would it be wrong of me?

I think that it would be wrong of you to make that decision all by yourself. If she is serious about you, it could cause her a lot of heartache for you to just end the relationship. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. See how she feels. Most mothers will choose the relationship they have with their children over a new lover, but she deserves to have a chance to help make that choice.

I think you need to sit down and share your feeling good and bad let her share her feeling good and bad. And really listen. If this is the person for you then unsaid things could be the problem. If these unsaid things are brought out in the open then you and she might understand the others fears. Good luck with this and God blessing may be on you

I think you should sit down with your partner and talk about it. Assess the situation and bring up a worts-case scenario and make the decision together. I started getting sick around the time that I met my husband. Before we decided to get really serious, I told him flat-out that I was going to get worse and if we were to stay together and possible get married in the future, then it would unfortunately his responsibility to take care of me and do most of the work around the house and that he would most likely be the sole income. He agreed to it and here we are. It's hard sometimes, but we're pretty okay.

I think it's your partner's decision as to whether she is willing and able to cope with the situation. If you want to end it for other reasons though, be honest with her.

no i dont think it would be wrong. the one thing that i would suggest you doing is telling her your reasoning for it. personaly for me i could not be with someone if i was causing that much stress on her life even if she didnt mind it. because its just not right she has enought things on her plate without having to deal with mine too. the fact that its a new relationship there shouldnt be any problems and she should understand where your coming form. i've never been in a situation like yours, but i hope that things go smooth for you. good luck on this, and i hope that my advice helped you some what.

i would sit and talk to her, and express how you are feeling and what she can wait for what to happen. ok i was looking for another word but i got lost in the progress.. sorry. but with me, i have bipolar and i also suffer from depression, and if someone who will be spend lot of time around me i tell them right off the bat, hey there might days where i might not be so nice. there i go again.. i just let them know what i might do or say.. just be straight forward..

The best advise or suggestion I can give to you after reading all of your discussion is that "Save your life if the boat is really sinking". Its better for you to talk it over and end because it is effecting many lives in certain ways you have not mentioned in your discussion but i know they must be valid reasons.

You would definately need to talk this over with your partner. This is not something that you should just decide on your own without giving your partner a chance to tell how he/she feels and if there is a way it could be worked out. Talk, talk, talk. That is what is needed in this situation. Nana

This is what I call being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don't envy you on this one. We all want to know that we have someone that will stick with us, even in bad times. This being a new relationship must be really trying, because the test is at the beginning of the relationship. Even though we want to know that a person cares, we still don't want to cause them pain. Its kind of hard to have both. I would be very honest about where I am with the illness and where it is going. I would let her know that it bothers you to see the pain that she is going thru and give her permission to change her role. She can still be a caring friend. Maybe its the "role" that is stressing her out. I wish you speedy wellness, my friend.

I really think that it would be sad if you end a relationship just because of you worrying about putting lot of stress to your partner.When you got in that relationship you actually both promise that you and your partner would be together even at times like that.Also wouldn't it be nice if you know that someone really cares for you and who's always there even at your hardest times.

What do you mean by things are about to get much worse? Anyway, I think it is not wrong to end the relationship. After all, you are only after her well being right? If she is struggling and is negatively affected with your relationship, then the best way to show her you love her is to end the relationship. You end the relationship not because you hate her but because you care about her too much that you have to sacrifice things for her to be in good condition and to be in a better situation.

Not necessarily wrong, but before you do anything you should talk to your partner. You should also talk to your doctor who may be able to recommend ways to allevieate some of the side effects

You should not have this idea,you can share your happiness and sadness with your friends and get help from them.I think this is real friends.Especially when you are in trouble,your friends can give you a hand.It will release your stress.

I agree with everyone you should talk to her and let her help make the decssion but here is the thig shes still there so obviously she doesnt feel you are bring her down and for something liek this i would ask god what he would do

I think the best thing is to talk with you spouse about your feelings, and your concerns. I don't think that you should make that decision on your own, because she might not feel that you should end your relationship. All relationships go through hardships that weigh heavily on the entire family, but how i see it is that no matter what family should stick together...no mattter how bad things get. I hope that things get better. God Bless.

I think that you should have a heart-to-heart talk with this person an see how she feels about the situation. When you really care about someone, you weather the storms together because you love each other - even though it may cause stress and hardship. It may be that she is more than willing to endure anything your illness might bring because she cares for you.

I would sit with your significant other and let them know how you are feeling and then just listen to what they are telling you. Ask them what are their feelings of this issue and how do they feel about it. I think that before any decisions are made you should discuss it with them first.

Hey there...I've had 2 kidney stones since novemeber...going on a year now...Sometimes the pain is so terrible that when the time comes to be intimate with my girlfriend, I simply can't go on with it...I'm very lucky to have a girl like her though, she understands completely...Although it has cause some stress financially, seeing as I've had to miss some work because of this, whether it's because it simply hurts so much I can't go to work, or doctor's appointments... -Mike

I would talk to her about this first. I was in a similar situation, however I was the girlfriend. He was constantly worried that his medical issues were impairing my life or causing problems for me and they never were at all. So I think you should bring your concerns to her attention and have a talk about it. I hope, whatever illness you have, that all is well and you are doing alright!

Very wrong! Sick people are still PEOPLE! They still have feelings, hopes, dreams, wishes, wants, etc. Its hard of course, but you would be so blessed for sticking through it and not being selfish and just giving up on them.