Do you discipline other peoples children?

@tlb0822 (1410)
United States
September 3, 2008 11:41pm CST
I recently started watching my fiances niece. His sister has told me that if she is bad to spank her. I personally don't feel right discipling another persons child in that way. I do time out, or tell her that she can no longer play with an item. They insist though that if she is out of control that I should spank her bottom. So I'm wondering, Do you believe in spanking another persons child? What do you feel is acceptable? Would you allow someone else to discipline your child?
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14 responses
• United States
4 Sep 08
I think if you are the one is taking care of the child then you need to discipline them to your liking. I mean, if you don't feel comfortable with the other measures, don't do it. I do believe in spanking to a point. Although, I have found that time outs work great for my kids :) I would really hope that no one else would try and discipline my child.
@jmhall (143)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I agree if you are the one providing the care for the child then you should disciplin them i a way that you feel is appropriate. It that is time-out, or no tv or games ect. However, I do not think it appropriate to spank a child if it is against the parents wishes. If the parent is around I think it is the parents responsibility to discipline them but if they are not then the child should follow your rules and expect to have consequences for their behavior.
@Anne18 (11029)
4 Sep 08
If any of my children were naughty in somebody's else's home while visiting then I would want them told off. I don't like it when visiting children do wrong in my house, I ask them not ot do it, if they keep doing it I then say if you carry on you won't be allowed to visit our house again and I shall tell your mother when we comes to collect you. If you don't say something then it is sending wrong messages to your own children. If any of my children do wrong in someone else's house then I would want to know
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I agree that something should be said to the child as well as the parent. I just don't feel comfortable spanking her...so I just do time out. I agree though that if my daughter did something wrong that they would tell me, and I would do the same for them. Thanks for the response...Happy Mylotting.
@mira666 (165)
4 Sep 08
I have been known to verbally discipline children whilst I am at work, I work in a small supermarket and will tell children off if they misbehave or escort them back to the responsible adult who is looking after them but i would never physically discipline a child in that manner, for a start i would lose my job and probably be arrested for assault. but in context you do what you feel is right given the situation
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I dont think spanking is good for a child I only spanked my kids one or two times the whole time they where little and I felt stupid doing it. I have great reponsible adult children now. I never spanked other kids I would rather just do a time out or take away a toy for a little while.
• United States
4 Sep 08
I don't like to discipline other people's children. I think that is the job of the parent. It doesn't matter if they insist on me disciplining them oreven when I did babysit, people always told me please discipline them. I think that it is goood just to give them a time out or take something of theirs away that was is a favorite of theirs. I would never spank another person's child.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
4 Sep 08
You took the words right out of my mouth. :). I agree 100%. If the parent wants to spank there child, then they should do it. Thanks for the repsonse.
@rekcart83 (149)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
No I don't think so. I'm always told to watch my little cousins every time. And I never once thought to spank them. Maybe because I experienced it my self. It's actually more of getting beaten. So it became one of my rules in life never to spank my kids or others' kids.
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
I would discipline others children only in the period I am entrusted to take care. This was the question that came to my mind when I had to discipline a friend's child for hurting my child. To avoid further accidents, I just hit her once and warned her not to do it again. I felt it was necessary as I felt her parents never took right steps to discipline her.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
4 Sep 08
If they spank their child and they want me to I will if it is needed. If someone was watching my kids and they were getting out of control I would want them to use the same punishment that I would use. I wouldn't do anything harsher then what I was comfortable with though. My kids do get spanked but only if they really need it and just a swat on the butt. I don't put them over my knee or anything or use anything other than my hand. If someone say spanks with a belt and wanted me to do that to their child I wouldn't.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I believe in setting ground rules. I know of situations where a child was disciplined but the parents objected later even tho they had agreed. I do discipline my grandkids. If their parents are around I wait to see if they will do it first. But especially in cases of some danger or something breaking, I will act first if the parents dont. The grandkids know that when they are with me instead of Mom and Dad I am in charge.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 08
I wouldn't like to spank another person's child as I do not feel comfortable doing it. A child should be disciplined by her own parents so that she will only listened to her parents and having too many disciplinarian around would only confuse her more. Likewise I wouldn't like my child to be spanked by other people as she wouldn't understand why a stranger should do that to her. I am the parent and I know what is the right way of disciplining my own kid.
• United States
4 Sep 08
I feel weird disciplining other people's children. This is why I don't like to babysit. I also don't like it when other people discipline MY children. Unless it's their teacher or a babysitter. But I get annoyed when someone thinks they have a right to discipline my child in front of me.
@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
It's hard to discipline other people children,You might be accused of human rights viloation,child abuse etc...(LOL)
@jccjr5 (62)
• United States
4 Sep 08
This is a really hard thing. I do not think that spanking is the way to go. How old is this child? I used to watch my nieces and I never spanked them, but my sister-in-law wouldn't want me to anyway. I think that doing the time outs, taking things away from her are the best way to go. Just being consistent will go a long way with a child. Spanking her is not going to control her, sometimes it could actually make the behavior worse. The kids look at it like a challenge. I have learned that with my own three. I have a 6,4, and 3. My 3 is so far my biggest challenge and would get a swat on the tush almost hourly :). Awhile back I stopped because I realized that he was testing me to see what I would do. So now he just sits in a corner for a little or goes to his room. We have been doing much better. As far as allowing someone to discipline my child, I wouldn't want them to go as far as spanking but definately there should be some sort of consequence for bad behavior.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
4 Sep 08
yes I do I beleive that if someone leaves their kids with me then I will treat them the same as my own and vice versa.