What Should I Do?
By reneous
@reneous (716)
United States
November 5, 2006 7:17pm CST
There is a man at my local grocery store who is PHYSICALLY retarded (his mental capabilities are completely fine - except when it comes to understanding that I'm not interested in him romantically). He follows me around the store, and has even started tracking me down at nearby stores when he sees me go in (Blockbuster is next to the grocery store). I've contacted the grocery store to let them know that he's even gone so far as to follow me to my car, but I don't know what else to do. I don't feel like I can go in that store anymore, and I'm afraid to even go rent movies! Like I said, he's PHYSICALLY retarded only, so I know he understands me perfectly when I turn him down for dates - and that he's just abusing his handicap thinking that I may feel sorry for him, or that I won't "blow him off" because he's different. What should I do?!
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4 responses
@Karinne (1220)
• Australia
6 Nov 06
Hi there reneous! Ok what i would do is just be up front with him and tell him your not interested in him in that way. Tell him that he's scaring you by following you around, make a written complaint to the store about the man and if it doesn't stop you will put a restraining order on him. He has to know that what he is doing in not acceptable and you will take action against this behaviour.
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@april444 (1341)
• United States
6 Nov 06
yeah i think that is what you should do too. LOL just reminded me of this one guy everyone used to tease me at work about but he was more mentally the poor thing, one day he told my husband I was his girlfriend(I was 6 months pregnant at the time)My husband always would tease me about that :)But really you need to do something because you are very uncomfortable. Maybe this guy has some mental issues as well or could be autisic not sure ...good luck let us know what happens
@kstanley7 (1171)
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9 Nov 06
with any job, the employee has to follow the rules and regulations set by management, my advice is first of all, notify the authorities and tell them that your being harrassed and that you are informing the manager of the store, but you are scared of the repercussions as he seems to be unstable, This way, the police will be able to help straight away the minute something happens (god forbid). but try to avoid him, I know that when your around in the store, you feel uneasy, which is unnerving enough for you. but you have to think about all the possibilities. I hope that you are able to get this sorted out as soon as possible, as I really would not like to find out that you have been hurt.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Hey there....this sounds like it could turn ugly. This could be a stalker in the making. Even if he has physical disabilities it does not give him the right to follow you around. If he is mentally capable of knowing right from wrong, he knows this is wrong. It appears that he is infatuated with you. I would let him know that if his behavior continues you will be contacting the authorities. Don't become a victim.
