Harasment or Flirting?

Your discomfort sounds like you were just embarrassed because he caught you off guard. It doesn't sound like any line was crossed but then I wasn't there and don't know the tone of voice, how he looked at you or how long he stayed there after the comment. Do you flirt with people on the job? No I was never one to flirt on the job when I was behind a cash register but there were a few exceptions. There were a few regular customers who'd come in every day and we got friendly enough to joke around and harmlessly "play" flirt. Do you feel a little violated when people comment on your physical appearance in an open setting? Violated, that's a harsh word for a simple comment. A compliment can make you feel uncomfortable and embarrassed but the intent is not to harm or harrass. Just take it for what it is, a compliment. Say "thank you" and leave it at that. I'm kind of in a unique situation with the business I'm in now. I'm a singer in a rock band, so flirting, compliments and even some harrassment kind of go with the territory. There are people who think, for some strange reason, that just because I'm a performer that I'm no longer human and they can say and do anything they want to me. It can get really annoying sometimes. I've had to handle some really outrageous situations. I could tell you some stories.... .

well i think it was not flirting he was just commenting on your nice smile ,i never feel violated when a person comments on my appearance i smile and let it go.you have to realize some people do that to start conversation are just to let you know they notice you.i don,t flirt with people but i will say something if they are wearing something that is nice it doesn,t mean i like them are anything like that they may have something that i think i may look nice in i will even ask where did they buy it.

It sounds to me like it was flirting, but the guy could have been harassing you as well, it is a little hard to tell.

OK so he flat out said your so cute. Honey it's only harrasment if you feel your being harrassed. For me that would be oh thank you and I'd leave it at that. I guess I tend to just take the flirting and turn it into a compliment and then leave it. LOL!! That is when I worked retail. Did I ever flirt with people while I was on the job yep at certian jobs I did and I don't feel violated when someone comments on my physical apprearance in a open setting. I find it kinda flattering unless the come off really crass and ignorant. The your cute is fine but when they start saying your Boobs are great that is drawing the line to me.

I don't think that I would find that harassment. Harassment. I would say is something sustained. If he had kept going on and on about it, or came in every day and started up with that then yes, that would be harassment. I would probably just take that as a compliment and move on. The most inappropriate compliment I was ever given (and it wasn't the compliment, it was the time that it was given that caused it to be inappropriate, was during a job interview. The lady who was interviewing me told me that I was very handsome. I didn't really know how to respond....

Oh you said in one of my posts that nobody would like to see you naked, LOL, seems is not true!!!!! Well I am kidding, but when it comes something like this, just answer back, thank you for the compliment and go do something else! Simple! Have fun!

i donot think that was flirting.that was just a cute comment. happy posting.

I think that there is no real formula for determining when the line has been crossed for anyone because something that offends one person may be considered completely harmless by another. For example, the comment made to you I would never consider to be harrassment if it was wsaid to me as it was a one off comment that certainly didn't appear to contain any venom or ill will behind it. However I think we can safely say that a line has been crossed the minute the person on the receiving end feels threatened, disgusted or uncomfortable in any way with what is being said or done to them. No I don't flirt with people as a matter of course and I also don't feel violated if someone comments on my physical appearance in an open setting. But then again people rarely comment on my physical appearance anyways! lol.

I don't think I'd consider someone saying "Your cute" as harrassment...now if he propositioned you or made a grab at you...that would be harrassment. To be honest, I don't even think I'd classify that as flirting...just a compliment and most ppl can take one. Flirting, to me, would be asking if your dating anyone, asking for your phone number or hanging around the counter trying to chat with you. I think you may have your definitions of flirting and harrassment misunderstood. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~ [/b]

I have to agree with others, lighten up, he paid you a compliment, gay or not had nothing to do with it. Would you have felt the same if it had been a woman giving you that compliment? I work in a male dominated line of work, if I took everything they said or commented on to heart, hell I'd be bringing up sexsual harrasment charges all the time LOL. Keep in mind I wear work clothes (wildland firefighter) not exactly sexy on anyone. Our little 'motto' at work is 'it's not harrasment if they like it' It is taken for what it is, a joke. I couldn't do my job if I took those guys seriously all the time. Next time someone wants to give you a compliment, take it for face value, and just say 'thank you' and go on.

for me. it depends...actually you will feel it when he really meant something bad. the same as your reaction, would just ignore his comment or a simple sarcastic smile would do. he still a customer... as a girl i know when someone looks at me like he is imagining things or whatever,if you know what i mean...i would just turn and go as far as i can to that person...

I think he was just being nice. If he said something sarcastic and vulgar than that would be harassment. Just relax and take it in stride.

I believe its not harrasment but rather a compliment probably he is also a ga and appreciated your looks. Do not get offended that easily as far as I know saying your cute is a pick up line not harrasment. Relax there my friend just simply go on and dont get bothered.

I think you're going a little overboard. He just told you you were cute. I wouldn't really consider that harrassment or flirting. I don't see what you being gay has to do with someone giving you a compliment either.

well, you have the 'customer's always right' rule to think about sometimes. if i was in that situation i would just smile and say thank you regardless if it was a guy or girl. as long as it doesn't get past that point. just remember to be polite. I wouldn't consider it harassment with a simple compliment or innocent statement. if it was something obscene and vulgar then that's another story.

I don't find the comment violating in anyway. "you're so cute" comes out of my mouth on a daily basis. If someone commented on my physical appearance in this way I would be flattered not bothered by it but that is just my opinion and if you felt it was wrong then thats how you feel, you have the right to feel how ever you want in situations like these.

I've worked in the public for years and you'll get that. Take it as a compliment and let it go. It is part of working in the public. I actually don't mind comments like that...they are nice. Some cusomers are rude and some make comments that will make me feel self-concious. Those are the ones that are uncalled for. Telling you your're cute is NOT harrasement at all. If he kept coming back and pursuing you...that may be harrassment. From what you've written, it is nothing at all to be concerned about.

well i do flirt at a times at job while working its my nature being a normal guy.but if i feel uncomfortable or i m being commented for something i think is not right to comment at i really go for the heat.i dont take no nothing froma nyone be it my boss or my juniors or fellows.aout ur situation i dont know .

Well for me it would be harassment, if I find it offensive. If I was offended badly in any way by a comment then I won't consider it as flirting.

I dont feel its harassment, he gave you a compliment and went about his day. Now had he continued to make comments that could have been taken wrongly then maybe, but saying you were cute was nothing cross in my opinion. I will be friendly with ppl at stores or waiters at a restaraunt, and i like when they are friendly back, however yes there can be a point of crossing the line, but one comment such as this i think was fine and nowhere near harassment.