Would you Spank You child if.....

i will never punish my child for such accidents. one should be very careful when potty training one's child not to make that experience traumatic for the child. it'll take the parent a long time to train the child if for every accident, there's spanking involved.

I wouldn't spank my kids for anything let alone a potty training accident. The poor little boy is just learning how to control his bladder and when to get to the bathroom and he made a mistake. Spanking him could actually make him NOT want to cooperate with potty training. I have never punished my kids for any accidents they have made. Because accidents happen to us all and we're usually sorry they happened. We don't need to be punished on top of already feeling bad about things. Kids really respond better to positive reinforcement than to being punished for accidents. My "kids" are now 22 and 18 and we have a great relationship. In fact, when my older son first got his license, I warned him to be very careful driving. Wouldn't you know, the first week, he got into a fender bender? Because I never yelled at him for making mistakes, he called me immediately and apologized and we took care of it. He hasn't had any driving problems since. I would hate for my kids to feel they couldn't come to me because I might yell at them or be mad at them if they make a mistake.

No way I potty trained my 2 daughters an my 4 nephews an no i didn't pop them for an accident I knew they were trying I real tick off at a mother of a boy I was sitting for he was 2 an she smack his butt with a belt for peeing on hisself then told him to sit on the potty chair till he went potty i asked her what if it took him an hour to go she said he will sit there an hour then we got into a fight about it an for some strange reason the dad got custody of him

No I would never do that! I don't spank my daughter but if she does something very bad such as bite or touch the fireplace, I will swat her hand. I believe that for younger children spanking and such warrants and teaches violence to the child.

I have yet a while to do that with my daughter but time does indeed fly so I will hit that sooner than I think. That is the thing they are children and not adults, there is a reason why they call it potty training it is a process and one needs to have a little patience because it can fail as you said because they would not want to further it if they are being abused everytime. Well, I am assuming that there is a reason behind everyone and who knows what hers is. At times people react at the moment.

This is just my opinion, but...you should NEVER spank a child for having an accident of that nature, particularly while they are still in the process of potty training. I don't have a big problem with spanking for blatant misbehavior, but in this case, negative reinforcement can cause delays, fear of natural bodily functions, and in some cases, the child will completely revert and all progress made will be lost. When my children were potty training, I tried very hard to only be encouraging. Yes, I did lose my patience a time or two, everyone does, but punishing them only hurts the process. Rewarding them helps, even if you reward them with just words of praise and encouragement. A parent should never use that kind of discipline for any kind of training - positive reinforcement has been proven time and again in getting the best results.

Absolutely not. My son is 3.5 and he still isn't completely trained either. Many times by the time he realized he has to go he is already going, and many times has went on the floor. One time, we had gone out for pretty much the whole afternoon. We had stopped at grandmas, where he claimed he had to go at first, but then said he didn't have to. I had bought him brand new shoes, and he made it all the way home with out having a accident. That is until we got out of the van and started to get our bags out of the back when we started saying Mommy pee, mommy I need to pee. and When I looked at my son it was running down his leg and onto his new shoes. How did I react. I laughed and said to him well sweetie at least you got home. I never spank my child either. I will however tap his hand if I am cooking and hes reaching up at the red hot burner, but only after I tell him three or four times to stop or the stove is going to hurt him. Maybe I am wrong, however in a situation like that i would rather he get a sting on his hand for about a second, then to be rushed to the hospital for burns on his hands.

hi proudmommy22 that would be real stupid, you are trying to potty train a child and you whack him or her for peeing on themselves? what the heck does that teach. next time the child wont even try as he figures mommy will whack him if he goofs up. 'I would never punish a child in any way for trying and not quite making it. You must be patient and in time your child will be able to make it to the potty, they all do in time. just be patient and dont punish.

I could never spank my child for pottying in their clothes. It's an accident. I don't believe in spanking children, I believe in time out, and other methods of discipline. To me spanking a child for an accident is first of all teaching them that their parents are unruly, and secondly teaching them to always be frantic of what they do. It's really unneccesary. Next in line is that fact that if the child does have an accident he is most likely going to try to hide it and not tell the truth, I always want my children to feel that they can tell me about anything that is on their mind, I want them to feel very comfortable around me not uptight or worried that he will get in trouble. And also when he is older I want him to be able to talk to me, I really want to be a big part of my childrens lives. I love them and will always nuture them as any mother would.

No I have never smacked my child for having an accident! I dont think it helps it could cause a fear or worry in the child which can just increase the chances of an accident. If either my children has an accident I just say Never mind, and I clean them and the mess up and we carry on as normal.

this type of reaction to a two year old is considered child abuse ... any state cps would take the child away from the parent .. you are correct .. and accident .. is simply an accident and besides hes only two .. think about it ... if you smack your child at two .. then what when they get older - next the belt ? this is a big no, no

yes i will

I don't think it's right to spank him/her that hard. They are just kids come on! They have just started learning too right? But if it gets a bit deliberate them spank him or try to discipline, but not using such a violent method.

No! I believe there are plenty of other ways to discipline and teach a child besides spanking, or smacking them. I think that hitting a child in any manner is just another form of violence. Resolving an issue, doesn't require physical contact ecspecially in anger, or disappointment. Physical contact should be reserved for positive feelings. I watched a child once get upset because he thought a little girl had stolen the remote and he walked up to her and smacked her. When i confronted him and asked him to explain why he didnt just ask her, he said because his parents never asked him they just smacked him, even if he didnt do what they thought he did.

If he tried to make it to the bathroom and if he is still young and in the process of learning then no I would not dare hit my child for wetting themselves. My son is 6 and I still sometimes have issues but not with peeing. He does still have to wear pull ups at night because we can't get him out of that yet. They all learn at different times and some take longer than others. when my son forst started training I was told that boys can take upto age 9 to be fully potty trained because of the rate their bladders mature. Boys bladders tend to mature alot slower than girls. I think what you told your friend was the right thing and I would have told her the same.

OMG NO !! My little one is three and still not potty trained fully yet . Each child is different and some are harder to train but that doesn't mean anything . A child will train easier with encouragement and confidence in themselves . Next time this poor little guy has to go to the washroom he will not even try for fear he will get spanked for trying !! I don't believe in spanking my children but that is just me but I don't understand why anyone would spank a child for at least trying to do something and having an accident . How would she like it if she had an accident and someone slapped her . We have to realize that our children are just like us and will have accidents just like us in anything we try in life . Life is a learning process and one will make many mistakes before they learn to do it right .

I think your friend has a spanking issue. I'm also in the process of training my son and sure he's going to have some accidents. They're only little and it's a tough thing they're learning. They have to get used to how their body functions. My son wears pullups and the other day he had an accident and went in the pullup without telling us he had to go potty. My husband yelled at him and told him that was bad. I reminded him that he shouldn't have yelled. You have to be firm with the kids but don't scare the crap out of them. That's just going to stress them out even more and then they won't want to use the potty.

No i dont spank my 2 year old because he is still not interested in potty training. my 8 year old soemtimes has accidents and i spank him because he knows better. Good luck!

oh I think that is sad that someone would do that... no i would NEVER hit my son for doing something that was an accident. Most of the time he is cute about his accidents anyway and says his cute little "uh ohhhhh" ... kids know when they do wrong, why punish them for it if it was truly an accident...

umm kids should not be spanked for accidents. especially something like potty training. i consider that abuse.