your husband just trying to make u feel his love even though he is sick. Hope not to offend me about my question- What illness your husband have? If not comfortable with my question just ignore it. Try to be strong & serve him well with all your love & support. marilyn23

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@marilyn23 (295)

• Philippines

27 Aug 08

Thanks for responding my private question. Just take care very well of your husband & that sickness he has is curable in early stage. Have more patience & support to him. I can sense u are a good wife to your husband. marilyn23

@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

28 Aug 08

you're very much welcome, i dont mind it all

yes, we are happy that we found out earlier and that he agreed to see the doctor after i bugged him many times LOL he told me today that he will be back to work tomorrow. his boss informed everybody not to call him and just email him if they need something from him. i am very touched that his boss says that he can just go back to work next week and just take some more rest. he says he can work since his office is at home and can just lay if he have to. thank you so much for saying that i am a good wife as well as the friendship, i appreciate it a lot. have a good one.

@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

26 Aug 08

Hi marilyn, great to see you hear again. thanks for the response and for feeling what i am feeling

. No, it doesnt offend me at all. my husband is diagnosed with pneumonia and we're happy that it was diagnosed earlier coz if not we will end up being in the ER and not at home. Our doctor says he will feel better after 3 weeks or so, not an easy process but we are happy that he is on his way to recovery - just hard that this week is one of the hard weeks since he got sick. i have been trying to be strong for him coz he often reminds me that it is hard for him to see me sad coz he is not feeling well. im doing much better than i used to but i cant help but to show it when i read his email. anyway, i wish you all the best. takecare

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@Carolyn63 (1403)

• United States

28 Aug 08

Awwww, that is so sweet! I'm sorry he is sick and hope he feels better really soon. How blessed you are. My hubby is a bear when he is sick. Most of the men I know are bears when they are sick. They go from yelling for your help to yelling for you to leave them alone. They insist they are dying. You better give him another kiss for being such a good patient. Hugs, Carolyn

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patience with patients

@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

28 Aug 08

hello carolyn, great to see you again on my thread - appreciate it! yeah he is such a sweetheart and such a baby if he is sick. i have to make sure that he is well taken cared of and providing him everything that i think will help him feel better. he is feeling a little better now, he works a little today still not talking in the phone he was about to say something and boom, he is coughing like a wild hog LOL oh.... im glad my hubby is not a bear when he is sick, he can get frustrated easy sometimes but he dont yell. one time he did out of frustration and i just cried. i am very sensitive and i dont like being yelled at or being talked at in a high pitch. well he learned and say sorry and says it is not me but just frustrated at work (that was back in china) and that he told me i am the only person he can really talk with and not worry about being look at differently. part of it is also, i am the only one whom he can talk in his native language (english of course LOL) and it is frustrating most of the time if he have to repeat himself cabillion times at work for them to be understood. so i forgive him and i got a hug haha! anyway, i know that is a different story, i guess by now you already know how a kid in me kicks in sometimes LOL. have a good one!

@metschica25 (5399)

• United States

26 Aug 08

I am sorry your hubby is sick , and I wish him well soon ! What a sweetheart ! What a great thing for him to let you know he cares and loves you very much . Most times it is the small things that mean the most . Today me and my fiance had a very lovely day . we went to a flower garden and he took my hand and then held me . It was a very nice setting too !

@jairgirl (2877)

• United States

28 Aug 08

hello metschica25, thanks for sharing your happy day, it is great to hear someone's happy story. i appreciate your warm wishes, he is feeling a little better now NOT much but at least a little better than the past day and that makes me happy. i wish you and your fiance more happy days and a lasting love as well. congratulations in advance! takecare