Do I stay in this friendship??

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I have a close, dear friend that has a serious problem. This "problem" is her husband. She is a wonderful woman that would give her last dollar to help anyone that needed it. This guy she has been married to for about 25 yrs and for about 20 of them he's been mistreating her. No physical violence but enough emotional and mental abuse to last a lifetime! From his constant relapsing back to drugs, and jail.To his laziness and not helping her to support their family, to the cruel way he speaks down to her as if he is better than her. At first, when she finally confided in me with this mistreatement a while back I tried to help her. I tried to convince her that she deserved better than that. I tried everything, to no avail. I know, if she has stuck around that many years it would seem nearly impossible to get her to leave him now. Well, I soon realized that maybe I couldn't convince her to go. So, I just continued to be her friend and listened to her everytime she brought up another thing that he did to her to hurt her.This guy is a real j*cka@s! It husts me so much when I see her tearing up, but lately, I've also been getting upset,kinda angry with her.I get frustrated because she complains about it yet she does nothing to change this situation.I have even offered her to move in with my family however she is older and her main reason for not leaving is because she takes marriage very seriously and believes she is to stick by her husband regardless of anything! I want to continue to be her friend but, it's getting difficult to just stand by, not able to do anything.I just get angrier and angrier. I dont want to sound harsh or like a bad friend but, sometimes I feel like telling her I cannot be involved with this anymore,it's actually stressing me out!Did you ever have a simular situation?What would you do or say if you were in this situation?I really could use some help on this one.I dont want to lose a good friend but, this is so stressful!