Big Boys Dont Cry.

why not? when you see somthing or miss someone, that kinda feeling make you feel sad, and you just can;t help crying at that moment. i cry sometimes when something really touched me. all the memories come back to you when you miss someone, its common emotions that you cried.i cried a lot, and i never feel shamed.

isnt just men Tee.. i was raised to not only ever cry or show sadness.. but to not show ANY emotions whatsoever. i spent most of my life semi robotic not posessing any emotion at all (thus my logical borg side) and it took a very long time to even discover i had any.. much less be comfortable expressing them. do i feel its a sign of weakness to fall down? yeah.. not just from how i was raised, but most people havent got a clue how to deal with me when i do fall down.. so they scatter and leave me to it alone. ive taught my children differently. to be who they are, feel what they feel, and have no shame in it. in this, im also teaching myself right alongside them.. thats its ok for me to do the same.

So what are your thoughts? Do you think it is a sign of weakness when men cry? Or do you respect them for being able to show their emotions? I dont see it as a sign of weakness at all..In fact just the opposite..I think any man who is able to cry and show his emotions like that is a TRUE MAN and a REAL MAN...My bf cries at times and shows his emotions and I love him all the more for that to be honest with you...It shows someone genuine as far as I'm concerned..

I am so happy that we are getting away from gender roles where emotion from men is frowned upon. I am able to connect more with a man who is not afraid to show his emotions. My boyfriend is very sensitive, and has cried about such tender things as children singing the national anthem. I love that about him. I have always been a person whose tears flow freely whether I like it or not. At times it has been really tough, when my tears have put me at a disadvantage with someone I would rather have not seen me cry. But I think having my emotions so readily shown, has also allowed me to feel compassion for all kinds of people in every walk of life. Emotion, and expressing emotion, is a good thing. It is the heart of humanity. Emotion and connectivity to others is what makes us human. I can't think of a single reason to stifle that in men or boys.

Hi Tee... I was raised with a very strict Greek father who had no idea how to react to children since His parents were very strict too, My Mother tried but would get a blunt of his anger right away..so we learned to never give him any reason to be upset cause if we cried, we'd get beat more..since I was the only one of my 6 sibs that had hair that grew like weeds, he'd take his anger out on me by cutting it and i wasn't suppose to cry..now my father was no hairstylist, so i looked like an urchin child..as soon as I turned 18 I left and married the first person he would allow me to marry..when i had children i gave them all the love i was cheated out of, but didn't know how to love a Husband that wanted to be in charge of me..sadly i did this numerous times..I have 5 children that are allowed to love,cry,care and whatever they want as long as hate isn't into it..I refuse that word..

II2aTee, It is not a sign of weakness and it is good to cry, no good having pent up emotions, let it out and no one is going to think your weak, I cry all the time, if one of Mylotters wright about something, I am sitting here with tears running down my face or if there is anything sad on Tv I'm off again, so don't be ashame of crying, it is good. I lost my mother six years ago and I still cry when I think of her which I do everyday. Tamara

No, not at all, I have often been moved to tears all the best urban

First I would like to say that I am sorry to hear about your uncle . A loss is always hard to deal with and the pain never truely goes away no matter the years that pass . In reguards to your question about men crying , I would have to say that I respect a man more if he can show his feelings . I have a son and have often been upset when others have made comments about how he is a mama's boy when he shows his feelings . He is growing up very withdrawl around others because he doesn't want to show his emotions for fear of being teased . This is affecting his well being and why they can't see this is beyond me . He will show his emotions when it is just the two of us but will block out everything when there are others around to the point that he rarely speaks and shows NO emotion whatsoever even when he is happy . Why should he not be allowed to cry , he is human isn't he , and he is a 13 year old little boy !! I think it is horrible that so much pressure is put on a man not to show there feelings and to always be tough no matter what . Keeping all this emotion inside can not possibly be healthy for anyone . Your parents sound like wonderful parents to have raised you so that you could show and express how you truely feel . You have that right and should be able to express yourself without fear of being judged . In my opinion those that want to judge others based on the fact that they are showing emotion because they are a man are just outright ridiculous .

I think it is definately NOT a sign of weakness, a man is allowed to cry and should not hold in emotion. I think that holding in emotion doesn't help you at all, it just makes things worst and bottling all that inside definately is not good. Because if you keep bottling up and up and up it gets to be too much and you just blow. A man that can show emotion and not be ashamed of it is a real man in my opinion. why some people thinks that it's so bad for a man to cry is a mystery to me but I think that it's okay!

Hi Tee, When I was growing up it was considered weak for a man to cry, at least that seemed to be the general opinion. By the time I was an adult I had begun to think differently and still do. There are times when we all all need to cry and it isn't a sign of weakness. I have three grown sons and they were raised to express their emotions. I guess the idea that it was a sign of weakness for a man to cry is something left over from another age. Blessings.

If men are weak because they cry, then women are too. And we know that's not true. Crying is a natural expression and it's something we need, as humans, to do. I was lucky enough to be raised in a family that saw my tears as an integral part of my self. I cry when I feel any strong emotion, even anger. And I'm easily touched, to say the least. I can't imagine what it must have been like to be raised in a cold sort of family. I've known countless people who have though. It mystifies me. So Tee. It's sneaking up on you, isn't it? That floodgate opened for a reason. Maybe you're getting ready to start thinking about thinking about this stuff, your uncle, and your grandmother. We don't necessarily recognize it when we step over those invisible emotional-quotient lines and reach a point where we might be able to handle something that was previously off limits. Maybe you crossed one of those lines over the last day. Could be. I'm proud of you, you know. xxx

hi 112aTee I think its a sign of strenght when a man cries because of grief, he is a human being and he is not afraid to show that. However if he cries over the least little thing I would question his emotional well being.As a girl growing up my parents never got upset if something left me weeping, and thus I was able to show my emotions without being made to feel bad for having them.

Hello II2aTee, For me, I cry often. I cried when I am watching a sentimental movie or listening to a sentimental soundtrack. Sometimes, I can even cry when thinking about some emotional stuffs. I do not believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it is a sign of bravery - as you dare to show your true emotion to others without hiding it. Those who are afraid to show their true emotion by putting up a fake strong front is trying to cover up their weakness.

Its ok for men to cry as long as it does not have a conflict with your duties and roles. If a lot of people are depending on your strength,and crying will seem to them as a sign of weakness, you better be careful. You may cry but you shouldn't show them. I think it is everyone' privilege to express their emotions whatever kind it maybe. But the master of control over your emotion...that is talent and superiority.

i never think that men not allowed to cry and if they cry they show signs of weaknesses... never at all... i think all human beings are born with emotions and that include men... so if they want to express their emotions by crying when they feel sad or angry, that is perfectly fine with me... take care and have a nice day...

It has been a social and cultural inclination that men should not cry. It's like a rule of thumb that all men should follow. Many would say that crying is a sign of being weak and emotional. But as for me, I don't cry that much but when I do, I'd better cry in silent and alone.

I do not see crying as a sign of weakness, rather one of strength! Having the the strength to be yourself and express your emotions is the best way to live.

I am a woman and I believe that when a man cries, it does not make him any lesser nor a sign of his weakness. My parents are separated and my father had a big contribution to that big struggle that we had to go through for many years. He has been an abusive husband and someone who has not made his own decisions to stand up for his family. Just this year, he asked forgiveness from me as his daughter for the things he had done and he really cried so hard. It was a pure display of his sincerity that he has not done before and it was easy for me to say my piece; I forgave him. I believe the way parents raise their children has something to do with how the react with every situation. Of course there is still this unwritten social standard that men are expected to be tough at all times, purely depends on the situation. There are people who could relate much to every situation and they easily shed tears because of certain levels of sympathy. A weep could be a sign of grief, anger and inability to exercise controls but it does not always translate to weakness. It could be a sign of strength and inspiration if men weeps, depends on how they handle the whole Drama after that weeping. I would love my husband or any man to cry, shed their tears and pick themselves up rather than exercising too much control of emotions. It is bad for the health to block such energies that needs to be released.

No, not inherently. But by the same right trying to keep a calm head and not get too emotional is by no means a bad plan eather

It's good to know that there are some men who shows affection or emotion. Coz I was also brought up by my parents with affection and emotion. I think being emotional does not make one less than a man. For me it doesn't even mean that one is weak because he shows emotions. This just imply that we are mindful of the wonderful things in this world particularly relating to others or showing socio-emotional attachments. In fact I feel sorry for those families I see were parents and children don't seem to have affection with one another.