I’ll file a complaint! How could you do this to my son!

@djoyce71 (2511)
Philippines
September 2, 2008 6:49am CST
School case #2: A rich mother complained because her son didn’t graduate in high school. This mother transferred her son to a university, because of problems in the previous school. Upon enrollment, they were oriented about the rules and regulations set forth by the school. They even signed the “Agreement.” On the first month of school, this student made a lot of violations. He came to school arrogantly wearing earrings and rubber shoes, unbuttoned polo (when he knows it was not allowed). He was always tardy, inattentive, a lot of times slept in classes and acted as if he was a visitor in the class. The adviser always talked to this kid, but what he did was just nod and nod when advised. Still, he did the same violations. It seemed as if he didn't like to listen and care about the advises that were given to him. As much as the adviser wanted to tell him to stop schooling first and think, it was not allowed to encourage. He had a lot of red marks in the first grading period. There was a time, when the adviser came to their house, but only the grandfather was home and the parents were out.The adviser and the guidance counselor sent a letter to the parents to come and talk about the behavior and academic performance of their child, but they did not come for the reason: They were so busy and they have no time to come to school. Again, only the grandfather faced. Came distribution of report cards, the parents, still, did not come, until the last distribution of cards. Only the grandfather. Students were deliberated at the end of the school year and this student was among the three students who were not included in the list of graduating students for the batch. The mother became hysterical when she learned that his son did not graduate. She blamed all teachers and the school. She even threatened the school by saying that she will file a complaint against the school to the Department of Education. What can you say about this case? Was the school to blame why her son did not graduate? Should parents consider schools as reformatory schools?
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
the school is definitely not to blame... they had done everything they can to look after this child... they had council him and went as far as visiting his house and his parents are not there... they sent letters asking the parents to come to the school and discuss his academic performance... but they didn't comply... so it is the parents' fault for being so busy if their son did not graduate at the end... what i don't understand is, how can someone who can't even pass high school can go to uni??? that's a bit of mystery for me... take care and have a nice day...
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@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
this parents are so arrogant to act that way,firstly they know that their son has an attitude problem.I should say parents have some mistakes they don't mind the welfare of his kid.Schools and parents are partners to mold students.We should not rely on school authorities.Parents also should be a responsible for the welfare of the.The parents are to be blamed if their child could not graduate from high school.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
i dont think this is a fault of the school, for one there have been documents about his failing marks and in all essence, even if the mother brings this case to the court, if the proof is very clear that he did not meet the standards of the school, then he is not to be allowed to graduate.
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• Philippines
2 Sep 08
That's one loophole that most don't consider. Educating somebody requires the parents to participate in their learning. As what you've stated in your paragraph, it seemed that the school tried its best to do its job while the parents were negligent enough to make their child flank. This is an example of a child who is suffering from parental deprivation. No one can ever get to him except his parents.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
12 Sep 08
The teacher should inform the mother before hand about the performance of her child so she won't be shock at the end that her son could not be able to graduate.If the parents and the teachers work together for the child it should not be happened.Teachers act as parents in school so if they get problems among their students they should contact their parents to talk about the problema and work together to fix it.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 08
What makes me wonder is how someone who even didn't pass the high school cound enter the university? I think the mom just have the blinded love towards the son, I mean, how could she not see that her son is just not capable? It's not the school to blame. And the parents would definitely lose if she actually file this to the Department
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
I think that it's also the fault of the parents why they allowed their kid to be like that. They should understand that they should always be there for their kids to guide them so that they would have a good future. I don't think the school was to blame because if the kid just followed the rules and if the parents have guided him accordingly then he would have graduated right? You can't blame the school because you can never teach someone who doesn't really want to learn and who doesn't show respect.
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@ans_nagar (105)
• India
3 Sep 08
i think the school sshould ask the mother to go public and tell everyone how much does she know about the progress of her child , and even ask her how many times did she visited any teacher of her son throughout the year,...
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@razor123 (979)
• India
3 Sep 08
Its not at all the fault of the school. Its the kid and parents fault if all this has happened. The child was told several times and he didn't bother to listen up so that's what he got in return. I think its fair and square. All such things happen when parents have no time at all for their children. The children do the wrong and when they are not corrected at a young age they continue doing the wrong. They have the "Who Cares if our parents are not bothered" kind of approach towards things. And this is the reason they never tend to improve even after being told several times. Filing a complaint won't do anything as the parents are in the wrong according to the school. Filing a complaint is just like saying Son continue doing the bad. We support you with all this keep going ahead. How dumb of the parents seriously!!!
@fondant (16)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Reading this, i would firstly blame the parent way of raising the child. Don't you think she should have been more involved with her child's academic standing considering that this was the 2nd time around? Parents should always check with the school and teachers on their child's performance so as not to create any difficulties at the end of the school year. This parent should have kept an eye on her child and should have kept in touch with the school regarding her childs performance.