What do you do with these people......

hi dear lazeebee yeah one comes across such people quite often . to deal with the situation you have to be very straight forward and cut them off sharply and rather obliquely. they must be told straight away about their position and the purpose and not to interfere in the show and to mind their own business . but you must be a little cautious not to hurt them . either the topic of discussion should be changed or you should excuse yourself telling that you are in ahurry or busy with some thing else or expecting some guests and surely remind them that their suggestions are useful but the time being the limitation ae may carry it over for the next meeting or something like this. i hope you will do good to manage the show better!!

Well I have experienced many people like this who just love to stick there neck or leg in other people's matters. The best way to teach them a lesson is to wait for the best time because you will have your day. On that day, equalize all previous bitter and bad experiences that person has caused for you and don't worry about that sticky person alot.

Well, this "friend" was being very rude. I would have told her she does things her way, and I do them my way. I'd offer her a seat at the bar to sit and watch and talk of other things, but not the way I was doing things and tell her so. I am a very forward person in what I say and do. I am an older lady and have learned to not let people step all over me and to do things my way. If she wanted to help, then she could do it in a quite way, or not at all. In other words not saying anything about the way you do things. I'd tell her this.

i call these poeple a pain in the butt. my friend i would tell hey shut up i am cooking not you. i do it my own way.. there is the door. and yes i do tell people just like that. and someone at work well u have to be alittle nicer, i would be like excuse i am on the phone come back, thanks cya.. yeah cant stand people like this. just yesterday at a cook out at my brother's, he was having trouble so i asked if he wanted me to take over cooking for him, he was like yeah sure. thanks. our other friend was acting the same way. what are you doing ? why you putting the bugers on top? blu blu. finally i was like hey look i know what in the hell i am doing, i can cook on the grill. so shut up and go somewhere jerk.. i am so nice ain't i ? lol so later he made more bugers, yeah he's didn't turn out too well all raw.. so of course i reminded him who rocks the grill ? can u say ME lol just be straight up with people for real

Hi lazeebee, I have a friend like that! She drives be crazy. I can't stand it! She always wants to be in on everything just like you described! If I'm doing something she needs to stick her two cents in and give her opinion about how I should do it her way. If she sees me out in the street she will look me over and critisize what I'm wearing or something. She will pick on whatever she can, my hair, clothes makeup, you name it! She comes in my house telling me what a mess it is and her house is a disaster and I have never done that to her! If I don't have something nice to say I don't say anthing! That's what I was taught! I guess some people are just stupid. I know this friend of mine is!

Yeah both times something like this happened to me. When i was cooking something and some one was like hey not like this not like that and i made that person cook the whole meal for me , m like okay you know much better so make it for me and she had to do it!! even in office once this was happening and the person yes and yes that'z best!! m like okay excuse me sir this guy right here knows more better than me so why not submit the project to him? and that project made him work continuously for 20 days! and he cried for opening their mouth So what i would call these people i would tag them with the Brand name of MOUTHOPEN ouch i cant control i have to speaky!

Remind them of the saying 'too many cooks spoil the broth' or indicate that it is a waste of the company's time for two people to be doing the same thing, so 'why not continue with what you were doing', or ask them if you can help them and stop what you are doing until they leave.

In my case, I have to debate with them. That's part of competition in a way especially in an office setting. Compete with them and stand by your decisions. If you think they have a better idea, thank them. We should just remember to do all these things in a very nice way.

People like that are so irritating... i hate it when they would just barge in and tell me what to do... and make me feel like i am an idiot... when that happens to me... i would always give them the floor... since they know best... and that would send the message that i do not appreciate what they are doing... it is always good to lend a helping hand... but they should now the fine line between helping and being too nosy...

I just cut them off, I tend to say I don't have time to learn new ways of doing things at the moment and my way is quite effective enough. Sorry I am busy at the moment. Also could you back off a little you are crowding my space and may accidentally stab you with the knife while I am cutting these in this way then do my best -smile sweetly- smile and they tend to get the point.

These people are called busy bodies, because they are so into what someone else is doing. For the first example, I would have said to her, well there are different ways this can be done, but this is the way I have always done it and I prefer to do it this way. The second case I would have said, since she was trying to sound like an expert in front of the director, I would have said, yes, but this way I am positive that it will work, and the way I am doing it I know that it will be the best way to do it and it is much logical.

hi Lazeebee i guess i am the unlucky one, i have this people around me .. all the people i meet seem to know better than me in everything i do i) my mother in law - she thinks i dont even know how to peel my onions, does she try to imply that my mother did not teach me or i am stupid .. i actually am a very good and fast cook.. i can cook for a whole lot of people, my officemates enjoy my cooking .. the only option i have now is .. i even ask her how to boil and egg, how many minutes it takes ii) office mate ~ well when i start a dicussion, and this smart people interfear, i will normally keep quiet and ask them questions, ask away until they become the center of attention, then make sure to give in your suggestions and reccommendation after theirs and is much better the technique is called "reverse psycology" although the description is different for this but the point of it is the same - put them in their place and feel uncomfortable, they will think twice before coming to your aid without proper preparation cheers

Well the way I do it I just stare at them for a few seconds and smile. Then I will go back to whatever I was doing. They usually know that they went over the gap and will go about somebody else. And no hard feelings are usually taken as they know my personality. Just my 0.2 cents.

The best way to deal with this would be to bring it up to them that it bothers you when they tell you to do things their way. I'm sure they just want to share their knowledge with you but if it becomes bothersome let them know. Not with yelling but instead in a peaceful manner.

I just politily say thank you for the advice then go back and cook the way I want to cook. I hate when people drop by unexpectedly. I am not sure why some people do things like that. I have my own ways of cooking and I stick with them. If this continues then I ignore them. I have a couple of relatives who think that they know everything when in fact they do not. I try my best to ignore them because I do not want to cause trouble in the family. I have a family member who thinks she knows mine and my husband's financial situation and keeps telling us what to do. She feels we should sell our house and move. She also told us to get rid of the Internet, our power and our phones. Boy if she was not family I would love to let her have it.