Are you embarrassed to cry in front of others?
By dolce_vita78
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
Philippines
September 3, 2008 10:43am CST
In life, we all have to cry at some point. It may be caused my extreme emotions. We cry because we are very happy. Or, we cry because we are sad. We also cry when we are in pain.
Do you feel uncomfortable about crying in front of others? Where do you usually go to cry? Your room? Do you care what others think about why you are crying? Do you give them a detailed answer when they ask why you are crying?
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35 responses
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I do not feel ashamed or embarassed to cry in front of other people, Crying is a sign of showing your emotions. I can not imagine something happening and I say wait a minute, so that I can go someplace where I can not be seen to cry.[em]happy
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I do not look down on other people who cry in public as well. I will console them or see if there is anything I can do for them. Crying is not shameful, it is a sign of a strong person displaying their emotions
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@nekonyanta (892)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Well, I'd like to think that I'm a really private person so crying in front of others is really, really embarrassing, though I cry pretty easily so it's safe to assume that there have been a lot of embarrassing moments involving myself, tears, and a public venue. I don't really understand why but crying in front of people makes me feel that I'm exposing too much of myself. It's also annoying to break down in front of people you would like to convince that you are strong. But then, I guess one of the times that I really felt appreciated and loved was when my friends tried to cheer me up that one time I found myself crying in front of them and then the person who I was the least closest to in our group went out and bought me an ice cream cone. It was such a nice gesture. So yes, crying in front of people isn't a really proud moment and I strive to avoid such situations as much as I can but when such situations arise, looking back, they're not too bad as memories. At all.
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
4 Sep 08
i really try to control my tears front of others but its very hard and i cant do it hence i just go in a lonely place like in my bedroom or anywhere out or terrace
i really dont want to cry front of others and i dont want to prove them that i am weak. but feelings are really uncontrollable specially when they are into tears but there are situations where we cant hide our tears and we really burst out.
but i feel instead of controlling them its better we let them come out and lets make ourself free orelse the feelings and tears inside becomes bigger and bigger and make us more and more unhappy and we atlast land up in depression.
so feelings wheather good or bad let it come out of us is better.
when any one ask me the reason why i am crying my feelings becomes more painful and i highly weep which i cant stop it.
but once if i tell it out i feel that i am a bit relaxed and my pain is a bit decreased.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Well yeah but crying is really the way to express your emotions and feelings and I know that there are not reason to get embarrassed when crying because we are humans not robots who don't feel anything.:-0 GOd bless and have a nice day.:-0
@fordham08 (131)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I am not a very emotional person, so I don't really cry that much. But of course, I'm human and every once in a while we need to show our emotions and on those rare times that I cry, I don't feel embarrased, I don't care what others think when I am crying and I don't give them full details when they ask me questions my reason for this is of course I am overwhelmed with my emotions.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
4 Sep 08
There are those times when pressure mounts and it has to come out somewhere. I try to stay away from people though, or get the heck out of the room when it all hits. it's not that I'm embarassed, rather it's just not anyone's business, unless I WISH to share it with them. When I am feeling emotional, I prefer to only share with a few select people.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I am a type of person who is very emotional and expressive. And i never feel embarrased to cry in front of others especially when i need to and cant hold my feelings anymore. If they asked why i cried i just simply tell them that i am hurt / sad / happy... I wont tell them the reason in detailed but ill just give an idea why i cried...
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
If I am in front of a person who isn't that close to me, then it must be an embarrassment to me. but crying in front of my friends, and people closest to my heart, I consider it a way of releasing the pain in my heart.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
Yeah, i'm actually very embarassed to be crying in front of ple, including my family members and frenz.. As much as possible, i will hold back my tears and only allow them to drop at the time whereby i think its the safest..
UNless it's so uncontrollable, i will just hide in the toilet and sob quietly.. Times i know i cant control will be tears flwoing drop by drop unknowingly down my cheeks and once that happen, i will go straight into hiding..
@ruby222 (4847)
•
4 Sep 08
Im afraid to say im a bit of a stiff upper lip person here,I know its good to show emotion etc,but sometimes it can be not only a little embarassing for yourself,but to others too.Now thats not to say that I am a cold fish,by no meanscan anyone describe me as that,but I would rather let off steam in my own company.Some would go as far as to say that thats not a healthy way of doing things,but its the way ive always been,so im not going to change now.But there are many who will willingly share their emotions with everyone,its just not for me.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
16 Sep 08
You are right!There are many reasons to cry.Cry for joy, sad, loneliness and others.Mostly i cried when i feel hurt and i will try to control my tears from falling down when i am in public and just cry as loud as i can when gets home.
@glay22 (512)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
it cannot be prevented that you cry in front of others..me, i am not shy to show my emotions because it is really what I feel and I am just honest with myself. I believe that a person's bravery is not measured by how many people he has defeated but by how many drops of tears that has fallen from his eyes.. because for me, tears are a measure of strength. You accept that you are hurt and that you are not afraid to show it
@ace_ivann (326)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Hi dolce_vita! It really depends whom I am with. But, normally I cry easily especially when it comes to my loved ones. I really don't care about what other people say. If they are closed to me I would say what happened or even share my problem. I just want to express how I feel at that certain period of time. I think it is better this way than to keep deep sorrows deep inside me. I don't feel I am less of a man if I cry in front of others. I am just being true to myself. As the cliche goes, "Boys don't cry, but real men do!"
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
4 Sep 08
The only person I feel comfortable crying in front of is my husband. I hate when something makes me cry in public!
I cry when I am really angry the most.
I want to cry when I watch my children play sports. But, I hold it in because I don't want to embarrass them!
If I am at home I will usually go to my bedroom to cry. If I am somewhere else, the bathroom is usually the safest place because nobody wants to go in there!
Sometimes I will answer, sometimes I won't. It all depends on why I was crying in the first place.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Hey dolce, I'm not embarrassed to cry in front of people.
I have been in group therapy for over a year now so I
have learned to not be uncomfortable to share my inner
most feelings and cry in front of people. I used to not
even be able to talk in front of a group of people. Now
I can get up and stand in front of a group of people and
share my most personal thoughts and feelings and if I do
cry I'm ok with it. It's taken a long time and alot of
therapy to get to that point. I was never one for public
speaking so I had alot of getting used to. It is truly
a release to be able to let your feelings out and you
feel so much better when you are able to share your feelings
with other people who are experiencing similar things in
their lives.
@anneyliu188200 (39)
• China
4 Sep 08
in our life ,we often meet sth which make us cry.crying is a kind of way to
remove anguish.when we get in pain,anyone needs find a way to decrease it,but
usually crying is a better way to most women.
@wiseshopping1 (679)
• China
4 Sep 08
if nothing sad, i won't cry, if i really sad, i can't help crying. that's understandable, i won't be embarrassed, i think others will understand me