Do you go back and thank someone when they choose you as a best response?

@James72 (26790)
Australia
September 3, 2008 7:35am CST
I was just realizing that I always thank people for responding to my discussions but rarely go back and thank someone for choosing me as their best response! So for everyone that has ever awarded me with a best response. THANK YOU! What about you? Do you make the effort to thank someone for choosing you as best response or not?
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• Singapore
3 Sep 08
I'm quite guilty of not thanking the person who awarded me with the best response. I think I should do that from now on. Wanna give me best response, I will start with you James
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
lol. It's a tad early yet SydneyHazelton! But no harm in asking right? Thanks for responding.
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3 Nov 08
I am guilty like you in not saying thankyou for a best response. I always try to go through the resposes to my discussions every week or so and thank every one but I am always so surprised when I get a best response that I forget to thank them. So if anyone has given me a best response and are reading this. I apologise for not thanking them. I will do so in future.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
Ooooh! A MASS thank you and I get to bear witness! Sometimes we can get all caught up in mylotting and overlook best response awards every now and then so I don't think you're alone here wanderer.
• India
3 Sep 08
i would defenitely thank them for marking me as best response.it a good thing that our thoughts are read and recognised by others .this is one of the best thing in mylot .i think u will make me to THANK U.hope u would understand...
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
I understand perfectly well! It is a good habit to develop and we should all be grateful if we are acknowledged by someone else for our contribution to their posts. Thanks for responding.
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
of course! as always! it's always an honor for me to be chose as the best response, so I always get back to them and thank them.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
Good for you! It seems that you are far more disciplined than most of us then! Thanks for responding.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 08
thank you!
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• United States
3 Sep 08
I really enjoy getting a BR... so much that I used to go back and thank everyone who gave me one. I no longer do that, especially if the discussion is very old that I am receiving it in. If it is a more recent discussion, and there is something else I can add to it, then absolutely I express my appreciation!!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
lol. Better late than never! I still think your username is clever so it was a BR well placed as far as I am concerned. Once again I will NOT be thanking you for your response because we do know how you feel about this.....
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• United States
3 Sep 08
Hehehehe, well, if I ever start another discussion and you get the BR in it you don't need to thank me for that either. I think that really everybody knows how much anybody else appreciates getting one!
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• United States
3 Sep 08
PS: Thanks for the username BR! I'm sure you can imagine how much I love to get them! Hahahaha....
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
3 Sep 08
I go back and thank the people that give me a best response. I dont go through every discussion i post and thank everyone for responding as...in the guidelines it says not to do that and I'd had to have things deleted for doing so!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
I think you will find that the guidelines state that you should not JUST say thank you as a reply to a response. I never do that but I do acknowledge what has been said, discuss some more on the point made if it is appropriate and THEN say thank you. Much the same as I am doing now. There is no issue with doing this and if anything it inspires further discussion! Thanks for responding.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
Yes I don't really like to see that either. It is far better to at least make a comment on what has been said as well. Good night and I hope to see you in more discussions!
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
3 Sep 08
I understand thats what the guidelines say..which is probably why it just drives me when i see a discussion posted then every response from the original poster is "thank you" or "thanks for sharing".
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I do. Although until now, I'm still not sure how to do it best. Should I thank the person privately? Or should I post my gratitude in the same discussion where I got the BR? Either way, I just make sure that I give them my thanks.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
I think I will be looking to thank them in the discussion itself rather than through a private message. They award me a best response so I will say thank you in their discussion itself and bump their discussion further up the ladder in gratitude so more people see it and they might get even more responses! lol. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
3 Sep 08
That makes sense. Thanks!
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
3 Sep 08
I must say a little shamefully and humbly that i am sort of in the same boat as you. There have been occassions that i have thanked, but more often have not. You started a discussion to thank them, I'll make sure i start doing it from now. Thanks for reminding me James.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
My pleasure. The new more grateful me will be starting to do this from this point forward! Thanks for responding and good to see you today as I haven't seen you over the last few days.....
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I always thank someone for a best response and tell them I really appreciate it alot. It is just something I have always done. I am usually always kinda surprised to be getting them most times. But it is always good to get them.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Your most welcome..
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
Smartass! Look at you trying to stir up trouble! Jeez all I need is yet another person pointing out my innumerous typo's. Fantastic!
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
It IS nice to get them, yes! I still thank people for a BR in most cases, but am also still reluctant to do it in cases where they haven't replied to me at all and just chosen me for it. In these instances, I'll either thank them in another discussion, or if I don't see them again, I'll just leave it be. Maintaining an attitude of gratitude is my primary goal in most cases though. Thanks for the comments mydewgurl.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
3 Nov 08
I pretty much allways go back to thank people for a best response when I am active on mylot. This last couple of months I haven't been active because I have had a rough time personally combined with a very busy time in my studies. So I would like to see this as an oppertunity to thank the people who have denoted me a best response during this time and appologize for not getting back to them earlier. Take care!
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
3 Nov 08
Lol, that's true! I am making an effort to get a good degree with which I can hopefully support parents and kids to live a good healthy live and take away as much disruptence as possible by giving them tips and advice on how to handle certain situations. No, I am not going to tell them that I know how to raise their kid (rasp), I am going to be as much of help as possible getting the most out of what parents allready got inside of them: the love, care and knowing what's best for their kids. And I do agree, better late then never!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
Well I wish you every possible success with this cyberfluf! My Sister is a psychologist that specializes in assisting problem teens and families to integrate better etc and she has a tremendous passion for her career. I am sure it will become all you have ever dreamed of and more!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
Wow. I haven't seen you for quite some time cyberfluf? These studies must be really hammering you at the moment! I hope they are going well for you. Anyways, I am sure people appreciate that some of us do actually have a life outside of mylot and a belated thanks is better than none at all I reckon! Thanks for responding and I hope that whatever rough times you have faced are rapidly becoming but a memory.
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• United States
3 Nov 08
I have noticed that there are some people who do go back to a discussion and thank thank when they are awarded best response. It is a nice gesture and I probably should, but I must confess that I usually don't. I don't have any email notices turned on for this site or anything because I get so much mail (mostly junk) in my email that to get noticed from here as well would just be overwhelming. I therefore search for discussions that my friends started and things like that directly from the site here. As for best responses, I seldom check to see if I've received any so usually by the time I realize that someone has given me best response it has already been several weeks or perhaps even a month or more since I received it. By that time I usually figure that it is to late to go back and thank them.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
I switched off email notifications for the very same reasons you did betsy. I was going absolutely crazy trying to wade through all the mylot mails and evey other mail I receive day to day. Now I have a section on my home page in mylot that shows me my best responses and I keep tabs on it this way. Where I do get slack though is awarding best responses in my OWN discussions. I always forget to do this and they build up and up. I really need to try to keep on top of that! Thanks for responding.
@aidenw (632)
• United States
4 Sep 08
if they're on my friend list then yes, i send them a pm thanking them for giving the best response. otherwise i don't 'cos i don't have any means of contacting them. i guess i could post it on the discussion again under my own response but i often wonder if they would go back and read it. but i think it won't hurt. so the next time it happens that's what i will do. thanks for posting this and bringing it to my attention
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
You are welcome! It was just a personal observation of myself that I was always thankful in other areas of mylot but not this one for some reason? I wish to make an effort in my life to be far more grateful for everything so here is as good a place to start as any! Thanks for responding.
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
Wow, a pm... that's sweet.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Apr 09
pick me pick me... I always do unless the person has specifically told me not to.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
I don't think I've ever had someone ask me NOT to thank them for a BR before? The only time I don't say thanks in the discussion itself, is when they've never replied to me in the first place. Sometimes I do forget though, I'm sure.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
How odd! I've had people question why I'm sometimes always saying thanks, but never had someone tell me to stop! Actually, that's not true! Now that I think about it, I've had one particular member who's still here today ask me to stop saying thanks for the response. lol. SO I use different terminology to say the same thing!
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Apr 09
One person did actually say that, so I tried to remember...
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Hi james, I don't always thank someone for choosing me for a best response it depends. Sometimes it is from a discussion that was from a month ago and I feel funny thanking someone when it has been such a long time ago. It depends on who the person is. If it is someone that is a friend I might thank them. I have been thanked once in awhile, but basically I don't think most people do thank people for giving them best response. What do you think?
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
I agree that to go back to the older ones may be a bit late! lol. But I AM going to make the effort to do it from this point forward at least. I get thanked once in a while as well; but mostly I do not so it does not seem to be a popular habit for many. Thanks for responding.
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I always take very good care of my friends, so yes I answer any comment to my discussions and I thank them for all they do for me, is just that first I love them, second is just manners, thank you!
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
I have ALWAYS made the effort to comment on and thank people for their responses to my posts but then realized I was not showing the same courtesy when I received a best response. At least now I can make the effort to change this! Yours is a good attitude to have and thank you for responding.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 08
Thank you for the compliment! I enjoy your inputs also.
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
4 Sep 08
James you are on of my fav friends, I will always be there for you! LOL
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
4 Jan 09
I try to thank everyone who has given me a BR. But sometimes I see that they have awarded me a BR with no comment whatsoever...and then I don't bother too much with a comment myself (sometimes I do but most times I don't).
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Jan 09
I use exactly the same mentality Sandhya. It's kinda hard to thank them if they haven't even replied to me! This is the only instance where I will not thank someone for a BR. Thanks for your comments.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
3 Jan 09
of course i do say thanks to them.its great feeling that someone is giving me BR,but some who i gave BR looks like not active anymore because i dont hear a word saying thank you to me or they dont appreciate it.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Jan 09
It IS a nice feeling, I agree! The only time I don't go back and thank someone for a BR is if they haven't replied to me response and just selected it. It looks silly to have two comments by me one after the other! But if they have replied AND chosen me as BR, then I will thank them.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
4 Nov 08
Basically as a part of sharing we should keep on discussing untill a solution comes up for a discussion but due to many as many discussion we stop rather at one or two responses for single discussion. Thats truth too here at mylot !! But i believe atleast i am closing a discussion for what i have awarded BR by saying thanks
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Nov 08
lol. I know many a member that just HAS to have the last word no matter what so there are times when the conversation will continue for a very long time! I agree that thanking someone for a BR can also add some closure sometimes and this is an interesting angle to consider. Thanks for the response rkrish.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
hi james, I do thank all who mark me as best response, for the reason that i dont always get that mark, for 4 month here in this site i got only 9 B.R. which is easier for me to thank them. And at the same time it is one way of showing my thankful appreciation.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
Hi Margarit. 9 best responses is a good start if you ask me! And as you have said, at least it allows you to keep on top of thanking people for now! I am sure you will receive many, many more over time. Thanks for the response.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
17 Jan 09
Ive only ever had one and yes I did go back and thank them , it takes so little time and maybe will make them smile.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 Jan 09
I am sure there will be many more to come Abbey and showing gratitude for the one you have gotten so far is the way to go I reckon. The only time I don't go back and thank them is when they haven't replied to my response.
@dolcias (302)
• Egypt
4 Nov 08
i have never been chosen as best answer before,but i think i would come back and thank them if i was chosen as one.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Nov 08
Well I hope you get the opportunity to test this theory very soon then dolcias! I am sure it is only a matter of time before you get your first BR and then they will flood in from there. Thanks for the response.