Losing self esteem for being fat...

How tall are you? I am 140 also, and would give anything to get back down to 130!! 110 is way out of my league! I joined weight watchers and lost the weight, but then summer came with the picnics and parties and cocktails and boom..the weight is back on!! I think it takes alot of time, you won't see it immediately. Start by writing down everything you eat and count your calories. You have to eat~ skipping meals isn't going to help you loose. Eating breakfast every day starts your metabolism, so you want to do that too...usually eating protein in the morning is best too.

My wife also encountered the same way that you felt right now because she also have the same weight before she delivered my daughter which is a year and 3 months old but she never loose hope to gain the same weight that she have at this time for at this moment she is now 57 kilos but she is so persistent on her food diet just to cope up with her weight again and the thing that she do is to take a food diet like for breakfast instead of full she only take a cup of rice, 1 piece of egg and a hot dog with a cup of coffee and during our Lunch time she still take a cup of rice, piece of chicken or any meat that we make, fruits but also counted like an orange only one piece, grape then it is only 13 pieces and for Dinner she only take a cup of Soup without any hard food except Soup and vegetable salad and she did really only she is taking care of her food intake and after a year that was the time she start to have her exercise and from 79 kilos up to a year she is now 57 kilos.......try her way and for sure you would gain the same you and avoid Soft drinks......for more than a glass is not good.

The first thing I thought when I read this was, Don't skip meals. But, several people have already told you that. The second thing is, work with what you have now, not what you want it it be (your body). Do your hair, put on your make up, wear something cute. It does make you feel better about yourself even if you are not entirely happy with your body right now. I just turned 49, and have been battling the middle age spread for a few years now. The suggestions I gave you work for me. Have you ever seen that tv show, What Not To Wear? They are always telling women, work with the body you have, not the one you wish you had. That is where I got that. I am not saying don't try to lose weight, I am just saying don't stress over it. Stress can cause you to gain weight, too. And, don't be impatient with your self. Try to lose the weight slowly, learn what good carbs and bad carbs are, balance your diet. All good tips.

I believe this is a very common concern among many american women. I am one of them too. It is sad to think that this is one of the biggest reasons why low self-esteem is present in the world today. We just don't all fit the same mold. Yes, we may be overweight...even obese, but it doesn't help us any when "perfect" body images are all around us everyday. You can't escape them. I can see that my 13 year old daughter (who is skinny as a rail) is showing signs of desiring to be thin. She thinks she's fat (crazy, I know). I have tried many time as well, to lose the weight I gained after having our daughter 6 years ago (just like you, ronacruz2007! I am going to request you as a friend, because we seem to have plenty in common! It is very hard to lose weight, especially if you have a slow metablism or other health issues you may not be aware of. I am sure, like me, that you are just are your wits end on how to drop the pounds. For me, when I am really doing my best (working out, eating right, etc...) and I still don't lose weight or feel my clothes getting bigger, I get so discouraged and can't seem to pick myself up to try again. Believe me....I know what you are feeling. I have tried it ALL. You name it, I've done it. I am sorry to say that I don't have any solutions for this situation, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this and can call on me anytime if you need someone to talk to.

I've been overweight since I was a child. The only time I remembered not being overweight is before I turned 18. I've had moments of depression because of my weight problem. But nonetheless, this didn't destroy my self esteem. I guess I'm lucky to have a strong disposition in life. I don't feel ugly because I'm fat and I pity people who look down on other people because of how they look. I know I am a good person no matter how I look. If you are trying to lose weight, do it for health reasons and not because you don't like what you look. Don't skip meals, just eat the right food. Exercise more. Most of all, be happy about yourself and your family. Those people whom you think are sexy may not have a happy life, for all you know. Your hapiness should not depend on how you look but how you treat life. If you want to feel good about yourself again, count your blessings. Here's how I do it: Yes, I am 170 pounds. I am obese. But I am happy. I am happy because: - I have a very loving husband who loves me for who I am - I have a lovely 9-month old daughter who loves hugging my soft, chubby body - I have a great job which I do very well - I have loving parents who are proud of me - I have a more comfortable life than most Now, will I ever think of losing weight again? Yes, of course! Not because I feel ugly, but because I want to live a more healthy life so that I can enjoy all the blessings that I have longer.

Wow, I can't believe how similar our stories are. I have been dealing with the same thing. I've tried the pills, diets, skipping food, exercising. I think now I will try cutting the carbs, my dad did that and lost like 35 lbs! It's very hard to lose weight, and I think it's actually harder for women. Let's just hang in there. I know that cutting calories, carb and exercise all together will work probably not as fast as we would like it to, but it's a lot harder than it seems. Don't give up though. And 140 isn't fat.

Well if you have tried so many things and didn't work it's time to accept the truth that you are overweight and get on with your life. Sometimes things didn't work because you were pushing them, just leave it alone and get a hobby to take your mind off it. If you envy people that have what you don't have, you will be bitter and you might end up being rude at skinny strangers for no reason which is actually not a smart thing to do. Among those skinny people you might find those who were once in your position, only they managed to lose weight, so they might be able to give you pointers you might have missed all the time you tried losing weight. I myself am skinny since I was born, I love (and envy) Jennifer Lopez so everytime I remember her I eat like crazy. I can't be as sexy as she is, that'll take a miracle, but for sure I don't end up like skeletons either.

[i]Hi rona, I have no problem about weight but just don't lose hope! I know skipping meal is never a solution since once you will eat by the next meal, you tend to eat more that what is enough and that is because your stomach is empty! I know it's hard to lose weight but how about going to the gym even one hour after work, but if this is not possible due to family obligations, I guess you can just cut off sweets or carbohydrates intake! Dancing also will help a lot, even if you will just do it in front of your pc having some music and do it everyday for like 20-30 minutes, I know it will help you![/i]

I was 107lbs when I got pregnant with my first daughter, who will be 3 next week. I dropped back to about 117. Then after I gave birth to my 2nd daughter I am about 125. It depresses me also. Sometimes though there is a valid excuse. My doctor found that after my first daughter the change in hormones had thrown my thyroid for a loop. She said it is quite common after pregnancies because of the amounts of hormones involved. If you cannot seem to do anything with your weight you may want to get it checked out. Also, we all know metabolism slows with age. I am now 28. I do know how you feel because I am the same way. One of things that I cut out that helped was stopping drinking soda. I only drink diet. Cutting out meals is not always the answer. In fact it can actually slow your metabolism if you cut out breakfast. I no longer feel sexy either and feel like my husband is checking out every other woman on the planet. It is hard to deal with. Just get yourself on a good diet, lots of water. Count calories, lower carbs the whole nine yards. Join a gym if you have to. Self esteem can cause you more distress than is really neccessary.

I don't see why its necessary to lose anything because you're putting on weight. When I started to develop my paunch people said all kinds of stupidity to me and I never gave it a second thought. Its how you are. Some people cannot help but put on weight, by the way, so maybe you can't really help this. Its just you.

Ronacruz look at it this way...things are not always as bad as they seem. And when you look in the mirror you really don't see what others see. You see the weight, the changes that happened with the weight, and you see the lack of control...Right? It's a mental battle as well as a number battle. First things things. ditch the diet pills. Girl they will only hurt you in the long run. Second do not skip meals. eat a light breakfast like toast and eggs with juice or even oatmeal with a fruit and a glass of 2% milk. Cut out the salt

I'm conscious in the past of what my looks are, and I'm got to a diet thing and I got thinner but something wrong I still not satisfied, I think go out who accepts who you really are and find people who respects you on how you looks. Why would loose self esteem when you have husband already, single woman have anything in their power to get thin because they are looking for the right one

Being fat is not really bad looking. When you mean your fat is it really that fat or something like chubby? I find chubby people sexier that those who are slim. Also it depends on your height. If your really short then that would be a problem cause they find you really bad looking, but if your tall. Should we say about 5'5 in height, then I think that would not be a problem. You're still a hot looking mom, they'll find you even sexier compare to the last time. If you can't reach the 110, go with 130 at least. One step at a time to get you closer. Don't think it seriously, it has nothing to do with looks, it has something to do on you carry out yourself.

Same here. I've also been through that stage ages ago after the birth of my eldest child. I gained a whopping 60 POUNDS!!! Actually, I did quite a nice job losing around 30 pounds. However, it was maintaining the weight that became my biggest problem. I guess, there's no one to blame but myself for lacking the self-discpline. For years, I've been sliding from flabulous to slim and back again. Like you, I have also tried almost every single diet pill I could get my hands on - from the herbal all the way to the banned brands. They do work for a time but when the weight comes back...it comes back with a vengeance. ;) Now, I'm way past really dwelling on my weight problems. In short, I've given up on losing weight. In a way, I've learned to accept and love the kind of body that I'm blessed (too much) with. There's so much more to life than worrying about my weight.

Here is something a friend of mine who is trying to lose weight said worked . She said to make sure you eat someting withing the first hour of getting up and this will help burn off calories for the rest of the day . Her mother in law tried this and did lose a lot of weight in her first week . I am not trying to lose weight as I would like to gain some but relate to how you feel because after I had my children I felt so unattractive and still do to the point I do not like my husband to see me get undressed anymore . I gained so much weight when I was pregnant and then lost it just as fast after I had the babies that my stomach has so much excess skin that even I find it really gross to look at not to mention the stretch marks that are so bad that you could compare my stomach to a rail road track and the rail road track would come out looking better . If it makes you feel any better I am really tiny and would love to have a little weight if it would make me look prettier as I do not find myself attractive in any way . You can lose the weight and will look good but there is really nothing I could ever do to make myself look better . I tell this to my best friend all the time as she is trying to lose weight as well :) Sorry I couldn't be of more help , best of luck

from the time of my pregnancy i have gained a little weight as usual but i have got a little tummy which i want to reduce it. its a similar problem with me too that my dresses are difficult to fit and i feel really odd and i have a very good collection of dresses which i am not able to wear it and i just gave those to others and a few dresses which i can manage with, i have just kept only those. even me have given a try for losing weight like how you did by skipping meals , dieting, excercising and all but it left me unsatisfied. but from a few days i have joined the gymnastic and i have just lost a kg and i think i can lose weight but my tummy is not reducing i feel, i dont know why and how to reduce this, let me see for futher excercises and i am just hoping for the best. i can understand how you might be feeling its really difficult to become like before but atleast we can try. and i always dress up which suits me and i dont go for a tight fitting which can reveal my tummy and hence i prefer loose clothing. and i think its better you wear which suits you so that you dont feel odd for your clothing. so all the best.

have you tried doing the momy workouts? Maybe there is a group that meets up for women just like you. I know it was shocking to me but I was passing by the mall at 9 am which is an hour before it opens here. and I saw all the momies working out with mats down on the pavement and the babies happily in their strollers sleeping. Maybe there is a group like this around your place that meets up? I would check at the local library, online, or even at the mall by the customer service desk. It may sound a little silly to ask, but try it ya never know. Groups like these offer the best support as well as motivation. Keep tryin girl you can do it!