right time to marry...
By enavnai13
@enavnai13 (509)
Philippines
September 5, 2008 11:16am CST
i have seen people these days getting married at an early age... but ends up separating... when do you think is the right time for a person to get married???
6 responses
@avelnrm (239)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
For me, the right time to marry would be when the man has a regular work. If possible, the woman should have a job too. But the woman must learn about house management, family planning, etc. Both should be physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually healthy. And both should love each other.
If these criteria are met, then the family would bear caring and productive citizens.
@snowberries (399)
• Australia
5 Sep 08
That's abit sexist. The "woman should learn about house management"? Have you ever heard of a house-husband, that is getting more popular these days. Women are not tied to the kitchen anymore, they have equal opportunities!! yay!
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I don't understand why one must be healthy to get married. No one has control over their health. My husband and I both of chronic diseases and mental disorders. Should we not have gotten married?
@runner0369 (641)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I do not think there is necessarily a certain age but it is more to do with if they have been together long enough to be sure each is right for each other. They should to have been together for at least a year and be sure that they are marrying out of love and not out of physical attraction to one another, looks will change but hearts will not.
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
i strongly agree to that... one must have to know their partners well before getting married.
your last sentence really caught my attention... that's a good one! not just good, but it's true as well..
@snowberries (399)
• Australia
5 Sep 08
EVeryone is different, it just depends on the people, their level of maturity, how long they have known each other.
I know some friends who met at 16 and have been together for 15 years, since high school.
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
yes, that's right... i have also known people who have been together for so long already but still they did not get married.. probably they're not ready yet. it's also a matter of choice.
@Laura84 (191)
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5 Sep 08
I think it depends on the couple, you could have two very mature 17 year olds who stay together for life. My parents were 21yrs old when they were married and they have been together 30 years now. Basically my mum had to marry him as he was being sent to Germany. If she wanted to go then they had to marry.
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
choice really plays a big role in this matter, right??? coz no matter how much you love the person, but you're still not ready, then you can go ahead and wait for the right time.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Weii, I think it depends on the people who are getting married and on how long they were together and on how strong their relationship is. Because my hubby and I have was married at 20. And is still married and have 2 boys. And my parents have been married for 24 years and they got married 17. So I don't think it really has age to do with it. I think it depends on how much you love the person and on how much you get along.
@sabbatha (287)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Who knows, everyone is different. I do think that most people should wait a bit before getting married. I think if you can't even buy alchol yet you shouldn't be getting married yet.
I was 25 when I got married, and I've been married for 10 years now, even after serving 8 years in the Navy. The military can break many a marriage.
I think the biggest thing is that I think couples should be together for a while before they get married. I knew quite a few people that met in Boot Camp and got married right out of it, and divorced shortly there after. I don't care if you think you've met your soul mate after knowing the person for 24 hours, you should still stay together as a couple for at for a while before thinking about getting married. I think that might help more then the age thing.
I actually think you should be together for more than 2 years before getting married. I know most of my relationships crumbled at the 2 year mark. The one that didn't I'm still married too! We were together for 4 years before we married.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
6 Sep 08
That's is exactly what I was going to say. I didn't think anyone else agreed with me lol.