What do you do when you realzied you're still stuck in the past?

I remember my GOD and try my best live in present. Oh my dear friend just remember we have no control on past and present some old think much about them. Thanks Ganesh

[i]HI kharen, I understand how you feel, it is not really easy to move one once there is no "end point" in your relationship! Have you talked to him? I guess you need to see him and talked to him so that you will move on, I do know how you guys ended up your relationship but if ever I am wrong in my guess, then give more time to heal! It will be unfair also if you will postpone again another semester due to that, just enjoy hanging out with friends and enjoy doing or playing your favorite sports! idle time will lead a person to just dwell in the past so keep yourself busy and I know one day, you will find the perfect person for you and this past will give you so much lesson![/i]

What I do in your shoes? Well.. if he is in your system already even though years have passed already, I think you just have to think it over. What good did it caused you? Nothing. Stop hurting yourself by holding on to the past. Instead, let it go and free yourself from whatever it is that keeps you holding back. Move forward. I knows it isn't easy because I have experienced a similar thing myself. Letting go of a guy I loved and dated for 5 long years because of some silly argument. It happened April 2008. I'm dating someone new now. It's not that I forgot about my ex already. I will always treasure what we had because I know we both gave it our best shot. You should be too because even though relationships end, it doesn't mean that both of you won't care for the other. You can't just stop caring for that person. It's just how you control yourself from not caring too much because he is not yours for the taking already. It's difficult to accept it but what other choice do you have? You just have to love yourself more. Go back to school already. You shouldn't let one person hold you down from your studies or from fulfilling your ambitions in life. They have their own lives and you certainly have yours. Those memories you had with your ex will always last..but its all in the past. It is possible that it will happen again. If he really loves you, he'll come back to you. He'll be lucky enough if you're still available and there for him when he wants you back. So, live your life again girl. Don't be too hard on yourself just because of some guy. Best of luck.

To stuck to the past is injuring our health. No doubt when memories comes to our mind the past things hurt us. If we have to break our relations finally due to any reasons we must finish our memories i.e photos etc. with and and other stuff. which cause and hurt us.

Just give it enough time and surely you would be ok. As I have advised to other friends it all starts with acceptance. If you accept that everything its over and it's really time to move on it would be easier for you to find a new love. Always say to yourself that you deserve someone better and maybe that could help.

your life must not stop just because of him.. maybe this is the proper time to focus on your studies, on your family and your friends.. there are a lot more for you in the store...

i think it is not a good thing to keep on doing that... in the long time, it will only hurt you more and it doesn't give you any benefit at all... i will suggest that you try to move on and forget about him by doing something that you like to occupy your mind... better still if you can find somebody who can love you again so that you can replace him inside your heart... that is if you already ready to start another relationship... he is already moving on by having another relationship with your friend... so why you have to suffer so much because of him and hurting yourself??? it is not worth it at all... take care and have a nice day...

This is going to sound cold, but for you sake and sanity, FORGET YOUR EX! It is over, it is done with, move on, get on with your life. You have to live your life or else you are going to lose it and it is going to eat away at you. You have to learn to forgive and forget. It seems hard, and it is hard, but if you do not do, you will be doomed to lose your sanity and lose the life that you really want. He is probably going to move on with his life, so you need to move on with yours.

its the situation in case of some people. at times its hard to forget the past. its mostly when the person is so much involved. i do not know why you part away, but its hard to forget whn you listen that person's name and he is with your friend. its sad no doubt. try to engage in activities that keep you happy.

Hello Kharen, I am an old man and i have seen the today and the past. In the past,girls dont easily fall in love, maybe they have feelings to a man but they are very careful to fall in love. At those times, you cannot even hold a girls hand. You have to pass thru the permission of the brother, the mother and the father, sometimes the LoLa and the Lolo. But what is todays version of love, just ablink of an eye you can get a girl. The side of the boy is becoming just a play and not love! Boys even put money involve when getting girls. Boys go around and pick a lot of girls as much as they can have and they feel being macho if they can do it. Now think, why the boy you love have to simply discard you like that? Does he loves you? No! Maybe you love him yes! But its unfair kind of love, its only one side of the coin. and he doesn't deserved your love, he is an opportunist who dont care who gets hurt. Kharen, you are beautiful and so sweet, you deserve someone else who will really care for you. You should not spent a minute thinking of such kind of a man. Move on darling for God's love you, you are an intelligent person and you can handle it, make friends and smile, someday you will meet someone best for you. And when you see him again, just smile. Show him that he made mistake by finishing your school. Sometimes, the need to suppress our feeling is important. Something brighter is waiting for you. What I mean is, you are too young to fall in love, don't you have some ambition or maagang malosyang gaga LOL, Ha ha ha ha. I just want to make you laugh and smile.jude

When I realized that im tuck, of course I will move on... even though its hard but im sure I can.

I know a similar case like yours. But she has moved now. By falling in love with another guy she was able to forget about her ex. You should do the same. Accept the fact that he's with another girl and you should do the same and find another guy whom you would be happy with.

I think you should try doing things on your own - finish a book, play sports, etc. Things that will psychologically help you feel better about yourself. And you have to understand that it really doesn't matter how he behaves towards you when you meet again - it's over between you (I'm sorry if that hurts but you're actually who admitted it). You can't control his attitude towards you, what you CAN control is how you will treat yourself. And frankly, a break from school doesn't really sound like you've been taking care of yourself very well lately. I hope you get over it soon.

If I'm in that situation, I would most likely do the first step of moving on. To do that, I would seek help from my friends and family. Also, I would keep myself busy and do many things to forget the past. It's always a good thing to focus yourself in new things and love what you do.

don't remember the past .. take care present & look for the bright future .. If past disturb ur present & future .. just ignore it ..