myLot is just a stupid gossip column...
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
August 31, 2008 6:03pm CST
This is what s/o(B) said to me the other night...one of the few things he has said to me lately. On Friday he said "Bye" when he left, the brief arguement about computer use happened when he came home, Saturday we did not speak at all except when he yelled about the boys being loud while he was trying to sleep and I yelled back "what does it look like I'm trying to do", then today (Sunday) he called me from work simply to ask if I could sew buttons back on some pants for a woman he works with, she said she'd pay me. That was the extent of all of our conversations since Thursday....I asked him around 1pm if I could get on the computer for a little bit, at 5pm I gave up and went for groceries. I came back at 8pm and he was still on playing a game. I told him again I wanted to use it but he played his game straight through until after 2am Friday morning even after we argued about that at 1 am.
So...my point is, I've decided to leave myLot for a little while. Thanks to him I barely made payout this month and I have missed out on a lot of the happenings with my friends here. I can't deal with the stress of having to "sneak" on here while he's at work. Plus, should I make payout in September he will know I've been on. I just don't want to deal with that. He has no respect for my interests so this is just one more thing I can't do anymore.
So since today is the last day of the month, I'm taking this opportunity to bow out gracefully. Maybe we will work through things enough for me to return at a later date but this is the way it has to be for now. He will be home in 10 minutes so this is my last post. I will try to answer to this one when I can but I make no promises. I will still be able to check my e-mails once in awhile to check responses and PM but I can't come here anymore.
Bye everybody...
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21 responses
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Foxy, I so hope you get things sorted out. I hate that you are going through all of this. Take care of yourself till the time comes when things are better for you. You will be missed.
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@lostgirlz (54)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I have to say your situation is at an EXTREME unfair point. It seems like there is not a lot of respect for you. I don't mean to offend, so if I have taken your disscussion in the wrong term I appologize. Maybe if he has such an issue with sharing the computer then he should get another one for you to be able to use. There are decent ones that are not an arm, and a leg. As far as games I HATE when they get on them, and just play for hours. Mine does it at times, and he hears about it. As far as kids making noise that's what they do he needs to learn to either adjust, or hey use ear plugs if he is sleeping during the day. You should NEVER be forced to hide, or have to leave something you enjoy because the other thinks it's this or that. You're not running around, or doing anything wrong you are chatting with others no harm done in that. I wish you the best.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Personally, I think you need to consider your situation you are putting yourself into. I know I would not want to be around someone who is this controlling. You might be best especially if you are not Married to seek housing and help elsewhere, and forget about him and move on. If you are Married, you are still heading down a dangerous road, and I would consider leaving, and looking for help to be able to do so as well. When someone gets mad at something you are doing as in something like this, are too self defensive, and have no Trust, and fear of you making any $$ or friends online as well. He is able to play a Game on the Computer all night, so sounds like he has NO Self respect or thought about you no matter what you do.
Wishing you the Best... and hope somehow you can post on here with things being better for you in the future.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Hi foxy...I wouldn't let him control you like that...he should be able to share the computer...I would never give into him...He seems to be playing games and you are actually conversing with other people..I think that is much more important than the stupid games...Doesn't sound like a win-win situation...I don't want to judge him but it sounds to me like he wants what he wants and you get nothing...Not fair in my book...
I would not let any man tell me what to do...It isn't healthy for the boys to see how he treats you because that is the way they will treat girls and women as they grow up..Not a good situation..He is not setting very good examples....
I sure hope this all works out.....hugs to you..
@clp2006 (163)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I totally agree with you! Live your life for you and your children, he isn't worth it! I've been in situations like this and I got out! No man is worth trying to control you. This situation is bad and will get worse. Do what's best for your children, they will grow up with this mental abuse and it's not going to be a pretty site when they get older! You will have problems! They do not deserve this kind of life! Get out now while you still can!
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Hi there foxyfire33!
I am so sorry to hear about what happened between you and your hubby. I think there are people who just don't understand how much we love myLot. I hope one day he would realize how important is for him to understand and respect your interests. I am sure that a lot of people here will miss you. I hope that one day you can come back and share with us your wisdom. Good luck and 'till we see each other again...
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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1 Sep 08
Hi foxyfire,
What are you his slave? you should let him walk all over you like that, I'm on Mylot all the and only stop to make dinner and eat it then go back on it, my husband says I spend too much time on the computer so what I say, this is what I enjoy and I won't stop for any one, he should rule your life because he does what he wants so why can't you?
Tamara
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
1 Sep 08
What a jerk! Well, I hope you come back. Do not let him control like that. He has no right to do that to you.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I am sorry that it is causing such a commotion. I hope things straighten out and you can get back soon. It is sad that it has to come to this. Good luck with everything.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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1 Sep 08
You are the second person today I have seen leaving this site. I am rather alarmed. Much as though I can see your reasoning, I know quite a lot about domestic torture, I do think leaving mylot is a bit self-defeating. Why not just take a few days off instead?
blessed be
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Sep 08
WHAT??!!?! he can hog the computer til the wee hours playing games but you can't come in here for a couple hours to chill, socialize AND MAKE MONEY?!?! Eff that!! thats just b.s IMO....I'm sorry you have to leave us Foxy that sucks hardcore...BUT as much as i wouldnt put up with that sort of behaviour myself I realize that we all gotta do whatever we gotta do ya know...We arent you and you know whats best...SOOOO that said, take care of yourself, get back here as soon as you can dang nab it and hopefully you can get some sort of fair agreement put together with your s/o so that both of you are happy....
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
2 Sep 08
That is just so sad that he treats you like that. I am so sorry that you feel you have to leave just to prevent further arguments with him. It is disheartening when someone like that makes someone else give up a harmless pleasure just to show he's a big powerful man. You are a valued member and friend of many here at mylot. I will miss you greatly and hope you come back soon. I wish I had an empty guest house for you and your kids to come stay in.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Sep 08
[i]HI foxy,
I wish you will be able to fix things out and he will support you for your interest..I know this site is a great site for getting opinions from friends as well as venting out our feelings and problems and earning is a great bonus!Maybe your hubby is just jealous with the time you spent here, Anyway, I hope everything will turn out to be good, that is just a trial in your relationship, I know you can handle it! Take care![/i][i][/i]
@ellie333 (21016)
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1 Sep 08
Hi Foxyfire, That is a shame but if it is easier to take a break than to cause rows at home understandable. This is where I am glad I am on my own as I have no man controlling me and the time I am allowed to spend on the computer, he sounds like he is very selfish at the moment but only my opinion. See you upon your return. Ellie :D
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I have to say that I think its pretty harsh of him to horde the computer all night while you were left waiting. I have some friends that were always argueing about time on the computer until they got a second computer and networked them together.
In any case, I wish you the best and hope you can get things settled at home, that much more important then anything happening here.
Hugs, Tianna
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Sep 08
i think your s/o is a real jerk (sorry for being so harsh on my words, but i really mean it)... he can't stop you for doing what you like and control you like that... if he doesn't like to be here, it doesn't mean that you can't be here as well... and i think it is really unfair that you have to give in to him like that... i really hope that you won't leave mylot because of him... take care and have a nice day...
@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Oh foxy I was sure hoping things were looking up for you. I had started a discussion about you cause I was worried that I hadn't seen you on the lot in a few. I didn't know you and s/o were having it out over mylot. He is a bit controlling and you might want to again reevaluate your relationship unless you are comfortable with having your every move and thought controlled by him. I wish you were in a better situation. I wish you all the best my friend.
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Look at what you are allowing to be done to you. I do not think you need to be living a life where you have to sneak around just to have an interest. Is this the life you want to live? Be careful,friend, and work through things. How would he know whether you make a payout? Is he on your Pay Pal account? Sorry not to see you for awhile.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Oh no foxy! Sweet and I were just talking about you! We
were both so worried! We knew something was wrong! Listen
you can't keep this up! This is so crazy! You can't continue
living like this! You are a prisoner in your house. Foxy
my pm's don't work to send back so I can't answer you if
you send one. What I want to do is get your phone number
because I can call you when he's not around and talk to
you when it's safe. You can pm me but when I go to send
they don't work. I'm trying to get mylot to fix them.
I don't want to lose contact with you and neither does
sweet! We really care about you! Now you pm when you can
and if you want give me your phone # and tell me when is
good to call. You can always signal me or something and
I can call you back. It doesn't matter what time. You
need to be able to keep in contact with people that care!
Your friend, Opal
Send me a pm and I will try to answer & send one to sweet!
