Why can't girls and guys be friends?

I have tons of guy friends and my fiance is totally cool with that. As I told him at the beginning I have many man guy friends. More guy friends than girl friends as I get along better with the guys. I always have and I always will. I think your husband is jealous and you should be talking to him about this. That is not a way to go through a relationship let alone a marriage if you have to lie to him about who you are talking to. It starts off with a little lie like that and will go into something bigger. Just be honest with him and things should be ok. Talk to him about this and tell him that women can be friends with men and men can be friends with women if they are in a relationship, engaged or married. It is how this world is. And being jealous and lying about who you talk or text to isn't going to change that. I am happy that I have someone who loves that I have tons of guy friends and I am a total tomboy which he loves even more. Don't get me wrong I can totally be the girly girl as well.

Yes, girls and guys are be friend. I personally know such friendship and respects that friendship. It is between a lady and my husband. Each of them have friendship since their high school life. The interesting fact is that the lady's family was very conservative. I heard that boys of the class were not allowed to the house of the lady. But there was one, who had the permission and it was my husband. After high school they got admission to college and then university. And their friendship became more solid. They have no physical relation. But deep feelings for each other. Many of the fellows have doubt. But they have not bothered it. The lady married a engineer and my husband was in the invitee. Lady's husband became my husband's friend. Many times they call each other over telephone. They have lot of conversation. I know it. Her husband and boys and girls also know it. But all of them love and respect my husband. Inspite of our living in different place their friendship have not broken. I astonished, how it is possible? But it is possible. There were so many occasion when her husband/son/ daughter phoned my husband, asking for suggestion and also complained against the lady and my husband responded quickly. One of the dialogue of my husband," Well, if you think it is good, it will make your family happy, you can do it. But I afraid." Do you know that the lady is a Professor in profession. It is friendship.

oh.. i'm really sorry to hear that but he should not be thinking like that. he should allow you to be friends with anybody, but just to not make him worry, if what you are texting is not really important, then you can just not reply to the text message. you should make sure that your making friends with a guy will not affect the harmonious relationship that you have with your boyfriend. and if you can make him understand little by little that it's just plain friendship that you have with your friend that he should not worry about anything, then that would be very great.

I have never had this problem in any of my relationships. If someone can't trust me then I'm not with them. I'm a bartender and have both male and female friends. I don't hide my male friends because I have nothing to hide and if I didn't share them with my partner he would think I did have something to hide. I have no problem with my partner having female friends either. It's all about trust and if you don't have that, you don't have anything. A stable relationship is built on trust.

i think its best if you talk about it and be open with each other. be friends with each other's friends. it's easier to know what your husband is doing or with who he's with when you can contact his friends too.

i think its not good for you to be overly paranoid about your partner having guy/girl friends. its a matter of trust, i think :)

yes pretty much of a problem for me..i cant be anywhere near a guy it will be a disaster on my end...when someone calls and if its a guy i had to lie as well...while on text i had to lie as well..if i go out with friends i shouldn't mention there are guys with the group..if its an officemate a big no no still..i do not know what the heck is wrong with having a guy friend..his friends as well he cannot trust..so i stay out of guys to stay out of trouble..

thanks for sharing.. i am still young and it would be a reminder to me when i get married.. thanks!

because boys are male and girls are female .... lol ....

its okay but not exceed the limit, and when it exceeds the limit its surely when the other tells you not to talk to other guy friends of yours! TRY TO UNDERSRTAND THIS LOGIC no one's the same!

Yes guys can be friends with girls.I have so many friends that are girls.One of my best friend is a girl and it's not matter if you are friends as long as you enjoyed your friendship.

Very very strong understanding required specially in Asian countries. Practically it it is not easy .. need too much understanding & if u have friendship it should be limit in text even.

Oh that's not good at all. Common guys and gals must be able to talk with each other. Whats the big deal in that. Just because your talking to your friend in no sense that means your cheating on your husband. That's not good the way he thinks about things. Practically such things happen when people get too possessive about things. I have seen this happen before too. My friend and his girlfriend. He used to keep asking his girlfriend what this boy was talking to you? Why so and so called you up? What did they want? Where did you go today? You went with any boys? etc etc. That really sounded stupid. One day I told him see buddy give your girlfriend some space too. Don't keep her locked up on all 4 sides else later on she will have a big problem in socializing with others. Then he understood his fault and tried to change. Also if your husband really trust you and loves you a lot I really feel he shouldn't be doing all such things. I hope he changes his attitude towards such things and things get a lot better for you.

guy wanna f*** woman and never allowed his woman f*** another man.all of woman must belong to man,man not

No, my first husband always had lots of female friends. He even trained lady truck drivers when he was a driving trainer. I trusted him, because if he wanted to cheat he would have, regardless of what I did. I had male friends, as well as female friends, when he was gone. I was the one who would put up barriers when they tried to be too close. I was widowed. I am remarried. I have no trouble with my hubby talking to women, and he trusts me. I do not enjoy talking on the phone, I do not text. My friends are online, but it is no problem, anyway. I am not a cheater and he knows it.

Yes I do! My hubby is the same, everytime I have started talking to anyone who is male as a friend he has become jealous about it and in the end I just sever the relationship because I just cannot be bothered with the aggro. Yet its OK for him to have girls as friends and those same girls text him too, yet it does not bother me because if they are only friends then it is not a problem for me, so why he cannot be the same I have not got a clue!

Men and woman can be friends. I have 2 men best friends and we never fallen out or any think.But the problem is in my boyfriend he is so jealous.If he would know I'm mates with them.But I think men and woman can be great friends.

yes its correct we should be able to but our hubbys dont feel that way and some times it just easier to say okay than to argue

My husband use to be such the jelouse type. It was very difficult for a while. Most of my life it's been easier for me to make friends with guys then girls. Then when I joined the navy, he really had to learn to get over it or else. Guys out number girls and if I wanted to stay sane while underway I needed friends. He finally did realize I was just friends with a few guys on the ship and that I wasn't going to leave him. Life has been much easier since then, but it took many years for him to lighten up. If he didn't change though, I would have left him, because it's too hard to live that way.

not true in all cases. i quite have a lot of guy friends. i guess all you have to do is introduce them well and make them get along. i think that will solve the issues.