Do you let people into your circle of friends easily?

@likaes (496)
Singapore
September 11, 2008 9:59am CST
Almost everybody has their own clique of friends that they hang out with, joke about, tell stories about their day and so on. They bond and become close together. What if someone wanted to join the group? It can be awkward at first, or does he immediately join in and start interacting? Do you let him join in? Or be wary of him initially, trying to judge his character? I think the best way to find out is to let him join - that way you can make a new friend and your circle gets larger. What do you think?
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tin_cierva
@tin_cierva (241)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
circle of friends for em has its layers, the outer core and the inner core.. if someone maage to surpass the obstacle of the outer core:being true, real, one for all, all for one.. then that's the only time he can have the access at the inner core, but that access will also require time and effort.. for a true friend, that's a piece ofcake.. friendship for me has only simple requirement: BE YOURSELF.
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Of course, well - who else would I be? =D just kidding Interesting way that you put it - one must prove himself first to gain acceptance.
elitess
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
11 Sep 08
No, i don't let him in easily. The only case in which i make an exception (at least in appearance) is when the person involved is a girl/boyfriend of one of my current friends, but rather than say that i let them into my circle of friends i would say i tolerate his/her presence there.
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Why not? A precaution on your part, just in case the person turns out to be nasty or might cause problems? I can understand a little why you wouldn't want him or her there though.
sunshine4
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
11 Sep 08
We have a certain group of friends that go out about once a month. There have been times when we have invited other, but they just don't seem to get us!! We are a weird batch:) I think it is good to invite others when we go out with our circle of friends, but it is hard for them to fit in and feel comfortable.
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Haha - I guess it's true what they say: birds of feather flock together? Maybe it's this strange quality about your friends that make others not able to get you guys.
comfort55
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
11 Sep 08
Hi Likaes! Yeah I agree with you that in a group one should let a new person join but what usually I've seen that most of them are not willing to . This I've also experienced when I was relocated and wanted to join a group. I had only one friend through whom I wanted to join, but she indirectly gave me a hint that most of them were reluctant.
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Ah, kinda disheartening not to have people accept you, especially when you haven't had a chance to prove yourself. I hope you've found new friends since!
cindy003
@cindy003 (21)
• China
11 Sep 08
i don't mind.but it is a little hard to join in a new group.I can give you a proposal:be friends with everyone of a friends' circle.it will work~
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Haha, then isn't that already being considered as part of the circle, if you were friends with all of them already?
trisha_nava82
@trisha_nava82 (1379)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Normally in my clique of friends anyone that wants to join in our circle of friends is welcome. We like welcoming new people and getting to know new people. Of course there will be that awkward moment in having a new person join in.
likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
I think we've all experienced that before. Nobody knows what the new guy is like. And it's terribly hard on him too, I expect, to be the new guy.
timekeeper95
@timekeeper95 (28)
• United States
11 Sep 08
People can come into the circle but there is an unwritten inner circle that might take a year or so before your into that.