This is terrible!
By MrsRich723
@MrsRich723 (602)
United States
September 12, 2008 11:17am CST
My cousin and his wife had a baby August 2007. They live not even 10 miles away from my aunt (my cousins mother) but they would not let her see the baby! They wouldn't even give her a picture. Every time she would try to stop by they made an excuse why she couldn't come and she is not the persistent type so she told my mom (her sister) that she would just wait to be invited. My cousin and aunts relationship was not strained at all. In fact, they were getting along great until the baby was born. On top of that, my aunt works with her daughter-in-law's (my cousin's wife) friend and SHE has pictures (as in more than one) on her desk and her cell phone. No one in our family saw the baby at all but she was giving all her friends and family pictures. My aunt FINALLY saw her grandchild last week! It's been an entire year!!!! OK, here is the terrible part. They did not want her to see the baby because they said she was ugly! Can you believe that! I was first off, shocked that someone would call their own baby ugly and secondly, what about the ugly duckling theory? She can bloom into a beautiful child. I just think that's jacked up.
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12 responses
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
12 Sep 08
That's just a weird excuse, especially, if they handed out pictures to everybody else. Maybe they meant that your aunt is ugly and would scare the baby? That was the first thought that came to my mind when I read that statement until I read on.
Lol, if they really tought their baby was ugly, wow, that is telling about what kind of parent they are. But quite frankly, I think it's just a stupid made-up excuse to ease the tension. There must be more to it then the baby being ugly.
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@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I agree with you totally. Why give out pictures to other people if your child is, in your words, "ugly"? That makes no sense to me. My aunt was really bothered about this whole situation and unlike before when they had a good relationship, not it's been damaged.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
WOW!! Thats crazy. Sounds to me like there is something else going on there. Something they didn't want only his family to see. If the baby was so ugly then why did her family get to see it? family accepts family from birth (usually) no matter what. For a mother to actually say her baby is ugly is pretty bad in my eyes.
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
Exactly it doesn't matter the color of their skin or even if they are born with a disability, family doesn't care they are family and they love eachother no mater what.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I agree with you totally. Obviously there was something going on that the mother didn't want my side of the family to see but what could it possibly be? I guess we'll never know. Also, family usually accepts family from birth. Even if the child is ugly they should be thankful she wasn't born healthy and not with a disability. Thanks for the post.
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
12 Sep 08
Hi MrsRIch, do you know who I feel sorry for, the baby because if your cousin and his wife call this child ugly then when she starts to get older she will have some serious issues to deal with. As punishment for calling her ugly she probably will turn out to be a beauty and bad karma will most likely kick in and your cousin and his wife will turn into two ugly old people, on the outside that is because they are already ugly on the inside.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Yep, that's a good point. I wouldn't be surprised if she turns out to be the best looking one in their family. They are so shallow. Thanks for the post.
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@landaloo (57)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Yes I can believe it. Some people get very over protective with there kids. And new mothers are the most over protective. What is sad is that they think their child is ugly. I hope that soon they will see that this attitude twords their baby's looks can be very hurtful and harmful to the baby as he/she gets older. I hope they don't treat the baby differently and make him/her feel that something is wrong and grows up with low self esteem. Children know how their parents feel without be told.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
It's one thing to be over protective but why would she allow others to see the baby and not her husbands mother. That is crazy. Besides, you can't determine what a child is going to look like from their baby picture. I remember my senior year in high school we all had to bring in our baby pictures and try to figure out who was who. Needless to say, some of the cutest babies turned out to be not so cute as adults. LOL, seriously. You can't make a decision based on how someone looks as a baby because features change. Thanks for the post.
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@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
That's true. You hear a lot of stories of supermodels who said they were teased in school or considered themselves to be ugly and now they're on the cover of magazines and on billboards.
Thanks for the post.
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@ORichBoi (66)
• United States
12 Sep 08
There has to be another excuse besides that one. There is no way you would go an entire year without letting your mother see your child especially if they live so close. What about all the holidays they missed. That is awful to say the least. That family has some problems.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
12 Sep 08
They have problems now because my cousin and my aunt are barely talking because of this. They allow her to stop by and see the baby but it's not the bond that they should have. It's really a sad situation.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 08
hi Mrs Rich thats so awful to call your own baby ugly and I bet thats an excuse as they were liberal with everyone else
except for your aunt. Have they had some bad words with your
aunt and thus are in a bad mood towards her. Or has she
said something that teed them off and she wouldn't back down.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
13 Sep 08
People have their own reason for doing so,i guess. My best friend had a son 2 months back and she too has not made an effort to show her child to her mother-in-law!! Now, everybody outside the family think her (mother-in-law)to a very good, helpful lady But she is exactly the opposite whith her family. She use to torture my friend, say bad things about myfriend to her husband. And the best part my friends husband used to believe her!! Now he knows that his mother wants to separate them and so he supports his wifes decission not to show the baby to his mother. We all know what his mother is capable of but there is very little that they can do.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
I can't believe a parent calling her own child, ugly! What kind of parent is that. I am a mother myself and to my sight my son is the most beautiful creature. It could not be to some but in the eyes of a parent, there is always something beautiful about the child.
@jassi1 (170)
• India
13 Sep 08
they should not do so bcz parents love thier garndchilren more than thier own children and we have also a proverb in india that interst is more sweeter than the actual amount so the same here even i have a child my mother in law did not like me but i never stop my child to take anything from her or ristrict him to go near them but your cousin as shall he saw so shall he reap in future he could expect only the same thing from their children
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
13 Sep 08
People do the strangest things. I have a niece that is was the same way with her father. She would not let her father see his grand baby. Her reason was that she and her father (the babies grandfather) didn't get alone. That was the saddest thing I had seen in my life. Thank God they have come to terms, she now lets him have a relationship with his grandchild and they are inseparable( grandchild and grandfather). That is the only grandchild he has.
@rowe0525 (677)
• China
13 Sep 08
i sorry to hear that ...your aunt is bad futune..but y they do this like that ..
you know ,it is unfair ,every body is beautiful.
in my country ,,if there are something happen like this ,,they will hate them forever..no matter where they are ,, who they are
if i meet with this ,,i will feel angly ,,sometimes i will fight them
