When will people get it?? Our lives are what we make of it......

I agree James. We most of the times underestimate our potential and cannot go beyond the 'perceived limitations'. But some things just cannot happen, as you have said. The sooner we realise this the better we live. Thanks for a beautiful discussion.

My pleasure! And I have appreciated your valid inputs. If discussions like these can change even ONE person's mindset then it has been well worth the effort!

Once again I am happy to see people agreeing with this mindset! And to have suceeded at going "Beyond Bux" is a compliment indeed! lol. Many of us are definitely focused more on the PERCEIVED limitations in life rather than the POTENTIAL of life and I agree that we do need to understand what is personally feasible and what is not; but as far as I am concerned, many of the limitations we do impose on ourselves do not need to be there in the first place! Maybe the term I am looking for is "Sustainable Development". I would love to fly unassisted but of course I can't! So I need to accept this fact and SOAR in other ways and areas of my life. Even if only metaphorical it can be the same thing if we truly believe..... Thanks for responding.

Am I not sharing the positive side in a sense already? lol. Yes, if many people were able to put as much effort into improving their attitudes as they put into negativity such as complaining there would be a tremendous reversal of fortunes in their lives. Positivity can become a habit just like negativity does! Thanks for responding.

Thank you for adding to your comments. It has actually been proven that people who have a posotive and happy outlook on life tend to have better health than those who don't. The mind has far more effect on our physical well being than most people realize! As for the hole analogy; a pessimist will of course complain about the work involved and the dirt getting in their eyes etc yet an optimist will admire the fact that the hole is getting bigger and deeper and will feel a sense of accomplishment! Everything can have some positive spin on it and it is up to us to make the conscientious decision which angle we wish to take.

I like to add a different perspective with my responses. I've tried to explain it to many people. They beat themselves up. Digging a hole might suck. But if someone is telling themselves it sucks every time they take soil out of the hole it will be harder and take longer. It is very true. If they work where customers are involved, they can also see and feel it. It is also harmful to the health of the complainer.

The Government angle is a very valid point. Elected peers and the Government in general provide the ideal breeding ground for blame and finger pointing. It's as if the "Government" is seen as some superior entity that has omnipotent powers over mankind! Representatives of Government are just people also for God's sake! It's interesting how people react to the ideal of maybe having to think and act for themselves. Heaven help us if we had to actually take personal responsibility for our lives. What?? You would think people were being asked to cut off a body part. Thank you for the unique perspective.

Preachy it is then! (Cue the pipe organ) lol. As you have rightfully stated; whatever it takes to get the message through and to keep that message there! Your Mother sounds like she was a very wise woman. Thank you for your insights.

You may have said this saying many times before but it is the first I have heard it! Thank you for sharing it.

My mother was a wonderfully wise person who lived throught the depression and I love to repeat her favorite saying, which I probably have too many times already.. When discussing saving your money, be it grocery shopping, cutting corners or saving in the bank, she was fond of saying, and it stuck with me, "Every little bit helps, said the old woman as she peed in the ocean".. Now that is one of my favorite life sayings.. I will never forget hearing my mom say that..

All very true! And in relation to your last point..... the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is proof of our inbuilt ability to see the best in people so why not use the same mentality when we view our lives around us? Wishing that someone did not do a certain thing is a far cry from complaining constantly about how much they annoy you too! Every single thing we do in life can have a positive approach used to address it. And no we are certainly not perfect; all I wish for is that we all at least try to be far more positive in our lives and address this mindset of negativity that creeps up on many to the point of being all consuming. Thank you for your response.

We are ALL guilty of complaining so you are certainly not alone there. But surely we can still seek advice in a more positive manner than complaining? It is simple changes like this that can make all the difference. And again, this is not easy but we at least owe it to ourselves to try. Thanks for responding.

I am glad that you agree. Thank goodness for that! We are all guilty of playing the "blame game" becasue it seems to be far easier to come up with a million and one reasons why our lives are less than perfect rather than looking within for the answers. I am not saying that to embrace an attitude using all I have put forward is EASY because it's not..... But we at least have a far better chance of personal success in life if we make the effort to embrace a positive rather than negative mindset. Thanks for your response.

LOL, I have heard the dogma joke a lot by now, so many times that I would actually consider it if I am ever to own a dog when I have my own appartment, lol. I like the lemonade saying, it might be cliche but it doesn't make it less true, thanks for your response back and the effort you make on my discussions as well! .

My pleasure! Give and ye shall receive right! There is no point me spouting off on topics like this if I don't practice what I preach!

Great name for a cat! And if you get a canine then you should call it Dogma! lol. The way your cat is towards you now is valid proof of the "you get back what you give" principle. Like the saying goes - if life gives you lemons then make lemonade! Sooooo cliche but so very true as well. There are things in life that suck for sure. But the level of how badly this ultimately affects us CAN be softened with the right attitude and approach all we do and experience in life. Thank you for your response.

As they say, every cloud has a silver lining right? It is impossible to have good thoughts and be negative at the same time! Now if only this mindset could be more widely embraced..... Thanks for responding and and keep those positive thoughts always!

Nicely said! The greatest enemy we can ultimately have comes from within and not from somewhere else. People who complain and complain repeatedly don't just harm themselves, they bring down everyone around them as well. It is OUR life and if we have had the wrong thing done by us then it is up to US to pick ourselves up and stare down whatever the problem may be. And then FIX it! Personal accountability doesn't just need to be acknowledged but actioned as well. As I have said before, it is NOT easy to be positive all the time; I just wish more people would try to be. Thanks for responding and I appreciate you putting your destiny on hold to wiegh in on this discussion! Or maybe you didn't put it on hold at all!?!

Yes your point is definitely very valid. It is in the back of most people's minds but they do not take the steps to bring it to the forefront! It just seems to be far easier for people to get all caught up in negativity and doom and gloom; yet what they don't realize is that if they were able to be more positive overall they would in turn attract even MORE positivity into their lives! I hope you are successful in adopting this mindset becasue it WILL transform your life. Thanks for responding.

As I have said in the previous responses and even in other posts before; "positive thinking" is not enough. Thinking IS just thought. It definitely needs to form the foundation but to use yet another saying - Actions DO speak louder than words. And if it was easy then where would the challenges and the opportunity for self discovery be? The issue is the very FACT that we are creatures of habit; and we all know from experience that habits are very hard to break. But even the slightest effort to break habits and force positive changes in all we do will accumulate into a way of life eventually! In my opinion, beliefs taught to us by role models in our lives should ultimately be our guide only and not the be all and and end all of who we are and how we think. It is the embracing of the collective wisdom of others that puts us in the strongest position of all to seek our OWN path and our OWN knowledge. And blaming is just soooo easy. Why look deep inside ourselves if we can shift the focus onto someone or something else? AS far as I am concerned, many people are not prepared to look deep inside themselves because they are afraid of what they might find! Life change and positivity can never be a fleeting fancy. It must be all consuming and the primary driver of our existence in order to become as normal as breathing. It is a constant journey for me personally to reach a level of comfort with this approach but I will certainly die trying!

Fair point..... And maybe I have gotten so caught up in my own words that I may have contradicted myself somehow. I guess what I am trying to say is that many people THINK about things they should be doing yet the proof is in the pudding so to speak. Things like - "I really should finish that assignment" or "I really need to stop being so impatient with my neighbour" etc. Many of us surely are guilty of constant good intentions; yet how many of us see things through? Yes everything is conceived from thought but not every thought is translated into reality. I have been guilty of this myself more times than I care to remember. If I have contradicted myself yet again then let's get to the bottom of it all! lol. Pleasure as always zigzagbuddha.

Positive thinking is absolutely enough. If you took every thought that came into your mind on any subject and simply searched for the perspective that gave you a sense of relief... a way of viewing the subject that felt even a teensy bit better than the thoughts you were having about it before, you could 'feel' your way into an entirely different experience of life. People put FAR too much emphasis on the DOING aspect, and try to change 'doingnesses' before they have changed the thoughts and beliefs that have birthed the actions to begin with. There is nothing in this world or out that did not begin as a thought. It is not possible to put too much emphasis on the power of one's thoughts and beliefs. Action - doingness - follows thought. You have said this yourself in other words and now you are saying otherwise??

I am very impressed with your mindset my friend! I am well aware of Sri Paramahansa Yogananda and have read his "Autobiography of a Guru" several times. This was a man that GOT it! His life was simple and devoid of materialistic pleasures and pursuits yet he was RICH beyond imagination! Strength comes from within; and adversity in life is nothing but a wake up call to remind us that we are human and need to embrace change. Thank you very much for your response and for sharing such a relevant quote.

Hi Andrew. I see that you are new here so welcome to mylot!. It is great to have your inputs on a subject such as this one! I am well acquainted with "The Secret" and have read it numerous times. Many of the things I am referring to are most definitely some of the core principles of this book. We can only achieve in life what we BELIEVE we can achieve; so without belief there is nothing! There are no guarantees in life, no. But if we embrace positivity the odds are certainly in our favour more so than if we don't! Thank you for your response and I hope to have the chance to engage in many more discussions with you in the future.

And the results do come! I have been amazed myself. I do not agree with all that is in this book to be honest; but it has had a tremendous effect on me overall.

Thanks James, You are right, excellent book, full of inspiration! I try to utilize the laws of the secret on a daily basis and you actually get a good feeling inside, especially when you start to notice small results!! Cheers. Andrew

We not only have choices; we are the Masters of our Destinies! Thanks for responding.

lol. As I have said earlier, preachy it is then! (Once again cue the pipe organ music!) This is far beyond positive thinking! Thinking alone is nothing but thought! So unless we are telekinetic or something we need to do a little more than just think positively! It is a way of life; action; REaction..... It is embracing a whole new attitude in every single thing we do. Lilies of the field are in control and their life is smooth because they just exist! They do not have to trouble and toil like we do; they just follow a natural pattern. Birds of the sky? They too rely more on instinct and again are not victims of the human condition like we are. We as people do not have this luxury of just BEING. We have to deal with tremendous adversities and embracing a positive lifestyle will hold us in far greater stead. And last but not least..... If I do not think I cannot grow! Yes the thinking mind can be a chaotic mind; but just maybe there is some method in my madness! Thank you for your response and a very down to earth perspective.

I should HOPE so; given your user name and all! lol.

Hey, wait a minute, wait a minute!!! That's the way I THINK .... LOL ... and as per your own words, me and my life are as I THINK. I THINK my thoughts have no power, and they have no power right now. That accounts for the recent peace in my life, I guess. Tomorrow, I might even start thinking they have a great deal of power, and they will suddenly get a lot of power. Right now, I am comfortable thinking they have no power. :) Cheers James!! Nice discussion

You are most definitely a right person to answer this question becasue all perspectives count! All you can ask is that things get a little better day after day. It does take time to change a mindset and to change behaviours but if you stick at it the rewards will be endless. It is also important to always be realistic too. Some say the glass is half empty; some say half full..... Sometimes we need to just get ourselves a smaller glass! lol. Thank you for your response and keep making the efforts and I promise you a vast improvement in your life WILL come. Every journey starts with a few small steps!

The world WOULD be a better place if more people realized this for sure! Success being a product of hard work is true also; but we need to realize that success is not limited to just career and money. Success applies to our personal development as well. The only thing that will ever hold us back in life is ourselves. Thank you for the response and for the compliment also!

We ARE in control jzjqdkd yet many of us choose to let life pass us by and consistently blame everything around us for our standing in this world. If we give, we get back. What we put in, we get out. Simple really! Call it karma, call it the Law of Attraction..... CAll it whatever you like, but it is what it is and the faster we learn to accept these things and work on them positively, the better our lives will be. Thanks for responding to the discussion.