Help my ex is trying to take my daughter

I'm very sorry to hear this. I don't think its appropriate for the father to tell your daughter things like that and make her think she is a burden on you. As long as you have a job (it doesn't have to be the best one in the world), a clean home and can properly feed and clothe your child all should be well. It is extremely hard for a father to take a child away from their mother. In some states you literally have to drag the mother into court with a needle hanging out of there arm for them to be deemed unfit. He's using the fact that he makes more money as a way to scare you. Just because he makes more money does NOT mean he will win in a custody battle. i would take the advice posted above about contacting social services to find a lawyer who will work with you and your circumstances. Also make an effort to better yourself. Make a resume, go apply for higher paying jobs, go sign up with a temp agency (they help you find jobs)..this sort of action will show good on your behalf when and if you go to court. I am not a parent, but I've known people who have been put in positions quite like yours, i hope my little bit of advice has been helpful and i wish you the best of luck!

please do not worry about it, i think it is right that even if you cannot afford a lawyer, there must be free lawyers that can assist you with the case. i dont know about what you can and can prove about the past 12 years of you taking care of your daughter. i am sure that if you are able to show love to your daughter she will not choose material things over you, if you know what i am saying. i am wishing you all the luck.

Call the DA's office, they may be able to find someone to assist you. Honestly though, it is really hard to get a custody agreement modified, even for an older child who can speak their mind unless both parties agree.

Breathe and calm down first! I have been through this. You need to contact a social service network to see if you can get help with a lawyer, and some counceling. keep your head up and be positive. There are all kinds of lawyers out there that happen to be decent people and will allow a low down payment and payment plans. Don't beat down dad in front of the young'n. Just be positive about things around her, show her quality time not quantity things as dad is doing. You are in my prayers and thoughts! I hope all goes well with you--God Bless!

Oh I feel so bad for you. I have a 14 year old daughter and I would be devasted if I didn't have her. Is there a social worker, pastor, anyone who can help you? Any free legal aid that you can get? I wish that I could help you more. Also sorry to hear about your Dad too. I will keep you in my prayers.

Hi friend,Dont lose your hopes first of all. Sometimes we have to meet such situations.God will certainly give us courage to meet such kind of situation.These difficulties will disappear soon .so dont worry.All the best.

do you have legal aid where you live? if so, go there NOW! this will help you fight it and hopefully everything will work out ok - what is in the best interest of YOUR DAUGHTER. best of luck!

this is family matter. i'm sympathy to what happen to you. just like others say you need to report your situation to local authority. 01.make report to welfare department 02.make report to police even no harm thing happen 03.ask your other family i hope you will be ok.

Look in the Yellow pages in your area for legal services, they are usually free. You need to calm down and not panic. Just because he can buy "stuff" that she needs doesn't mean a thing. It is about rules, blessings, and love. We have had a hard time making it, but my boys learned about money management, house cleaning, and making the best of everything, no matter what. We have lost our electric before and so they learned how to cook over a fire and not a grill, study by candle light, fish, camp cook. You have provided for her all of her life and tell her that it will never change. I will say prayers for you and your father.

At the age of 12, the judge will ask the child what they want, but that is not necessarily the decision that will be made. If the judge feels that the child is better where they are than moving them to the custody of the other parent, that is how he/she will rule - the decision does not rest entirely with the child. Check to see if there is a college with a law school in your area - sometimes they will take on cases for people who can't afford to pay an attorney. I believe there are also other resources of this type, but I don't know just what they are. Maybe others here can shed some light on this subject.

alpram96 get yourself a lawyer who will take you on pro bono that is free and fight for your daughter as you do not need any more problems than you already have. Chin up, things will get better if you have a smart and intelligent lawyer on your side. good luck and God bless.

You need your daughter with you now more than ever with other things you are going through. Besides legal aid you may find a child custody lawyer who may have your ex pay your lawyer fees and court costs. It is very hard to prove a Mom unfit but do not let your ex have sole custody. Even joint custody might not be too bad. Dry your tears and be strong for yourself and your daughter. Your strength will teach her valuable lessons in life. Take the high road where her father is concerned and never put him down. Rise above it all and you will be rewarded with a closeness between you and your daughter that NO ONE can take away.

i guess that ur obviously a lady. and i would say a women would have a higher chance of able to take care their child. by nature of the court, according to my experience that i heard, mother would always stand a higher chance even the men is financially capable. great luck.