What Would You Do If Your Partner Hits You?

Definitely leave him! ALthough is is easier said than done but I think once a guy hits you, it is over. I mean over. Imagine living your life in misery being a battered wife? Marriage isn't supposed to be that way. Ok let's say you aren't married yet, then I think it is easier to leave the guy. Imagine you aren't married yet and he can do that to you? what more if you got married? what's next?

if my partner hits me , i will try to ask her why she hit me then if theres no good answer, then shes a freak and ill just leave her....

well, it had happened to me in the past before and i still had not left my hubby yet as i still love him... i did talk to him and give him warning though and he promised me to change his bad temper... i think people deserves a second chance... and if the person is really feeling guilty and remorseful, we should give him/her another chance... nobody is perfect in this world as we are only humans and we live in an imperfect world... that's why i still give my hubby a chance... take care and have a nice day...

once, its okay twice then leave it out!

First think,I wont behave in such a manner to be beaten by my partner.Secondly,if that happened I will think twice of whether to hit her or not.My principle is Live and be in harmony,not to live a life of enmity.Thank you.

Its difficult to answer this question. If he/she hits you for the first time and feels guilty immediately then may be it wont reoccur. But if it does, then yes retaliate. Dont just be a door mat

If my boyfriend started doing that to me, which he has not, I would leave him because I was raised with it, and I know that you cannot change a person once they start. Men (and women too) who do this will not stop themselves from doing it. They will keep hitting people every chance they get. No matter how much you love that person, that person will not change his or her ways.

Violence at home and in a relationship is something that I can not and will not tolerate. People should never let their partners abuse them. I have a friend who endured battering at home and it never did her any good at all. She was hospitalized a couple fo times because her husband punched a kicked her. At first, she didn't call the police but when he did the same thing to her the second time, wwe stepped in and had the husband arrested. Now, he can't come within 30 meter radius from her or he will go to prison.

It's never okay to get hit by your lover. I would never let that happen to me and if it did, my first action would be to leave that person. It is important to be safe and secure in any relationship, and abusive relationships can end up being deadly.

miraclefreebies if my husband had ever hit me, it wou ld be'the last time he did as I would file for divorce immediately. I would not let a man beat on me ever. I have too much pride and self'esteem to allow someone to hurt me and keep hurting me. love does not hurt hence the beater is not loving you he is just lusting and being power mad. I would get out of this kind of 'relationship so fast it would make your head spin.And Iwould do it before we ever had any kids too.Thank God my husband was not a violent man.He may have had his faults as I had mine too but violence was not in either of our makeups.

It's really a problem if a partner starts hitting you. But if there's a valid reason behind it. I mean a really really valid and it's like one slap in the face just out of anger then maybe it can be talked about. But hitting or should I say being beaten by your partner. It's another story. It just means it's over.

Great post miraclefreebies! I was raised in a situation like that and I told myself LONG ago, I would never be in that position. I reasoned that as a female I couldn't go blow to blow, but I would protect myself and I would not let anyone terrorize my children, as happened to me and my siblings when we would hear and see our mother being hurt. So anytime I start to get involved in a serious relationship, past a point, I share that piece of my upbringing. I relate that from what I saw, I decided that it really is NOT possible to predict these things. My mother was looking for a soulmate, a friend, someone to be there to help raise her children. My stepfather seemed perfect, when they dated he was a very nice guy, generous, not jealous or controlling-- but all that was PRIOR to marriage, he was a different person the day of the wedding. SO, I relate I can't tell who might be a batterer, from who would know better. If I ever found myself with one, I'd advise them to learn to do without sleep-- we are ALL vulnerable, no one runs on batteries and if someone feels like they can push me around, use physical means to hurt or intimidate me-- well, it might work for PART of that day, but like I said, then they go to sleep I really wouldn't hesitate to do whatever was done to me back and then some. Since I'd have already packed up to head out of Dodge, in advance. I don't trust law enforcement to deal with batterers, they have a certain mentality and just going to others reinforces in their sick heads that you are afraid of them and it seems to feed into their escalating somehow. It is very important to give them the clear message that you're only afraid of them when they are awake! LOL and if they want to be a big bully they better learn how to run on batteries 24 and 7. By the way, I guess-- since I've never been battered myself-- that I must either have good radar, or I'm convincing enough that nobody tested ever tested me around it. I've had relationships end on bad terms, but battering has thankfully remained, a non-issue. We all have the right to live without fear and in a loving healthy relationship, that is by definition.

If my partner were to hit me, I'd really lose it. I know it probably wouldn't happen but I would beat the living sh** out of her. Though this is true I wouldn't hit my partner for any other reason, and I expect the same from her. If it happens once, it'll happen again which I'd rather not make a habit, so I'd show my partner what's up.

I would leave in an instant. I am lucky and have never been in an abusive relationship, but if for some reason I was in one, I would be out the door. No one has the right to hurt another person. Ever.

[i]Hi miracle, hmm..that is tough! Let's say this will happen to me, I will be fighting back and will never allow him to hurt me..I hate this scene really in any of the relationship and I will say I am lucky having a husband who respect me! I had a friend in College whose husband is like that and no matter how we tried to advice her to leave her husband because of his abusive attitude, she remains to stay with him! After 3 or more years, we heard that she left him!

whoa there are a few things I wouuld do I have watched my mom be abused along with me an my sisters from our dad then my sister got into an abusive marriage well I have been married going on 17 years an hubby hasn't hit me or down graded me an he knows I would leave if he did first time shame on you second time shame on me an a wonderfull update on my sister she got out of her marriage an is an has been with this guuy that treats her like gold for 2 years an she is so happy now mom is still making excuses for my dad's behavior but at least he did stop hitting her just DOWN GRADES her witch I think is just as bad

Unfortunately I am one of those women who chose to be a door mat for 20 years. Most of that time it was verbal and mental abuse with only a little physical abuse. But, finally one day I had enough. He had tried to shove me down the stairs and slapped me. I snapped. I fought back. I totally surprised him, and it felt wonderful. I was no longer afraid! He left the house to call the police on ME. LOL The police took one look at my bloody nose and told him if they arrested me they would have to arrest him as well. He chose to let it go at that point. But, our marriage was officially over then. The divorce was tough - he made it so every possible chance he had. But, I got thru it and I'm free. I'm now a very strong woman and will never EVER be a door mat again.

Hhmm that would be probably goes for divorced.I hate violence so much.But i am lucky cause i have the kind of husband who never hits wife and that is my husband.We been living for a years now and we get missunderstood sometimes then we talk and solve it never happen that he try to hit me never.

hello .. well this question hits a soft spot ....how many have felt this way battered nightmares looking back to the past ...i vision you my heart belonged to only you ... my love i felt it deep within ..my memorys there clear as if a looking glass ..of my todays while i loved you ... i gave you my heart you pulled me by my hair ..you threw me up against the wall,back handed me ,and disrespected me in everyway,many tears upon my eyes rolled down face rolled many prayers were said while i took your beatings .. in my mind over & over again i ask .. god to forgive you for you knew not what you do many times .. many tears like a waterfall the more i tried to love you .. the more you beat me , kept me from family & friends while i around you ..you kept me shakin within my life, so confused and me so scared my only out , is a womens shelter for battered women , and a restraining order and yet scared for my life ... with memorys .. of my battered nightmares by : laura eggebrecht @

I would have to say that yes it is easier said than done. But for anyone who is going through something like this I feel for you very much. Its not easy to let someone you love or that you think you love hit you and than you are stuck with the desicion to leave or stay. I always try to use the rule of thumb. treat people the way you want to be treated. that usually helps me.