How do you explain to your kids when they caught you tell lies?

woww... this is really tricky... i believe that parents should be a role model for their kids and they shouldn't see you lying as they will follow your footsteps in the future... but if unfortunately my kids should caught me lying in the future, i will just explain to them and hopefully they will understand... better still, i hope i will never been caught lying at all in front of anybody... take care and have a nice day...

I just think that kids are more sensitive to people's behaviour and know when and how they tell lies, are worried, ..... After a certain time, they just get older and lose this talent because... In fact I don't know why. Well kids are surely better than adults on some things ! Is it true that after a certain age, you forget what you've done before that age ? (it only happens once, after X years old (maybe 3 i think))

Gee this is a hard question. I think the best thing to do is just not tell lies in any sense of the word. That can be pretty hard but not impossible. There is a reason they say honesty is the best policy.

[i]Hi Bebs, that is indeed hard! Hmmm...I have no kids and will try my best not to tell a lie because for sure I will always instill the value of "honesty" to them! ANyway, You remind me of a friend who was telling us in front of her kids that her eldest wanted to color her hair and wants it to be blond, while she was still in the middle of her statement, her daughter interrupted that it was her idea to do it, not her! I can see the mother blushing after that! Kids are smart and will never tell a lie, So, I believed it was a lesson for her to be true to her words all the time! LOL![/i]

human as we are, kids too are prawn to commit mistakes. just as adults are not perfect, the more that it is applicable for kids. the only difference is they don't know what they are doing. they can't distinguish good from bad. so as adult, especially the caretakers and the parents, then all we have to do is to guide them, supervise them and made them aware of the mistakes that they've been doin. for instance, if we caught them tell lies, our major task is to explain it to them. that is, telling lies is not good; it's an evil act. and tell them that they should/ must not do it again. oral reprimand is just enough. i am not into corporal punishment. it has no good things to be realized by children.. of course, as adults we are said to be the model. then, we should be a good model to them. this means, that we should practice what we preach... remember, that one form of learning is by emulating. children tend to imitate what adults are doing. so if we are really sincere with our advocacy to make them honest individuals, being honest should be the first thnings first for adult caretakers.../

the topic is interesting for me ,for i want to know what we should do at this situation. i have not child now ,but i can image the situation .child can understand why you lie ,they only know what is yes ,and what is wrong ,they do not know ,there is something that seems wrong but is right in fact or something that seems right but it is wrong.how to explain this to the children.if told them like this,then will they be honest still?

We are supposed to be a good example to our children. How can we tell them "it's not good to lie, or do not lie, it is bad", when we are doing it ourselves. That is a tough situation if we will look deeper. It's a good thing that the father explained to the kid immediately. But I must say there should never be any justification why a lie was told.It would be better to apologize for the child, admit the mistake and tell the child he will not do it again. Sometimes we called it white lies anyway so that is okay. But there is no such thing as white or black lies. All lies are the same. Of course I would not want to raise a liar so I have always been particular with that. But during light moment, at one time I made a lie in the form of a joke and my son caught me. "Oh Mommy, you are lying! Liars go to hell," I realized my mistake and immediately I admitted my guilt. "Sorry, son yes, I did, I should not have said that even if I was only joking, forgive me".

1st of all you should never let your kid catch you in a lie that just makes everything youve tried to teach them a lie as unfourtnaly we all do it such as you and your spouse arguing over bills and tehy want to know what is going on well you say nothing i dont consider taht a lie i consider that protecting so its really hard to say how to explain other than try your best not to let them hear you

You can explain about how you have to tell white lies, like, "Don't tell grandma she looks like she gained weight" and such. I'm not sure about other lies, but I figured out what lies are "ok" and which are not. If you're caught in a lie you can tell the kid "It's okay once in a while to be sneaky" and put your finger to your lips and say it's your little secret.