My uncle smokes around my kids

You uncle should know better than to have someone tell him that he should not smoke around the kids. Where is his respect for the other people in the house, who do not want to smell his smoke? I smoke, but I have enough respect to not smoke around people who do not smoke, and especially around children. Your grandmother should be adamant and tell her son to stop smoking in the house. It is too bad you had to move, when it would have been so simple to tell your uncle to stop smoking in the house. Hope you and your children are doing well.

I don't think it was your grandmothers place to tell him not to smoke unless she didn't want him smoking in her house. They are your children and they are your responsibility. You have to say what goes around your children. You have the option to say something or to remove your kids from the situation. Doing so without saying anything, will also get the point across. Don't ask your grandmother to do your deeds for you. It was your place to say something. I know you said you moved out, but I still think you need to tell him the reason you left. If that was the total reason.

I share your worries about smoking health issues. I think that this issue could have been resolved by telling your uncle not to smoke around the kids. Its not easy when he has the habit for so long years. But discussion and persuasion would have made him realise that he is doing harm to your kids. Despite that he was in prison I am sure that in his heart there is some good in him.

My son's granddad smokes and if he did that in front of my son I would ask him to stop. I would explain that the smoke would damage my son's health. I would only let him smoke outside not in his own house when he has his grand children over to visit. You could ask your uncle not to smoke because it would be bad for your children's health. Say that it pollutes the house and it would be better if he smoked in the garden. Maybe your grandmother is scared to talk to him about some issues. He has been in prison twice so he was not a well behaved person it seems. Good luck.

If you have a problem with him smoking around your kids and he will not go outside to smoke when he is there then you should take your children out of the room when he is smoking.

It is possible she is afraid to say something to him. Maybe she is afraid to make waves. Perhaps she feels that the smoking keeps him calm and finds that a better alternative then how he behaves when he is not smoking. Possibly she just does not really mind or care. Smoking does not bother some people.

It could be that she is afraid of upsetting him. He obviously either doesn't believe the dangers of 2nd had smoke or just doesn't care. In someone elses home, you can't dictate the rules unfortunately. As a mom, you did the right thing by moving out. If I were you, I would not bring my children over there as long as he is there smoking around them. Have you tried talking to the uncle about this? I am a smoker and with so much knowledge of 2nd hand smoke now, it is just cruel to smoke around children or anyone who does not smoke. I assume that your grandmother is not a smoker. Sadly, she too, is at risk for lung disease if she allows it in her house. It is a very powerful addiction and one that I am not proud of. I have tried countless times to quit & hope to someday succeed for good. If I die because of my addiction then that is my own fault. It is not fair to affect others because of it. Maybe if you told your grandmother that she'd have to come to your house and that you can't come to hers because of this...maybe that'd be incentive for her to speak up.

It's probably just making life easier for her if she doesn't say anything. Thank goodness you don't live there anymore! Smoke is very bad for everyone but especially children.

Sometimes it is easier to ignore the subject on hand. I think your grandmother knows it is bad but can't do anything so she is just stays quiet. Good for you for moving out and keeping your kids away from second hand smoke. It took my husband a long time and several large fights to understand that too. He used to have his friends over and the smoke in the house and the house was smelly and I hated it. Until my son had a series of asthma attack and he realize the danger and stop. Now he tells his friend to go outside. So it has

I feel really angry after reading that, there is so much information abotu the dangers of passive smoking so I cannot believe that he would smoke around the children. I would have asked him to smoke outside andif he refused I would also have moved out like you did. I cannot guess why your grandmother didn't say anything, she may be frightened to confront him. I would speak to her about it if it is really concerning you.

I would tell him to stop around my kids, he can go outside. They are your kids, stand your ground. Prison or not, he needs to know that you don't want him doing it around your little ones. Its called respect.

I hate people smoking around other people who does not smoke and how much more if around kids. Don't they know how their smoke could ruin the people's health around them more than it does to them! How could you grandmother care less for her grandchildren! I just hope your uncle just go back to prison! I hate to say that but that is better than for him to cause health problem to the kids!

She probably is afraid of him. Although, if you do bring your kids over there you can always ask if he can smoke outside while the children are there. If he refuses then leave..and when your great grandmother wants to see the kids, you tell her that the only way you will bring the children there is if your uncle smokes outside. If she really wants to see the kids then she will step up and ask him to go outside when the kids are there. My unle smokes in his house too. But when i go over there, he smokes outside, or next to the open door. Now, Im pregnant so I wont go over there unless he smokes outside.

Hello Cream, I am also a Mother and a smoker! I do not smoke around the kids as a matter of fact I take it outside of my home. Your Mother might be a tad bit affraid of your Uncle, but she needs to learn to put her foot down. Maybe talk to your Grandmother it obviousley bothers you. Did you approach your Uncle on the issue? I give you Kuddos for moving!

i think you have have taken the right step in moving out.passive smoking is as dangerous as real smoking.it may cause bronchitis abd other lung disorders in children.

Its not right to smoke in fromt of the kids, not only due to medical reasons or the illness they might acquire being exposed to second hand smoke but emotionally they might think that smoking is o.k. Well i don't like it when someone smokes in front of my kids i will either tell my kids to stay away or the one who smokes to stay out! You can politely tell your uncle to stop smoking in front of your kids and explain to him well the concerns that you have, Im pretty sure he will understand. Happy mylotting!

I think you should tell him not to smoke around your kids. It is your kids and your looking out for them which makes you a good parent. Second hand smoke can cause many problems thats why it is becoming ilegal to smoke in certain places. Its against the law to smoke with kids in a car here and inside all public places which is really nice. No more smoking or non smoking it couldn't have come at a better time. I think once you explain to your uncle he will listen.

Hi cream first I am glad you moved away from the Uncle who smoked as that was so bad for your children's health. I am not sure why your grandmother did not make him quit smoking around children or why she would be afraid of him. But she should have insisted if he were going to smoke, take it outside as she did not want the air full of posionous smoke and its stench.I am just flad you got away from his smoking inside.You and your kids are better on your own anyway.

Good day... Yes I think your grandmother is afraid of your uncle. I mean grandmothers know better right? Maybe she know what could happen if she reprimand your uncle. Clearly your uncle doesn't give a rat's butt on what his smoking can do the health of his nephew and nieces. I have an uncle who saved my life once and really cares for me so I know the feeling of the opposite.

Smoking is injurious to health is a wise saying and its true.Even I feel disturbed when someone is smoking near me.It will be bad for the small kids to be near that smoke as it contains formaldeyhde which will damage the liver.Its better that you stay away from that smoke.Me too believe that your grand mother is afraid of his son.Thank You.Life happily with the kids.God Bless You