My heart got ripped out..

I am so sorry to hear that. But i think you should talk to her face to face. Tell her how you feel about what she did, that she hurt you so much by betraying your trust. In a relationship trust is very important, if you can still trust her after all what she have done then, i think you should not break up with her. The decision is yours my friend,if you can no longer trust her though you feel that you can't live without her then, there is no use in staying in the relationship. Good luck my friend, take care always!

In order to stay with her, you would have to be convinced that she was not only sorry but also determined not to let it happen again. And you would also have to be able to forgive her and not hold it against her and punish her for it. The odds against both those things happening are very, very long, I think.

You need to expand your communication with your girlfriend, intimate one. You need to ask her opinion about the relationship, like how far or how is our relationship going now. This question is what I always cross-checked with my spouse, and it's always an agenda for a quarter (3 months) in our relationship's schedule. We may prevent some "longevity" of distraction or neglected-emotional concern which may hurt us both when a problem occurs. Leaving a communication behind is a time-bomb which I had seen too much around me. They mentioned the same phrase, lack of communication. By this way, we are doing mutual-correction, which one should go/do/make along, which one else for current period. It may protect our relationship along lecturing and maturing our emotional. Forgiveness, with this method, lately is easily compounded by both of us, and I find it's quite interesting, because each period I heard many new stories from him, and else he heard many from me. Spare a day, without works or nagging event, this day must be special and a different one. It's not a daily talk, because daily talk sometimes is purposing for hearing to each other in order to be listened with -but- without a significant intimate correction. One more, let bygone be bygone. When she finds you're doing better, she won't fall in love easily with other. Because you had provided a special treatment/love to her. Good luck.

nrgdfenz hi sorry to hear she did that to you. It sounds to me like you feel that you can no longer trust her, so if i were you I would carrefully tell her how hurt you are and that you want to cool things for awhile until she and you both know what you really want to do. I think it will always bother you but give her one more chance and that is it..

Cheating is a difficult thing to accept. If you can get past it then you may be able to work it out. Right now, I think you should take a break from her because you won't be able to forgive her right away and you need some time to put things into perspective. The only thing that bothers me is how long ago has she cheated on you? She obviously didn't have the respect to tell you herself and give you the option to forgive her or leave her. You had to hear it from someone else. =/. Hopefully everything will work out for you.

The same thing that happened to you happened to me about a month ago. My boyfriend broke up with me because he got another girl pregnant. At first he didnt tell me. I just accepted the break up. Then after two weeks he called me up to say everything. He told me he still loves me and he asked for my forgiveness. Until now he still sends me text messages saying that he still loves me and misses me alot. I have stopped communicating with him altogether. Although i still love him very much, the trust is no longer there. A relationship without trust will lead to nowhere. We were together for three years and he did this to me. It's very hard to forgive. My advice to you is to move on with your life. Find another woman who is worthy of your love. You don't deserve someone who cheats.

i'm so sorry to hear about this sad news... cheating is not an easy thing to accept and i personally think that you can't continue your relationship with her anymore... unless if you can completely forgive and forget her... otherwise, it can become a time bomb in your relationship which can explode anytime whenever you have an argument with her... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

yes you should definitely leave her. no matter how long guys have been together, that doesn't really matter now. She cheated...just move on.

you need to decide whether or not it's worth it to try to work things out. why did she cheat on you? did she enjoy it?? is there something going on in your relationship that would cause her to look elsewhere? i'm not saying it's your fault but you need to figure out if this is something that she might do again.

I apologize for that. It's rough when someone you trust violates it. On the other hand, your friend seems very loyal to you and that is important in a friendship. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, it's good that she admitted it instead of denying it so that shows some form of honesty, but cheating is definitely wrong. Whatever your decision is, I wish you well.

Oh man thats tough.. If I were you, i would not go further with her. Its a good thing she told you the truth and everything but i dont think you guys are going to have much fun in the future and etc.. Its gonna be tough but hang in there!