Meeting an online friend in real life

I think it is your unfounded notion and thin fears and apperehensions that if you happen to meet any of your on-line friends, you won't be comfortable and would not behave in the same manner. I assume that you would be more than comfortable if you happen to meet any of your on-line friends (depending upon your level of intimacy of your friend). As far as I am concerned, I am the same person either '0n-line' or in 'real life'. If I happen to meet any of my on-line friends, my attitude and behaviour would exactly be the same, as it is on the 'net'. It'll be difficult to assess for the other fellow - whether there is any slightest difference between my 'on-line' attitude/behaviour and in my real persona. I'll surely behave in the same manner, as I behave here and it will be a great fun meeting someone, whom I know through Mylot or through any other site. Again, at the cost of repeating, I'll say that I'll meet that person only with whom I could establish 'good rapport' on-line.

Wow what a discussion well i agree with u a lot, i dont think so u can be THAT open in real life sas u r on NEt So i would say, That Friends think alike, so i am almost like U And i have not met my online friend even who lived in Pakistan, And not sure how would be first meerting i can only comment after first meeting Ok

i am also quite shy and do not open up so easily.i talk a lot online but i am not quite keen on meeting online friends.i have not met any of my online friends but theres a chance i might do so in near future.

yeh i have met afew friends whom i had a chat with n talked over the phone..i am a bit hesistant firstly but later the raapo builds the same as i share it on the net..on chats or talks.

I am in the dance business so belong to sites that are dance related. I have met several people in the dance business, from all over. It's cool to get to know people on line and then meet them. My sister takes many cruises with her husband and she goes on cruise message boards. She has made friends on there and they cruise together. The internet can be fun and dangerous so I am always cautious to get solid information on people before meeting them. I found that I had the same ease of talking with them in person as on line.

what you see is what you get! that's me. if i'm bubbly or funny online, expect that i'm more in real! lol i'm the joker in our family & circle of friends hehehe.. my friends told me that there's no dull moments when they are with me & i'm very flattered for that coz they can appreciate me well i experienced meeting chatmates/textmates in real, we became friends & one of them is my ex bf lol don't ask m what happened coz we didn't end well..

I am an introvert, too! I am very choosy in making friends particularly to men. I have also some friends online and those who have been known to me for quite some times, I considered them as my quality friends since they already knew my attitude, character, behavior much more my stands. If any of them would meet me in real life, what they have known to my person while we were online, it would be the same, the only difference is that, you would now see him personally and physically with mixed emotions, feared that he is not the person that meets your standards, vice versa.

Hi Mayka123, I have been lucky enough to meet two of my real life friends here from myLot and I and they were exactly as we would be online and he meetings were wonderful. I truly feel blessed in having been able to meet these people for real. I guess I was a little more reserved for the first few minutes but was immediately at ease and comfortable and the conversation just flowed as it would on here. I do understand though that some people who are quite shy may find it difficult to meet people for the first time, but I would recommend if you can as I think you will find it an amazing experience. However, I would suggest to meet in a public place initally as some people online are not what they seem but I think myLot is different from some other social sites. Ellie :D

I don't know if I am comfortable progressing with online relationships enough tomeet personally. For now, I prefer to keep the online aspect of my life separate from my actual personal life.

Like you I find it hard to make friends easily, but also I have come to realise that I am a loner when it comes to friends. Although when alone I get the odd pangs of boredom and loneliness if I have someone with me I find I get irritated and want to be alone!! So I guess that having friends online is just a lot easier than in my day to day life because I can be on my own but still have a chat if I need too. If that makes sense!

In real live we talk to friend directly, we can see his/her eyes, her act , any thing we can see. It can make our emotion became flare up. that's way, talk to online friends more confortable than talk with offline friends. In online friends, we do not see his/her action , except you talk with web camera.

No I don't believe in the online friends and never tried it so I am sorry to say no. But I listened lots of gossips from my friend and other too. Some has been married too. But I think there is lack of understanding between them.

hi Mayka,I was same as you before,after my friends treated me bad and breaked-up w/ my ex-bf i been very far to make new friends again.I dont want to go out.I sit alway infront of computer chatting.I meet a lot of friends on net infact i meet my man also in net.I am very comfortable chatting and telling everything to him.We started as friend and we chat almost 8 to 12 a days.I owned internet caffe in philippines so my life is on computer. He visited me there 2003 he stayed in my apartment for 3 months.I though i am gonna be shy at him but i did'nt. We talked the same as we talking on net.He knows everything about me and i know everything about him.i been almost 5 years w/ my ex-bf and i chatted w/ him for almost 4 months and i been more comfortable w/ him than my ex. When he told me that he is coming in Philippines to visit me.i feel like a kinda shy and dont meet him in personal.But i was to worried that if i am not going to meet him that it will be my responsible because his parents know that he will come to see me and i am worried that there is something terrible happen to him.So i decided to meet him anyway.. And now we are together w/ almost 6 years already. Have a nice day!tc che

I think if they are the same as they are online, meaning their minds, that would be the same. I am married to one, I met him an year ago in Second Life and today we are married. Another friend from Netherlands is coming to visit, also met him in Second Life!

Hey, Ur condition is quite similar to mine. I love to chat and make friends online and would love to meet them in real life too. But it often happens that i find it more easy to express myself and talk comfortable online with friends rather than talking face to face. It takes me time initially to get versed with the situation but then i feel comfortable talking face to face as well. I have had some good experiences in meeting some of my online friends. I have met 4 online friends in real life, the first one was a evry bitter experience. I was too shy to open up. And moreover the girl came over with 3 of her friends. So could you imagine my situation? a guy among 4 girls. i went almost speechless. The second time was a better experience but it almost ended up with the girl doing most of the talking. But i am still in touch with this girl and i feel comfortable tlaking to her on phone.Rest of the times, i will say it went better with time. I do find it diffcult to act the same way as i use to do while chatting online, but i try to improve the relationship as it progresses. But i am hopefully looking to meet more of my online friends.

[i]Hello mayka123, I am also an introvert in real life. It's a bit different in real and on the internet. I am quiet guy and don't talk much in real life. I have so many thing in my mind and I don't usually say them alound in real life. I am more of a listener than a talker in real life. Online it's a bit different because you have to say something to communicate and so I can open up what's inside me that I don't usually just blurt out when I am when somebody. I think you will be fine meeting someone online. You have open up already and face to face meeting will not be a problem. More or less you know each other well and can understand each other when you meet. The important thing is you already made the first step online and meeting in real life is the next step. Regards. [/i]

I'm fairly insular too, mayka - but there are some online friends I'd love to meet one day! I feel as if I know one in particular very well already, and it would be lovely to sit down with her in the flesh and share coffee and cakes and have a good old laugh together. Hopefully one day it will happen!

I've met quite a few. I'm myself on line. I'm just a middle aged American transplanted cat lover. Nothing that unusual, nothing to hide. I'm me.

I always frank and open type, speaks faster before i stop thinking. I too chat with more friends online but only known friend who are very true and loyal in making friendship..but here is the first time in mylot i am chatting with unknown but the responses makes to feel great about them... I am sure will meet somebody here in my life...I always dream and I will make it happen... Can we meet in real life....I am ok! What you say my friend ! (I have not planned to ask like this when i started typing but it made me so not in the intention of pulling you but really i felt)

meeting online friends in real life...... Hey Mayka, no I have not met any online friends in real life but I do enjoy talking online to friends. In real life I'm not really shy and I enjoy talking to people there too. But online it seems that we can reveal more and feel somewhat safe in what we choose to say to our online friends. thanks for posting this discussion, have a great day friend! Please add me as a friend.Thanks in advance.