I was held at knife point.. i thought i'd be dead...

My deepest sympathy, dearie. It reminds me alot of my experiences, I was never mugged...but I've had to face down someone with a hammer. They didn't want anything but my life, at the time...so I had no choice but to fight back, and I DID get hurt...but he never did anything again. Obviously, this guy was someone I knew...family, actually. I knew I could die. He could've bashed my head in and I wouldn't be here today. I was scared, I was shaking with adrenaline for hours after it...and I nearly killed him as well. I've run for my life, and I've fought for my life before...stuff like this will always stay with a person. It's just, when life goes after you like this, you have a choice: You can either be a victim or you can be a fighter. I'd recommend learning how to defend yourself, at the very least, learning how to take away a weapon from an attacker. If you feel more confident about being able to take care of any future problems, you'll be able to feel safer. This is what I did. I knew a bit before, and I've kinda a natural inclination toward fighting...but since then, I've practiced with staves, swords, knives...and I try to keep myself fit and educate myself on what would be stupid to do in any given dangerous situation. And since then I've faced stalkers, I've walked late alone at night -- just the bitty thing that I am. In a dangerous world, you have to be somewhat of a dangerous creature yourself. Me? I don't believe in taking chances that I'm not prepared to handle or deal with the consequences. Life is one huge chance. So...the key is, after surviving things like this, to try to be as prepared as you possibly can be...and then afterwards to try to let yourself feel safe. Because while danger is definitely all around us, it's not necessarily waiting to get you 24/7. It's just a matter of knowing your odds. I hope this helps, dearie. A little caution, fear, and paranoia is good for a person...but I hope you won't let it control your life for too long, because that's no way to live. That's surviving just to be consumed by that moment for the rest of your life, and that's not what you deserve. You deserve better.

i sure am glad you are o.k. you are very blessed. years ago i was working in a convenience store & a guy came in & robbed at gunpoint. he told me to turn around & i thought he would shoot me. i know how u feel. it will get better. i very seldom ever think about it now. hope u get to that point soon. don't let it control your life. good luck.

Oh that was so frightening! I'm happy you are safe and I hope you can get over the trauma. I've not been through that kind of incident ever. I thank God for it. How come you were out of the house at 2 am? Are you working in a call center? Next time be careful my dear and don't forget to pray before and after you leave the house. If possible don't walk alone. Always choose the place where there are some people walking with you. But the time was too early, I hope you can avoid being out during those wee hours if your work will permit you. Better yet, sleep first in your office then go out when it is already safe.

I hope you'll be okay, just forget about this bad experiences, don't discuss it anymore if you really want to forget it .... i once had this kind of experience, i'm not afraid, well maybe it's a little bit _

Oh my God I understand that must have been very traumatic experience:( And I understand that you must have been absolutely terrified!! I think you should get an assault alarm?Maybe you should feel more safe if you had one?Have you talked to someone about this? I think it's really important that you do because it cannot be fun to always feel frightened..:( I'm really sorry it happened to you,it never heppened to me I'm lucky.

Oh my dear friend. Well you are lucky you got out unharmed. I Havent tried something like that but my friend did me and him is being bullied at school and this is what happened: After me and my friend came back from the school cafeteria to eat. One of those who bullies hit him hard but my friend didnt respond to that. After that another one takes a slice of cheese from him now that was ok but after that he also hitted him hard and now that got on hes nerve. So he got mad at him and started to attack. The fight was short but it didnt hurted that much on him but my friend ws furious. Well anyway in the next recess one of the bullies really. Kind of spitted alot in his bottle. And after he drink from he is told that someone spitted in it and that was it for him and he was really angry now. He hitted him so hard in his face he started crying and it semmed like he couldnt take that. And the bully takes a knife and start slashing at him. Luckily a teacher came by and stopped the whole thing without anyone getting a serious damage. Well i was kinda scarred since i could see the seriousness in the bullies eyes saying: That Motherf**ker is gonna die. But i think my friend was more terrified than i was but the next day they appologised to each other and hopefully nothing like that is gonna happen again.

that is really scary... i'm glad that you are alright and nothing happened to you... i will also give my bag willingly to him if i were in that situation... we can replace material things but we only have one life... so i won't even give it a second thought... that's why i never want to go out at night by myself... i always ask my hubby to accompany me... i am just too scared of darkness... take care and have a nice day...

[i]Hi austere, that is very scary! very scary! ANyway, it's not really good to be roaming around during night time and if ever your work demands for that, just make sure you have someone who can pick you up! I never experienced that and I might collapsed! ANyway, I heard a lot of people who tried to save their bag and they were killed really! ANyway, just pray a lot that you will totally forget that bad moment! A friend of my cousin also shared to me before about this, he was working at the call center and he was walking like 2 am when a group of people approached him and asked him about his wallet and just walk normally as if nothing happens and then after that, they told him to remove his shoes! He has no money so he was walking all the way home barefooted![/i]

I'm truly sorry that this had to happen to you. I am very angry when ladies are made to go through stuffs like this. I hate robbers and thieves and bad guys in general doing bad things to ladies and in fact, I had beaten up a guy before because I was so angry but he got away. I think the guy really deserved a beating and did you ever report it to the police...? Don't go the same route again and next time use a public transport until you reach home or just take a cab till your living place.

As someone who has been around criminals for years i've seen this happen loads of times. It's quite common and very easy to do. Some criminals don't even have any intention of using their weapon because they know that no one's gonna take that chance. My advice to you is to take a martial arts class. Here are my suggestions.... Jeet Kune Do - It was invented by Bruce Lee. Need I say more? Ninjutsu - Joining the Bujinkan would be good. There's some dispute over whether it's legitimate Ninjutsu or not, but it's highly effective. People who do it well look like they're hardly moving at all. Systema - Russian martial art invented sometime around the 10th century. It was invented so that villagers could have some easy to learn that felt natural that would help them fight off invaders from other countries. It also deals a lot with improvised weapons and knife fighting. Krav Maga - Deadly martial art. Used by Israeli special forces, I think. As for your question.... Yes. There have been a couple times. Nothing recent. Last time was a couple years ago on Halloween. It was around 10 PM and I decided I was gonna walk up to the store to get some bagels and cream cheese. On the way up there I was jumped by some people wearing those screamer masks (or whatever they're called). Three of them held me down while the fourth cut on my face and told me it was punishment for being white (obviously I don't live in the best area of town). Thankfully some people came around the corner, saw what they were doing, and ran them off. I asked a couple friends to keep their ears open and let me know if they found out who did it, but they never found out.

hi dear austere , well there are events more gruelling and cruel in nature which happen to you. i am reminded of early days!!.but one thing this idea never came to my mind that it is going to be my last day, rather i felt that i have an opportunity to prove my mettle!!

OMG! im very sorry to read thats such an awful thing that happened to you, but im glad to read your ok iv never had anything that scary happen to me before, but i hope that you feel better and i hope you can put the experience behind you some day soon.

I am sorry to hear about your loss austere. Although we should be glad that you did not get hurt. You absolutely did the right thing then. There is nothing more important than your safety. If you are still experiencing trauma, you may consider visiting a psychologist. There's nothing shameful about this. The psychologist will be able to assess your situation and help you overcome your fear. I hope that helped, let me know how it goes, ok?

It was a traumatic experience in your part I just hope that you have recover from it already. Such experience will marked the memories forever and maybe you need to take a break and find something which can make you more relax and try to forget what happen in that grueling day.

Woah

[i]That was a scary experience.It's good that the only thing that bad guy did was get your bag.There are some stories that they would also harass the girl like rape or something.Thank God that you are still alive and wasn't harmed. I never had a experience like that and I don't want that to happen to me.That's why I chose my 6am-3pm schedule (as a call center agent)even if the salary is not that good bec. there's no night differential...I don't care if my salary is not that high but I am sure that I will be safe bec. a lot of people will in the street during that time.I used to have a 3am sched and I had to leave the house 2:15 but since my boyfriend does not work in our office anymore I chose a morning shift just to avoid that kind of scenario that you experienced.Good decision not to go home on wee hours...make sure that if you are going home late...you are accompanied by a friend.Take care oweiz.[/i]

My gosh~! That was a really bad experience you must have! I had never had such an experience before in my life, and I sure hope that I would never have! Where are you stayin? It sounds so dangerous in your estate! Luckily you are alright and that you came out of this situation relatively unscattered physically. Don't these robbers have their active 4 limbs? Why can't they go out and work just like everybody else and get money the honest way! Is there really a need for them to rob others of their hard earned money? I just don't understand their mentality! I'm so glad that you are unhurt and that you had done the smart thing by giving up your bag instead of resisting them. Afterall, your life is still more precious than money right!? Money once gone can still be earned, a life once lost can never be found back again! Take care my friend, and May the god bless you! Happy Mylotting!