What do you call your mother-in-law?

I call my MIL by her first name. I would feel weird calling her "Mom." I lucked out with her. We get along well and she's easy to be around.

I try not to call her anything at all. She doesn't like being called by her name and I dislike calling her mom - mostly because she isn't my mother and never will be.

I call my future mother-in-law a saint for all of the Hell that she has to put up with. Honestly, she is a wonderful woman. She takes care of a husband who does not acknowledge all of the work that she does, a daughter who is completely special needs, and her son (who is my boyfriend), who does not truly realize all of the crap that she has to put up with from her husband. She is such a wonderful, and her husband does not derseve her. My boyfriend knows how I feel about his father, and sadly, if I ever do marry my boyfriend, I will love my mother-in-law, but I will not at all love my father-in-law. It will be close to having my mother's boyfriend around all over again. There is only one woman that I can ever call my mother, and that is my mom, but I rarely ever call anyone mom and dad, I just cannot do it. My real father was absent from my life, and my mother was always working. My grandmother was the only person who ever really a mom to me. I will call people by their first name, unless they say otherwise. My future mother-in-law knows that I will never call her mom because I do not do that.

I called her by her first name. =) I liked her more than I liked her son, lol.

I call my mother in law mommy and my real mother as mama.Its spells and pronounce differently so theres no confusion.

LOL..keepin it clean. I call her by her first name and I call my father in law...dad. Don't know why. My husband calls my mom...mom. I guess it's just whatever you're comfortable with.

I don't speak to my in-laws at all and I intend to keep it that way. I can't stand those people.

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My mother always told me to treat my mil as I would my own mother, so its always mummy or sometimes I call her nani as the kids call her. nani is grandmother. I love her very mmuch and she is a grand old lady. Both my mums are also on very good terms and its a pleasure to be with my mil. Its because I dont make any difference between my mums, I get along well with my mil too.

I call her by her name, I never call her mum or anything like that. I am not really very close to her, I tried to but she was not really interested. I get the impression that she does not really like me all that much!

Keep it clean lol Mami, Oma or Ilse...

Before i get married to my husband i used to call my mother in-law as "Tita" a respect word in our dialect. I feel strange to call her mom before coz he maybe get shocked and think i am too excited to call her mom lolz. So after the wedding, she said to me that i can officially call her "mom". That's nice. I never called her on his name, i feel i never respect her if i only call her name. I have no problem of calling her mom in front of my mother coz i called my mother in different way which is "mamang or mama".

I knew my mother-in-law years before I met mu husband. She and I have been fairly close for a long time, almost like a second mother to me. I call her both mom, and by her name. It all depends on the situation and time. More often than not, I call her Mom. I have not had to deal with the situation of my Mom and mother-in-law in the same room at the same time, so I am ot entirely sure how I would adress her then. Probably by Mom. My mother would understand because she always called Dad's mom, Mom too.

I called her "Miss Edith", "Ma'am or Madam",... she doesn't like me, so I think it doesn't matter...

In my society it is traditional to call one's MIL mother . So, I also follow that rule . My wife too call my mother mother . In fact, calling one's MIL by her 1st or last name is unhtinkable at this moment in my society .

I always just call her by her first name. I used to call her Mrs... when we were dating to be respectful, but now that we're married I use her first name cause she asked me to. She has also mentioned to me a few times though that I could call her mom, but I still just feel a little weird saying that. I love my mother-in-law, but it just doesn't feel right to call her mom yet for some reason. Maybe it's partly because I haven't been married for too long yet, so I need time to get used to it. I think maybe I feel kind of the way you mentioned in your post--like it's being disloyal to my own mom or something if I call someone else mom. I know that my real mom wouldn't be offended or anything, but it still seems kind of strange to me.

Well my fiance and I are just that, fiance's. Right now I don't really call her anything, I just start talking. I suppose that in and of itself is rude, but I just don't know what to call her. I wouldn't have any problem calling her mom and more and more so I find it difficult not to want to say it, or rather what I call my mom which is "mama". I've called other people's mother's "mom" or any variation of, so I don't know why it's any different now. I suppose it's because she is my fiance's mother, and thus, calling her mom would just be different from when I called other's Mom before. I even call a new friend's mother mom, although it has been a year since we met. I honestly think that I won't know what to call her. I don't like saying Pam, it's so formal and well also so respectful. I respect her, no doubt about it, but she's more then just a formal name to me. She's my fiance's mom, the woman who shaped the man I love. The woman who made it possible for me to find my soulmate. "Thank You" just isn't something you call people, though! Heh! I do know what you mean by feeling disloyal to your own mom, and I can understand that your mom doesn't really mind. I suppose some people just view it as what your Mother in Law really is. I can't see you or anyone else going around all day saying "Mother In Law" or even MIL for short. So, Mom just fits. Have you thought of using a variation, maybe "Mum" or something of the like?

Because I met my mother in law before I met my husband, I always knew her as Fran and that's what I called her, most of the time. Sometimes I called her mom. Same with my dad in law. I know my mother did not like it but she never said anything. She is very weird that way.

I called my mother-in-law by her first name. It might have been different if we had lived closer, but when you only get to see one another once every year or two, there's no time to develop a close relationship. I believe that my husband and I had already been married over a year before I even met his parents.

I called my mother in law wonderful. And also by her first name. She welcomed me like a daughter and even though we came from very different cultures and parts of the country I know she loved me.