I Am Fed Up With Being Too Nice! This Girl Needs A Slap!
By ellie333
@ellie333 (21016)
September 12, 2008 2:02am CST
The ones of you that know me know that I am a quite a loving forgiving person but this woman is really trying my patience and I don't know how to deal with her. She USED to be a friend (well I took her in when she was homeless twice, the local council paid me too when she came out of foster care) until she started a relationship with my ex husband, causing a lot of hurt to my children as she is only 25, just a few years older than my daughter 22, it is almost like she has to have what isn't hers, she slept with my friends partner too and now the date I have for this evening rang to confirm last night and whilst on the phone asked if my ex and her were having problems as she has been texting him to go out for a drink, he said he text back, are you sure you have the right number she replied yes and who it was and he replied he was busy each time. Once she gets them she doesn't want them it is almost that she has to prove she can and then move on. I have forgiven but don't want her in my life but this time it is like she is hunting down anyone connected to me to cause hurt to as she phoned another friend of mine to say this guy I am seeing tonight is with someone else, knowing my mate would phone me and say she had had the call, mind games or what, why phone my other friend, she can't stand her (she has all these numbers by the way as they were in my ex husbands address book)and my other friend doesn't even know these people so why mention it. I used to feel sorry about her insecurites but I am that annoyed I think I could give her a good slap if I saw her which is not like me at all. I have tried ignoring but each time she seems to find some way to know what is going on with me. I call her the Disruptive Destroyer as this seems to be a pattern. I have disconnected so much from anyone she knows also, even moved from the town where I used to live but she still seems to find a way without directly contacting me to upset me in some way. I almost feel like she is stalking me. I tried to understand that she had a truamatic childhood with no proper family life but does that give her the right to destroy others happiness? She is dark and dangerous and devious but I don't know what to do to stop her from playing her games. What would you do? Ellie :D
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@littleowl (7157)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Ellie...one thing I know I would do is confront her but even more so go to the police about it and tell them how she is stalking and harrassing friends of yours etc..write down times and dates this has and does happen then you have proof for the law to see specially if your gentleman friend has the texts and knows when she called him...the law doesn't take lightly to this sort of behaviour..hopefully that helps..Love and Huggles littleowl
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Littleowl, she isn't exactly stalking in the sense that she is not following me bu is actively following my life and what I do which is getting beyond a joke after al the hurt she has caused already, but I will start logging everything. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@littleowl (7157)
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12 Sep 08
Bless you my dear Ellie this is way beyond a joke now and she is definitly playing mind games with you..I do fear for you but know that you have friends and family who all support you in this also am sure that if you do take the action OT and I have said they will be more than co-operative and supportive for you-love you lots..huggles littleowl xoxoxo
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Ellie, I would love to kick her @$$ for you because I cannot stand women like that. Women like this are narcissist and she is a cold-hearted person. Here you were being kind to her, and she turned on you. I would not stand for that. I would want to slander her name if she did that to me. Have you told everyone that you come across about her, so that they know not to trust her? Do not let her have the satisfaction of getting her way.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Rogue12xmen, I would love to kick her ar*e too but it is not the answer and I am that mad now I might cause some serious damage and that is no the way either. She is not worth a prison sentence, I have my son to think of bless. There are a few that know what she is like but the word my daughter used was that she infiltrated our family once before and I am not allowing her to do it again so I think she will be the one to perhaps give her a slap. Thanks for your advice, appreciated. Ellie :D
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@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Rouge's last line caught me: do not let her have the satisfaction of getting her way. Because somehow I'm good at it when I think I have to :'p Somehow though, sometimes, I'm not so happy doing it, especially against certain people. (Just getting the comment out :')
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I know that I should not resort to violence, but this woman has no right to do this to people. Ellie was just being nice to her, and this woman abused her trust. Justice has to be served to this woman for doing something like that. Some kind of justice, any kind of justice.
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@fec139 (810)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Just the fact that you have spent so much time and effort to start a discussion about this lady, shows that you are expending too much energy on her. You must divorce yourself from all contact with her, and tell your friends not to mention her to you. Every time you engage in any conversation about her with anyone, you are feeding into her drama. As for your ex-husband [emphasis on "ex"], or anyone else she has hurt, they are adults and can take care of themselves. Take care of you!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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15 Sep 08
Of course you are absolutely right so after this discussion, no more as my energy is precious and not to be wasted on her eh! I will have the conversations with the people I know and put it to bed. I do hope she does get professional help though to deal with her insecurities to stop others getting hurt in the futurre. Ellie :D1 person likes this
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I hate to hear that Ellie. that would drive me nuts too. I would want to slap the crap out of her also. I have been in this situation many times and the best thing to do, knowing how hard it is, is to ignore her and don't give her the satisfaction of letting her upset you. She has done you enough harm already. She will eventually move on and leave you alone, most likely.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Steph, Believe me when I say I have been trying to rise above it all and ignore but whenever I seem to be getting my life sorted she starts her tricks again, like thay thorn in the side eh! I am getting to the stage where I have totally had enough. Hopefully she will eventually get fed up like you say. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Shelly, Thanks, I am trying not to let it get to me but enough is enough but at least my friends are aware of the game she is trying to play also so she may give up eventually who knows. I have been as understanding as I can be til now but this is beyond a joke eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
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@geminipunk (573)
• India
13 Sep 08
Ellieeeee !!!!!!!! Help me !! Am Cyberkunal. I hope you remember me !1 I dont know mylot has blocked my account !! i cant login since 9th of september !!I dont know what to do and all. Its been 5 days. No one is replying to my mails when i send them to mylot through the contact us option below. !! Do you know what to do !! PLease reply to my discussion about this and tell me there !! please. And please add me too. Am down to 0 again. Waiting for your reply buddy !!!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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13 Sep 08
Hi Cyberkunal, I have email myLo on your behalf as well for some sort of explanation but other than hoping you receive a reply I really do not know what you can do I am afraid. I have answered this more indepth in the discussion you have psoted. I am so sorry to hear this though. Ellie :D
@geminipunk (573)
• India
14 Sep 08
hi eliee . did any of the mylot people reply to you !! Becasue no is replying to me. I relaly dont know what to do. That money which i was supoosed to get from here was my medical money damm. I am like really sad. DO let me know about the status of the mails you have sent them . Well anyways thanks for replying here to me . Happy mylotting
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Sep 08
[i]Hi ellie,
that is very very very bad! I will be very upset and maybe give her a left and right and up and down slap! ALl over her face so she will wake up!
I know and feel that she doesn't like you to be happy, she is truly insecure and she has a problem to deal with, she wants you to be miserable as she is!
Hmmm...If I am in your situation, I will meet her and tell her how pity she is to try to destroy you and how pity she is to try everything to ruin your life because a lot of people loves you and care for you and she has not family who loves her!
I know that sounds bad but I will not think about what's the cause of her problem , I want her to wake up and remind her that whatever she is doing, I am not affected because in the end, I have so much people who loves and care for me!
Anyway, I am carried away, I feel like I really want to confront her! I hope she will find peace and happiness in her life! She is beyond insecure![/i]
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Sep 08
[i]HI ellie,
I forgot about our differences..LOL! I mean, in our Country, we can just slap anyone and no prison thing! Maybe because we don't want to pay any lawyer if we will bring the case in the court! LOL!
Anyway, I agree with you, sometimes when we are hurt, insulted and mad, we are irrational! Great thinking there! "She is just a cent and do now waste your euro to her"...A saying I always love to advice to a friend before!
Don't worry about my discussion friend..LOL! I know you will respond when you have time! Cheers![/i]
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Checapricorn, I hope also that she will find the peace and happiness that she so obviously craves but is going about in the wrong way. It is sad but I am beyond feeling sorry for the reason behind why she is as she is causing too much hurt and pain to many others not just myself. If I did slap her I would hurt her bigtime and she is not worth a spell in prison as I have my children to consider eh! LOL, not that I am a toughy but she has got me to this at present. Once I have calmed down enough maybe I will confront her but meanwhile I will try to rise above it all and ignore. Thanks for your concern, appreciated. I am sorry I haven't been on the Lot much recenty but having the new puppy keeps me very busy but I will try to catch up with discussions soon. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
12 Sep 08
I think the truly best way to handle this type of person is to come straight to he face and giving her a piece of your mind.
I don't know why there are such behavior from ladies like the one you had mentioned. Perhaps she has a personal vendetta against you...? Does she have any children now...? Married....? Is she a psycho???? 
Do take care yeah. Do not surround yourself alone with her. She might be dangerous, for all you know.
Do take care yeah. Do not surround yourself alone with her. She might be dangerous, for all you know.1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Zed, She didn't have a good homelife as a child and can't have children of her own so she seems to be intent of destroying anyones elses family life and relationships. I tried to understand the cause of why she is like she is and have forgiven but don't want her as part of my life. She seems obsessed with me rather than a vendetta but because I wouldn't reingnite the friendship after she was no longer with my ex-husband that does seem to have started her up again. She is a psycho I would say as a normal person wouldn't do this to another and knowingly cause hurt like this for no reason eh! IThanks for your concern. I will sort somehow. I am sorry I haven't been posting much as I have a new puppy that is taking up my time bless but I had to get this one off my chest. Ellie :D
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
18 Sep 08
I pray for your safety and happiness, Ellie. This woman is a very challenged person to handle with. Now do I realize that everyone has their own share of bad experiences and there will always be bumps along that happy road, but to manage to go through it all would be a happiness feat.
Do update us more on this, Ellie and take your time. It's good that the little things in life are making you happy.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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18 Sep 08
Hi Zed, I think from the discussions we have shared you know how loving a person I am and this women won't affect me sharing my magic moments with my true friends and family, she has in fact been very quiet since being found out. I will update if anything more though. Likewise I also know that you have a good heart and geniune understanding of life and its rollercoaster, all events end everntually for new beginnings eh! Ellie :D
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Sep 08
Get your date to go from bar to bar and put her name and number on every men's room wall he can find. She'll be so busy fielding calls and texts, she won't have time to stalk you or anyone else.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Sep 08
Ellie have you ever been in a public men's room? LOL
Calling the cops won't mean a thing. It's a rite of passage for young (and old) men to put 'ladies' names and numbers on restroom walls! ROFL The cops would probably just take note of the number and arrange some assignations of their own! LOL
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@ellie333 (21016)
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13 Sep 08
Oh I love that idea, but I would have to get him to do it where she lives as if someone says they have seen it in a loo in the town I live she will know where it has come from and probably call the police about it. That is a brilliant answer thank you. Ellie :D
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Sep 08
Slap her! That is what I would do, and tell her that if she came near me or interfered with anyone to do with me again she would have another one. I feel your anger a lot here, probably because I had a disruptive destroyer in my life. Someone who pretended friendship while all the time actually plotting to take over my life, I for some crazy reason never slapped her but my goodness she deserved one.
It is funny how we make allowances so much for people who have had hard lives and bad childhoods and yet they are the ones who end up being worse than anyone. Yet there are people in the world who have been through unspeakable horrors as kids and yet grow to be the most beautifullest people ever. People who use their insecurities to prey on others are the worst and she is bang out of order and needs to be told. I cant believe she is interfering with your new date, she needs sorting. No point in playing games back as it just makes things ten times worse, I tried that one too and it backfired on me big time, I should have just kicked her a*s!!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Gemini_rose. Thing is I have been pushed that far now if I did slap her I would really hurt her and I don't want to be in prison for a GBH wrap as I have my children to consider and she definitely isn't worth that, so I need to calm down. You know I am not a violent person but I think anyone is capable of extreme violence if pushed hard enough eh! I will respond rather than react in some way once I have calmed down and will probably give her a piece of my mind but she will only revell in the fact that I have got annoyed. Ignoring probably better. I haven't had that easy a life either but I don't go round destroying others happiness so no it is no excuse at all for her behaviour. I am sorry to hear that you have been through a similar experience as going through it myself it is not at all pleasant. Thanks for sharing and your advice but I will try to keep from giving her a slap even though she does deserve one eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Yep thats perhaps why you never did because these types of people are the ones that would go running to the police so I don't need that hassle on top. Ten years ago no-one would have bat an eyelid but cut your finger at work and its sue for compensation so I would probably get done by the police and then a civil action for her injuries. Grrdrr, where is the justice in it all eh!. LOL, I'm getting on my soapbox now. Ellie :D
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Sep 08
Yeah the crazy thing is you are right! And if she is anything like the cow I knew she will be waiting for you to bop her so that she can get you done. I think that was why I never slotted her because I knew that she would have me done before the slap had faded.
Funny how we change over the years, ten years ago it would have been expected that she had a slap and no one would have ever thought about getting the police involved. Nowadays we can do nothing.
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@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Oh, btw, in the meantime, you could go get a garden leprechaun that looks like her and slap that instead :'p
[But about slapping her for real... I don't know. I think it could definitely make you feel better, but in the long run, if she's really stubborn, another strategy may be in order. I haven't slapped or punched anyone because maybe I never really felt the capacity for it, or maybe my arm and hand muscles just aren't up to it (actually seriously atrophied from a lifetime of playing no sports LOL!)... maybe that's the way with you too... and although I can't really tell you what to do or who you are... I'll just say that I've always admired your righteous character.]
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Thanks Lorgen. I appreciate your input as ever. I know I won't be able to pyhically hurt her and as crazy as it may sound I believe the battle is on a spiritual level and she has gone away from the light at the moment and is being surrounded by darkness which makes her act in this way. A shame as I am sure deep down she has a good heart but is her own worst enemy really. I will try to rise above and ignore as much as I possibly can and protect myself and my family as much as possible from her effects. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Wow, You went and read 'The Way of the Peaceful Warrior', I really must get the film out and see how that compares. It is all about getting the balance right I guess. I hope for her sake that she comes back out of her darkness within and stops using it to destroy others joy and happiness. Ellie :D
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@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
... as I also appreciate your responses Ellie c",) It's always great hearing from someone so positive and rational.
You know it's not crazy at all. She really does need spiritual enlightenment. Some people sometimes just have some difficulty in seeing through the darkness.
"I call myself a Peaceful Warrior... because the battles we fight are on the inside" --Socrates, PEACEFUL WARRIOR
I got that thanks to you :')
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@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Wow... it seems like she admires you so much that she can't help but try to be like you -- get what you have, but then not really like having them... that sort of thing.
It's like she doesn't really know what she wants and she's looking at you to see what you have or what you want and then goes after it, but then realizes that it doesn't really satisfy her.
Her case is a sad one, and she is definitely troubled, but... yes, she can be dangerous too.
I remembered seeing an episode of CSI just last Sunday where a girl kept on stealing identities only because she doesn't want to get out of Florida. What I'm imagining is that she must be trying to STAY or GET AWAY from something... to run away from something, but just doesn't quite know properly how to. [When she's able to do that, I think it's the only time that she can PROPERLY get what she wants. Or needs.]
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@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi LorgenShaoufang, How are you? I have been active much recently as I have a new puppy and time is very limited but I just had to get this one off of my chest so that I would respond correctly rather than react to this situation. She does seem rather obsessed eh! I do feel for her and have forgiven her for a lot but don't want her in my life anymore, but she seems to keep trying to get through the back door to affect it in some way. I really do hope she does get the help she needs and in her pursuit of happiness she is destroying what could have been good people relationships in her life which is sad but I personally have had enough and she does in fact need to deal with the route cause and move on before she destroys even more relationships. Thanks for you wise words. Ellie :D
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@LorgenShadoufang (153)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
You are always have your emotions and head at level and that's really great about you :') and what you said just reminded me something: that one person's gain shouldn't be cause for another one's suffering.
You're okay, Ellie, I know... but it's bothering me that she's doing that not only to you but to the ones close to you...
Anyway, on a lighter side, have you got a photo of the puppy somewhere? :') I'm really more of a cat guy, but I also like them, having a lot of friends who treat their dogs as family members =')
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
13 Sep 08
Ellie, this horrible, horrible woman is definitely trying to hurt and undermine you. The very fact she is now stalking your new man proves she is just as you say - a dangerous and devious cow. It is fantastic your date told you what had happened, and is aware of the situation - it sounds as if he is far too intelligent and decent to be caught up in her horrible game. Your other friend is also keeping you informed of this woman's manipulation, so at least you will be aware of what's going down. I seriously hope karma has its way very soon - you have been so good and kind to this person, who is obviously so twisted and jealous she wants everything that's yours. Maybe she wants to BE you. I don't even know what you can do - it's easy to say ignore her, but that would be impossible when she's poking her sticky fingers into your life every way you turn. These type of people tend to self-destruct in the end. I really hope it's soon! Bless.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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13 Sep 08
Hi Guybrush, I'm pressing the destruct button for her now LOL but seriously she does need help of some sort as she does have very low self esteem to be doing this I guess either that or it is a serious mental health problem. I asked the guy last night directly about this girl she told my friend he had been seeing and he couldn't even place who I meant to begin with and then when he realised he said he had maybe seen her out and about but not to speak to since she was pregnant which was when she was with me so he is defintely aware of her games and will steer clear if out in his hometown as that is where she lives too. I am such a content person as you know and the silliest of things keep me happy and joyful and I guess she wants to try to make me as sad as she is. I posted this here to get it out of my system so I would respond to it rather than react if that makes sense. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
wow....well, I would confront her and ask her out right, "What did I do to you? Do I remind you of someone that REALLY screwed you over? Why do you feel the need to call my friends and state that someone I'm seeing is seeing someone else? Why are you asking MY current beau out for a drink, when you don't know him, and he sure as HECK doesn't know you? Why are you doing this? You need help, but I am NOT going to be the one who helps you this time. This is your chance to get out of my life, smarten up, OR I will have a restraining order against you."
Just CALL her out on everything you know she's done. Of course she's going to deny it, but hey, just keep on going through your spiel to her, tell her you know for a fact it was her, and that she has no business talking to, acknowledging, texting other people that are associated with you.
BUT....do NOT say you regret helping her...you can say you'd LIKE to say that you regret it, but can't, because it's pointless, since it already happened.
Tell her she's also VERY ungrateful for everything you've done for her, and she's pathetic, and no matter WHAT else she tries to do, YOU know you're better than her and that's all that matters, that YOU know, and that you don't have to prove anything so horribly like she has been doing.
Well, I wish you GREAT luck with this one, I know how it is to deal with an ignorant person who is out to get you. IT SUCKS!!
@ellie333 (21016)
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15 Sep 08
Hi Candymarie, I really do think she needs professional help though to deal with the root cause of all her insecurities, and anything she shared with me back then in confidence still is as that is who I am. I have made my friends all aware now in case she manages to contact someone else. It definitely does suck, she needs to grow up. I have calmed down a lot now through posting this discussion as if I had confronted her immediately I would have ended up hurting her and she is no worth me going to jail for either, I have my children to consider and she would have that eh! Thanks for your help and advice, appreciated. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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30 Sep 08
Hi Candymarie, Oh no I know you didn't mention confidentiality but I mentioned that to give you an idea of who I am because I do know some people would share all these things about her that I know because of what she is doing but I have kept stum. The breaking of the chain seems to be working as have had nothing since. Ellie :D
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I didn't say anything about going against confidentiality, since I'm suggesting talking to her face to face, also what she's currently doing has nothing to do with confidentiality, on your part anyways. And how would you be the one going to jail? That part confuses me ha ha.
What she is doing, by my way of understanding, is harassment, hence, she's in the wrong, hence restraining order. Point A - Point B - Point C. Or Circle...but you don't want a circle now do you, eh? Keep it a line, no connections from the end back to the beginning.
But hey, glad you're feeling less stressed about this, and hope it doesn't build up to a point where you're going crazy. Thanks for responding to me!!
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
20 Dec 08
That's awfull, Ellie! You are right, she needs to be putten back in her place!
There is no reason good enough to destroy other peoples lifes. A lack of love in your childhood is a big challenge, but shouldn't be the cause of these things.
If it is, she needs therapy; and I mean that in the nicest possible way. Clearly this can't carry on much longer. She needs to hear the trueth and start taking responsibility for her actions, she's an adult and should start acting like one.
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@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
21 Dec 08
You are right, Ellie. There is no point forcing help onto someone; it will only work when the person is willing to accept it and make a change. I hope that her moving will help you to move on aswell with your regular life. All the best! .
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@ellie333 (21016)
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21 Dec 08
Hi Cyberfluf, I think she seriously needs counselling myself but whether she bothers to seek help is up to her. I think eventually she will have to recognise the need for it but thankfully all quiet and I have heard that she has now moved to a nearby city so hopefully she will stay away now. Huggles. Ellie :D
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Unfortunately, throughout my life here on earth, I've ran into quite a few individuals who thought the world should revolve around them, and once they got what they wanted spat it back out like a rotten piece of food. I have had people come up to me, whom I thought were my friends, tell me to my face that in an instant they could break my husband and I apart, and do intimate things as well with him. Now what kind of friend would do that to another person? In most cases they were only saying it or trying to do it, to get attention, but in all cases my husband and I just ignored it and eventually they stopped all together coming around.
Just because your friend had a troubled past, does not give her the right to make everyone else as miserable as she is. She needs to find herself and live her own life, not try to live the life of you or anyone you may know. She's doing it basically just for attention's sake, so I would just ignore her and tell everyone that you that she is contacting to ignore her as well, but do let her know that if it continues you will have restraining order put against her and I think the others she is annoying should follow suit, just so she gets her through her head that she's going about getting attention in all the wrong ways.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Sep 08
You're welcome Ellie
This kind of situation tends to scare me a little. Sometimes a person that is doing that to someone, can in the end, become dangerous. Not saying that this person will, but just her actions are scary enough in their own way. Might also help have all phone numbers changed and kept unlisted. I hope this gets resolved soon, until such time you will be in my prayers and thoughts.
This kind of situation tends to scare me a little. Sometimes a person that is doing that to someone, can in the end, become dangerous. Not saying that this person will, but just her actions are scary enough in their own way. Might also help have all phone numbers changed and kept unlisted. I hope this gets resolved soon, until such time you will be in my prayers and thoughts.1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Sep 08
Hi Jeweledbluerose, yes she is attention seeking but going about it in all the wrongs ways but enough is enough and yes a restraining order of somesort could work but I doubt it. When she phoned my other frined my other friend just said look I will call you back as I am busy right now and the doorbell has jus rung and never called her back and phoned me instead to ask what her game was and what she had told her and I said well obviously to let you know to let me know about this guy to put the dampers on it before it has even started as she has found out he is seeing me and the guy himself basically ignored too so we are getting there. I have just had enough now though, it is like she is obsessed with my life and wants what I have which is a loving family but she just destroys anything good in her life. Hopefully she can turn it around but not at mine of my families expense any more. Thanks for your input, appreciated. Ellie :D
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Well, she definitely sounds as though she is mentally disturbed. I think the people that behave like this have real issues they need to work on personally. I feel for you and for her stupidity. I also feel for those who are stupid enough to act with her like this. It's all quite a mess.
@ellie333 (21016)
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14 Sep 08
Hi MH4444, Yes I greee I think she needs help to deal with the rot cause of why she is like this but people are beginning to shun her so maybe it won't be long before she gives up and deals with her own insecurities and unhappiness instead of trying to make others unhappy eh! Ellie :D
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@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Sounds like some scary movies i've seen on lifetime. This girl really sounds like she has some serious mental disorders. If you slap her then thats assult and she is not worth that. Have you tried restraining order? Oh but then you say she causes you problems even when she dont come around you. May have been a mistake to be nice to her. Pray about it.
@ellie333 (21016)
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13 Sep 08
Hi Yes I am praying about it and also for her so that she seeks the professional helps that she obviously needs and this is rational behaviour at all. I posted this discussion to get it out of my system so I wouldn't react and go slap her as that isn't my way but she was pushing me to it. If she gets help it will stop her from hurting others too eh! Ellie :D
@msedge (4011)
• United States
30 Sep 08
It seems like this woman is not happy with her life right now.If she is then she should not bother to hurt you or do anything to disturb your life.Let her feel that you are not affected with whatever shes doing against you.Ignore her until she would be sick and tired of doing those things to you.She might want to get your attention by doing such things.If i were you i would pretend that i am not bothered of whatever shes doing and continue to be happy and she would feel like a loser.
@Munchkin547 (2778)
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11 Oct 08
I'm sorry to hear this is going on with you Ellie, you really don't deserve it at all!! Some people are not happy unless they are causing other people misery, usually because their own lives are so unhappy, but there really is no excuse to behave like this, especially when you have gone out of your way to help her in the past. You could give her a piece of your mind but that's probably the attention that she wants, so that you end up saying something nasty or upleasant to her (which she completely deserves) but you end up looking like that bad guy! So i suppose you can either confront her and try and have it out with her once and for all, although i daresay you've done this in the past, or you could ignore her and make her see that attention seeking in this way is not going to get your interest and she is wasting her time. I really hope she doesn't spoil things between you and your date - is it the same guy as the last time? Mentally you should put everything about her into the past and try and let everything else she does wash over you, she will probably get bored when she realises her childish behavious is having no impact - i hope so anyway! It's easier said than done though, you've got to do what you think is bes,t but whatever you do it's best not to do it when you're angry and emotional because that way you're not in control, which means she is! xxxx
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Oct 08
Hi Munchkin, yes the same guy but I have chosen to ignore her immature childish behaviour and have made everyone aware of what she is doing so she is coming up against blanks walls to any info about me and my life right now. I have even deactivated my Facebook account as she is friends with a couple of people I am on there to stop any accidental info about me from being passed on. It has to stop. It hurts though that someone I took into my home and treated as one of my own can do this but she needs professional help and until prepared to receive she will stay sad and miserable trying to get others to feel the same eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Munchkin547 (2778)
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11 Oct 08
I think you've definitely done the right thing there ellie, and it's godthat peope know what she is up to, that way there'll be no chinese whispers or rumours she starts being believed. It's a shame you have to deactivate your facebook account because of someone else's pathetic behaviour, but at least you will always know that you are the better person. I understand this must be hurtful and feel like a slap in the face when you have been there for her a lot in the pas but some people are just nasty and they don't want any help or to change, sad but true! So things are going well with the date man then?! Must have been good if you're seeing him again! xxxx
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