Do you feel your discussion is wasted when you don't receive a lot of responses?

@richiem (3644)
Philippines
September 10, 2008 6:00am CST
When you have started what you think is a very good discussion and then after some time of waiting, you see that your discussion is getting less number of responses than you have expected, do you feel that the discussion is wasted? Or do you just go on with your myLot life, responding to other discussions, saying this is just another fact of myLot life? In my early days I have felt that. I thought I have started a great discussion, very easy to answer, and anybody can answer, but only get one response. It's frustrating. Have you felt that too?
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@abhichin (159)
• India
10 Sep 08
No, it's not a matter of frustation as there are a lot of discussions going on, so if you do not receive response to one discussion , you may get hundreds for some other..
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I don't try to make a lot of discussion in a day because I am thinking if I would do that, my discussion would be competing with each other. I try making 2 discussions a day. Have a nice day!
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Yes, I would feel that way if I made the discussion a couple of days ago.. I would wonder why I didn't get as many responses as I'd hoped that I should have gotten. I would feel like as if my topic was very boring or dull.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
We really can't expect that we will receive responses to our discussions. But if our discussion have no response, it doesn't mean it is dull or boring. There are other factors like timing. Have a nice day!
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@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
10 Sep 08
No I don't really feel frustrated. It only means it wasn't meant to be. It gives me a challenge to do better next time I start a discussion. I have to be truthfull and say I don't start a lot of discussions, but I know I should do it more. Have a nice day
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
It wasn't meant to be. We should really be challenged to do better. From the time I made a discussion which received no response, I always try to think of discussions that would be easy to respond to. Have a nice day!
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@jfxrsch (1041)
• China
10 Sep 08
I don't feel frustrated at all. There are lots of posts every moment. older ones are easily get refreshed to older pages. So, if you post during the time that most of people are sleeping, when they wake up, your post probably already gone.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Time happens really fast here and when your discussion doesn't receive early attention, it is easily buried under other discussions with no response. Have a nice day!
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• China
11 Sep 08
@ i agree with you!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
thanks, justsoshow!
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@Erin88 (348)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I don't mind if I don't get a lot of responses. I am happy if I get any. Getting any feedback is nice. I like getting a lot of responses, but I appreciate it anytime even just one person takes the time to respond. I understand why you felt frustrated when you took the time to write. I think it's just that there are so many topics and questions that not all the questions get a lot of responses.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
There are really a lot of topics and discussions here. I have read someone say it's about a thousand discussions a day. I try to make my discussions easy to answer and unique. Have a nice day!
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10 Sep 08
Yes but just not mine. I see alot of ridiculous ones for example picking your nose to the color of blue jeans. These seems to get alot of responses for some reason. It's beyond me why people waste their time with it. There are alot of good discussions out there that deserve a comment or suggestion. We all have our opinions and this one is just mine. This is not meant to offend anyone.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
No offense done. Though I am one of those who make discussions with less serious topics. I think people like me who are earnings-oriented want to find discussions which are easy to answer. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Thank you for responding to my discussion then. It means you should like my discussion or have something in your mind. And I appreciate it.
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11 Sep 08
True. I'm not here to earn money. I just like responding to discussions :0)
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@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
11 Sep 08
No, not really, because sometimes that one answer can be really insightful and may help one person out there in need. Sometimes it is good to get what is on your mind off so you can move forward. This can be a good outlet for that.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
You are right. Even when I get only one answer, and that answer is very helpful and informative, I won't feel that the discussion is useless at all. Have a nice day!
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@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I recall reading someone's post a year ago when I was still relatively new here in mylot, regarding the secret or guide to getting a lot of online friends, earnings, and replies to one's discussions. And one of these ways is to start your own discussions. I thought this was a good idea so I followed it. Unfortunately, the first few discussions I introduced here went unresponded to, or the other ones got replies fewer than three. In contrary, I admit that I felt a bit disappointed with myself because I assumed that the discussions I started were uninteresting. Yes, you're absolutely right, it's frustrating. As a result, I resorted to not creating my own discussions for some time. Personally, these unreplied discussions of mine or those with less than eight responses become my unresolved ones because I'm still not losing hope that weeks or months from now, they will be answered by other mylotters. Also, I am waiting for eight or more replies in each discussion before finally marking the best respondent. But after a few months and after I gained more friends here, I tried doing my own discussions again and happily, I got several replies to them; even to the point of being surprised because of much responses I received but not as much as fifty replies, like you already did here in this particular discussion. I feel that I must congratulate you about this because finally, "you've broken out of the mold", as other people say.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Thank you for that "broken out of the mold" thing! I really appreciate it. I think what made my discussins successful is the number of friends that I have. So, I should really thank them. Have a nice day!
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@leafgxu (472)
• China
10 Sep 08
Everyone is happy if his or her discussion have more responses but if it don't have more responses, it isn't mean your discussion is wasted. Maybe your discussion is started in a wrong time, at that time, less people come to mylot. I think the things you should do is waiting. There are many people here but they don't meet your discussion in a short time. Maybe a days later, someone meet your discussion and will give responses. Also, you can make more discussion and make more opportunity to have more responses.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I am always thinking of making more discussion. But when I think about it, it's like my discussions will be competing against each other. That is why I only try to make 2 discussions a day. Have a nice day!
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
And maybe 5 months later you might get some more responses to it. I respond to all of the mylot digest discussions and since I am behind in my emails I respond to some pretty old discussions.
@gemini_rose (16264)
10 Sep 08
To be honest with you, it does not really bother me that much how many responses I get to a discussion. I find that the less I get, the more time I can spend chatting to the ones that do respond, when there is a lot it becomes tedious trying to talk to everyone. I think that as long as I get one response then I know that at least one person has understood me and has connected with me through my discussion.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
12 Sep 08
Thanx for B R XxX
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
you're always welcome!
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
That's a good one. With less responses to my discussion, I can easily manage to comment on the responses and still respond to other discussions. Have a nice day!
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@sophialin (2677)
• China
10 Sep 08
actually it's frustrating if your discussion which you think is very good but received fewer responses as you expected. i do feel that kinder of wasted.thus usually i comment on it through which i make it more possibile be seen by my friends.
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
Funny, I do the same thing. I try to go to some of my old discussions and make a comment on the last response to get more exposure to the discussion. I find it works most of the time and I receive some more responses, but it doesn't always work.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I also usually comment to keep the discussion fresh and receive more attention. But sometimes it doesn't work. Have a nice day!
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@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Oh yes indeed. it's very frustrating and I admit I used to get very frustrated about it but now I just take it in stride and try not to mind. In fact I even posted a discussion about it pointing out that trivial topics get more responses than discussions which require some thought. ha ha. Well I guess c'est la vie!
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
As I said in my response I just take it stride now which means I accepted it quite early that this is just a way of myLot life.However, since I want to spare as many as I can from frustration, I usually check out the no response section and respond to discussions which are interesting. In that way, not only have I shared my opinion or ideas on a topic but i also have spared or lessened the poster's frustration.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
There always will come a time that you just have to accept that this is a fact of our myLot life: that not all discussions receive a lot of responses. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
You are very great for doing it. I rarely do that now. Before, when I was new here, I do that too. But I always offer to those with discussions with no response to send me the link of their discussions. If you have them, you can send me the links. Have a nice day!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
10 Sep 08
i would probably be disappointed but when u think about it there are so many of the same questions on here u r lucky to get an answer most of the time.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
There are a lot of discussions started here day in and day out. I have read someone said it is 1000 discussions a day. Imagine your discussion is competing with the other 999 for attention. Have a nice day!
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• Australia
10 Sep 08
No discussion is ever a waste,sometimes it only takes one person to respond and have others decide to join in .
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I don't feel much frustrated if there are some 5 responses or more. But when you see only 1 response to your discussion over a week, sometimes I would feel sad. Fortunately, I receive a lot of responses, thanks to my myLot friends. Have a nice day!
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I dont feel that it is wasted because I dont have alot of time to spend here in fact sometime I dont get here for a few days and can only respond to a few discussions before bed time,I feel I have made a few friends here that respond to my discussions and thats what counts so I guess I just go on with my mylot life when I can. I have felt frustrated when I respond to discussions and the person I responded to did not feel it was necassary to respond back but responded to the post ahead of mine and behind mine and never even said thank you to me so I just quit responding to him since apparently he dont really want to be my friend. I enjoy mylot though so I will just do my own thing while I am here. You have a wonderful night and dont give up on getting response's.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
13 Sep 08
But what I am saying is that this person will respond back to the people right in front of me and right behind me so I dont dont if maybe he just dont like me are if what I am saying is no good to him but I quit responding to his post so maybe he will delete me soon because one of his post was about if his friends didnt respond he just deleted them. You have a wonderful evening.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Maybe you are thinking of the same thing. He thinks your not responding to him. You think he's not responding to you. I don't know what you can about that.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I am guilty of not responding back to my other friends. This is because I am focusing on responding to discussion under the interest "mylot.com". So I am not replying to those discussions that are not in that interest. But I maybe sometime I will. Have a nice day!
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
Hi richiem, what's up. This is a very good discussion. I do notice that some discussions which have more or less repeated questions are having lots of responses and that is a real wonder actually. I am thinking whether discussions are answered to due a popularity of someone or rather someone answering from their friends' notification settings. I am answering yours on the latter basis, and at the same time, I saw your discussion reaching the today's top and I congratulate you for that. On the other hand, coming back to the topic, it would be a real bummer if there are not many answers for a post and it would be pretty discouraging, I think. If I'm correct, as for myself personally, I only have around 1 discussion with 0 response, and that was a topic on Xomba, ha! But I didn't mind that, really because it was my first few moments with mylot. As for discussion with not a lot of responses, I have too, but I don't mind because at least there are people answering and I could get a second view on things or perspectives from there. And more or less, I have gotten the answer that I need after the 2nd page or so. Mostly, anyway. Have a cheery day.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
You are very much welcome and I will find time to send you the link perhaps soon. Because I don't know whether the discussion still exists or not, ha! Have a super duper day.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Wow! I didn't see this discussion in the today's top. Thank you for informing me. You can send me the link of your discussion about Xomba and I will see if I can respond to it. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I will have a super duper day! Thanks! I'll be waiting for your message.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
10 Sep 08
If one person replies to my discussion, with some thought, not just answering to earn more time on myLot, I don't think that it's a waste. I only post a discussion if it's something that I have on my mind. I don't start or reply to discussions that have no meaning to me because I don't post just to earn. It has to mean something.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
11 Sep 08
And there is nothing wrong with coming here to earn. That's why it's here. I just think that some just want to come, put in a few words and not do anything that's worthwhile and I think that is why myLot gives more for thoughtful posts.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I hope people don't consider me as that kind of myLotter. Even if I came here for the money, I try to add quality to my posts (because I know that is paid more).
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I must admit that I post here to earn. But I always try to include quality to my every discussion and responses. I try to make discussions that other myLotters would learn something from. Hope I am doing it. Have a nice day!
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I'd like it if people responded but it doesn't bother me if they don't. I get to gab about whatever I want and get it off my chest so to speak.
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Good for you to find this place to gab about whatever you want. As for me, I go here to earn money that is why I want my discussions to have a lot of responses. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Good to be friends with you!
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Since we are both posting a lot do you want to be friends?
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Sometimes yes i feel bad but just a bit, i just think that maybe my discussions is not that interesting. Sometimes i do it, i don't want to interact with those discussions who's not in my interest, i just keep on posting. We cant so anything about it.
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• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Yea, keep going! Don't let a few "failed" discussions spoil your enjoyment of myLot! Cheers~
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
You should start looking for friends who have the same interest as you have so that when you start a discussion about this interest, you will have better responses. Have a nice day!
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Yeah, i know that's why i keep on posting...
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
11 Sep 08
Oh yes! I BARELY get any responses and here I thought my discussion was interesting, and then I get discouraged, not much, but a little, but then I move on with the rest of my day, and just keep responding to OTHER people's discussion on here. But yes, I completely understand.
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
It's really hard to expect that we will receive a lot of expenses. Even if we have a lot of friends, we can't still guarantee that they will respond to our discussions. Have a nice day!
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@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I mean responses! Thanks!
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• Canada
12 Sep 08
...expenses? or responses? haha
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