Did i miss it?
By mands61123
@mands61123 (2098)
September 15, 2008 9:22pm CST
I'm beginning to wonder if there are another set of rules to mylot that i didn't read. Ones where it states that you aren't allowed to have any funny, sarcastic, humerous discussions. Where you have to agree with what everyone else thinks or people will fall out with you. Where you can randomly have an explosion of anger on someone elses post calling them all sorts of names and then get upset when their friends defend them. Especially where there seems to be underlying issues that other people are simply not aware of. Where people rate people negatively for disagreeng with their comments/discussions or for no reason at all. Where points and earnings randomly disappear over night (theres a reason it's just unbeknown to me). Where friends decide to give it a rest because of the hassle and arguing. Where people constantly assume that this is their site and only what they agree with is allowed to go on. I'm just wondering where these are because i obviously missed them. I enjoy posting discussions about what i want to post about if you don't enjoy the discussion thanks for your opinion don't read it then. I want to be able to laugh and joke and have fun aswell as to get into some lengthly debates thats what i'm here for why i joined. Does anyone else feel the same? Has anyone else noticed this or am i in another dimension?
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19 responses
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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16 Sep 08
Hi mands,
I do entirley agree with you and no arguments from me, yes I do know that we have lost a few friends here oon Mylot because of some bullying from other users who don't agree with our friends and has been downright nasty and have hurt our friend's feelings and this site is meant to be like a vitual friends site, we suppose to have fun and laughters and odd occaision help each other in times of need and give each other advice anf be therir for each other, sometimes with all this bullying going on reminds me of school playground bullying. Let hope our frind will come back.
Tamara
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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18 Sep 08
Hi mands,
No I didn't get your pm about your friend joining, so send another one and let me so i can add her to my friends list. Thanks mands.
Tamara
@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
hey babes yeh like being back at primary school we'll just have to ignore them and have our own fun lol did you get your pm about my friend joining the site? ellie got hers but scoop didn't
@ellie333 (21016)
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16 Sep 08
Hi Mands, As you know I can't send PMs but I have requested your friend and responded to her first discussion and left her a huggle too LOL. I have read no where in the rules where it states you can't have funny or humerous discussions but as we know there are always people out there that object and get jealous of the F word, FUN. As you know even if someone disagrees with me within a discussion, I still appreciate their opinion and always plus rate, the only time I rated negative was when someone kept posting just a money making link into one of my discussions which could cause deletion. I try to rise above anything else but I have seen a lot of argumentative comments lately for what seems to be to be without just cause. People on myLot are the same as in life, some as great, some are nasty, some are fun, some are shy and it takes all sorts. I am upset that some of my good friends have just stopped posting completely because of some of the shannigans that have been going on. I myself went from a 10 to a 7 overnight a while back and I got really upset but that is what they want so I ignored and have raised back up a bit since then. I like you want to be able to have a good laugh and a joke within discussions and even in the most serious of ones you can still have a lighthearted reprive eh! Love and huggles dear friend, giggle as much as you want and we will laugh and play along with you. Huggles. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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16 Sep 08
Hi Mands, I have managed to send a few PMs from time to time but in general they just do not send so I have got to the stage where I don't even bother trying LOL. Most of my close friends have got it if they need my personal one so I don't worry about it too much. I am pleased to hear that your sister-in-law is having fun here already. I'm still here darling and I'm not going anywhere other than I am not as active as usual due to puppy LOL and now back at work after being ill and shut down period. The others will be back but give it a bit of time. I am not sure of the discussion you mean of Munchs as I have missed many discussions but if I had seen it I would have stepped in in the diplomatic way that I do and I am glad she remained calm about it. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
*drags scoops mind out of the dirt* no scoop you've already met her i pmd you aswell welcoming my sis in law onto here before i had my little rant last night. I know you and good and them seem to stay far away i know alot of people rise abouve it even when munch had some one literally calling her a s*ut (the woman totally misunderstood the discussion and started ranting on) she was very calm and appreciated her input. I'm 10 times calmer today its just i hate bulling and people forcing opinions on people. You know when you just think to yourself are they taking the p*ss? am i missing something here?.
I also usually keep out of it quite simply because i'm not interested it takes alot of effort to keep being that nasty and angry. It's just that it seems to be building momentum and i don't want my other friends to start going the same way we seem to loose someone good every other week at this rate i'll have no friends i'll just have these uninterested uninteracting blatent responses from people that don't really give a sh*t and thats when i won't want to stay. I can't believe you went down to a 7 (those are the things that make me mad) it happened to tamara twice as like you she is one of the sweetest people you could meet. I forgot about your pms babe (duh!) thanks for that she'll like huggles i know i do *beams* there is a little thank you to you in another discussion i'll find it and forward it on. Gonna keep posting and laughing and hope that everyone else perseveres with me just makes me upset that friends seem to be being forced out.
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
Wow - this sounds exactly like another site I used to belong to! I haven't noticed bullying yet on myLot (must move in the wrong circles!) but the one thing myLot has going for it is that people can't have your comments removed! On the other site, someone would first flag your comment, then others would come along and press 'delete' - and voila - you were conveniently gotten rid of for having an opposing view or getting a bit heated. I have noticed some people have disappeared or are giving posting a break for a while - which is a real shame. Seeing as the world is a far more interesting place because we all have different opinions, it's a pity we can't disagree happily and maybe even be willing to learn something from someone else once in a while. I hope all the 'missing' members come back soon and don't allow themselves to feel intimidated by others.
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@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
hey hun yes thats exactly it although they can't delete your posts (thank god we'd have nothing to read) they are just reporting it and asking it to be deleted and more often than not it is regardless of whether it broke rules or not. I never noticed it at first but the more i post and the more friends i make the more it's highlighted. Alot of people are loosing stars and points left right and center and it really is getting me down just how many of the people that posted interesting discussions are now leaving or sitting on the sidelines because they are sick of it all. Maybe i'm just expecting to much but i thought we were adults and could respect peoples views and opinions otherwise it wouldn't be a discussion it would be an agreement. I also hope all the missing members come back soon i like it diverse! I've hardly been here all last week and look at me already lol good to see you anyways not seen you for a while mrs need a cheer me up and you always make me laugh.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
17 Sep 08
some in mylot has upset if you replied jokes.in my list i have 2 i guess who dont accept that people has a different ideas.i am a type of people that you enjoy talking with me as long as you dont over doing it.i love to laugh and i love to make people laugh and thats what life would be 
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
18 Sep 08
if nice person there is always a bonus HUGZ
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@mands61123 (2098)
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18 Sep 08
hey bomshell yes laughter is the best medicine plus you feed me so thats always an added bonus lol
@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
was that the posting links one? yeh i noticed and meant to say but got sidetracked on other stuff sorry you are allowed to post links as long as they are relevant to the discussion (if i read rules right -real ones not ones in back on monitor) but not to start a discussion. Your also not allowed to post jokes but i've done that before i had to it was to funny not to share!
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
Thats what i mean there have been a few that i've responded to that have disappeared and thought mmm i've checked the rules and can't see why. Like guybrush said though at least they can't delete your comments lol can you imagine that half the discussion wouldn't make sense. Only person i was happy they delt with was bigbird cos i might have had to slap him if he carried that on for another month or two silly boy.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
16 Sep 08
yup i have the same problem. sometimes i post stupid questions just for fun. of course i get some serious j*rk that wants to challange me and start being rude to me about my discussions. if they don't want to agree they don't have to but no need to cut others down for not having the same opinion. i for one like to have fun also. if you don't agree just say so don't be nasty. just post your opinon and ignore others opinions on the same topic. i will definately be taking the back off of my computer to read those rules!!!!
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@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
seems to be that way i like to believe theres good in everyone but some people sure make me wonder
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
i agree they should just move on if they don't like it or don't agree ha ha good luck with that lol
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
lol... i think there is a fine print rules that we definitely miss... may be because the font is too small or we need a magnifier to read them... 
i had heard a lot about these trolls and bullying happening here and i hope it will stop as it will make our experience here not enjoybale at all... take care and have a nice day...
i had heard a lot about these trolls and bullying happening here and i hope it will stop as it will make our experience here not enjoybale at all... take care and have a nice day... 1 person likes this
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
hi lingli yeh i must need new glasses lol definately doesn't make it enjoyable but people like you do so lets hope that evens it out take care hun
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
It;s definitely in the rules there somewhere mands! I think though that it is written in invisible code and only the true negatively charged people are actually able to see it! lol. Unfortunately I have noticed the occasional flare up because people choose to get offended rather than accept a tongue in cheek reference but what can we do? I can only be myself and if people want to get shirty every now and then it at least keeps things interesting! The worst cases are when people choose to sabotage other members rather than just ignore their topics and move on.
There are so many perspectives and so many different types of people on here so it is not as if we are forced to have to interact with any topic or person in particular. Freedom of choice people! It's there for the taking.....
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@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
lol thats why they can see it and i can't! couldn't have said it better myself babes couldn't have said it better myself!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Sep 08
hi mands Ilove posting here but deplore what you said about randomly having an explosion of anger andcalling themn all sorts of names. maybe I misunderstood but is not it wrong to flame other people and shouldnt the persons being flamed not have friends who dislike thatbeing done to them? To me this is
awful. mylot says do not insult or flame. that is only right.we are adults not brat kids. keep our insults to our selves and not spew them out to hapless mylotters just to raise hell. also nobody should be sitting with one finger on minus all the time just to see someones ratings go down and their star fall. what is with people like that? I love to mylot but wish there was not that element who has to trash everything.as for not agreeing you can disagree to your hearts content just dont call me names when I disagree with you. we each have a right to our own viewpoints and to not disparage each other over them. play nice.
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@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
exactly hun were all adults we should be allowed to express opinions even if i don't agree with you it won't make me dislike you how boring would the world be if we all agreed on everything! i'd be asleep all the time i don't agree with my own boyfriend half the time thats the fun it makes me more attracted to him that he is his own person with strong veiwpoints and opinions we agree to disagree and move on end of story thanks for your input
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
16 Sep 08
Gee Mands..you wouldn't be talking about a certain someone messing with Michael would you???..lol..After checking her info a bit i realised i told her to get a life and saw she didn't have one...
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@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
hi rosekitty thats been one of the discussions yes but i've noticed it with quite a few people who are now not as active here P1sh is another one that made me see red!. Both these people make mylot an interesting place for me and to see both of them agonise over whether to leave due to all the above frustrates me it's the people that makes the site so good so if they leave what are we left with?
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
big tarts lol trust you scoop i'm not meaning to insult you guys you know i love you all but whats to say it won't get to you all one by one we should be able to have a laugh without it getting so serious and nasty all the time
@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
16 Sep 08
Every one has his own way of work at my lot. Some people like to admire the writ of their own and do not bother the view point of others they raise.The main motive to post a discussion here from my point of view is to seek the views of other if they agree to our point of view and what we think if not how they see the discussion I have posted. Some people are very casual in approach and do not see the other point of view from there angle to conclude but to say what they want to say thereby suggesting their own to irritate the person who raised the discussions. Such remarks and often offend. We must maintain patience and keep busy in our own affairs to deal with.
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
agreed sweet having your own opinion is fab as long as you don't force it on others i think often people don't think above and beyond their actions they just please themselves thanks for your response take care
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Sep 08
i'm here for: making friends, reading interesting discussions, posting
to assist someone, to laugh, to learn, and to make money.
i'm like you. if i'm not interested in the discussion, i'll find one i do
like. if i begin a discussion and it doesn't interest you, please find
another.
your questions only point out what seems to be part and parcel to
myLot. any discussion can be deleted. you can send a note to support or
admin. and see what they have to say.
i've seen bullying, trolling, accusations and name calling on myLot. and
members leave who have been here forever.
people use this site as their control or personality barometer.
i don't know if they aren't able to do this at home or at work.
or
if they always do this at home or at work !
when i see another range war happening, i hang out in cooking and cats
until it's over.
we should all be able to post to any discussion, unless it degrades the
discussion.
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@mands61123 (2098)
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20 Sep 08
hi mamasam i've made friends and have lots of fun on here but no one seems safe lol. I agree with you now i just need to find my special place to hide away from those types of people. I need to not respond to them but i can't help myself especially when they jump on my post and start waffling on. Luckily they haven't done it on one of my discussions yet i guess i just have to rise above it and concentrate on the people and discussions that make this place fun andthe reason many people stay. Thanks for your response!
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Hey mands, you are right! I don't know what's going on here
lately with all the fighting, disappearing discussions,
points, pennies, people. I'm only here since July and
I don't really know everything that's going on here,
but I've seen enough to know that some of the behavior
is really ridiculous and kindergarten like. Some of the
posters can be rude and downright mean and I don't know
why. There is absolutely no reason for this kind of
behavior. I know that in the beginning I had my own star
dropped overnight and I was extremely upset too. I had
just gotten it and someone negged me. I hadn't even been
her that long to make enemies.
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@mands61123 (2098)
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18 Sep 08
hey hun i joined at the end of july like you and i've only really noticed it in the last month or so luckily not many of it has been directed at me but alot of friends seem to be getting upset and frustrated with it. I assumed it would be different being that we are all adults but this is the first site like this and from what i'm being told it's pretty much like this all over. We just have to keep out chins up entertain our friends and keep smiling have enough to get me down in life (if i let it) this should be a fun place to be not a miserable one. Did you get my email?
@Pikelet (79)
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16 Sep 08
Surely the whole point of a forum is to gather all of the different sides of the story,if everyone only covered the good points then a forum would come to a standstill.We all have to take into account that everyone isnt going to have the same opinion as we do,an although there is no need to cause any unpleasantness,there are going to be characters that clash,there are going to be issues up for discussion that are contraversial,and that we have to accept.Religion will bring many different views as will sexuality and politics,and we will all have different viewpoints to put,therefore making a fairly readable and interesting discussion.If someone abuses someone else because of their opinions then it is sad.and that shouldnt happenin any forum,or any where else in life for that matter,but it does of course.A vulnerable person may feel quite intimidated in a forum if someone sends a hostile reply ,replies can be straight to the point,they can put your views over,and make known the way you feel,but they do not have to contain any form of bullying,abuse ir hostility.There are many discussions I have een that have funny things written in them,and those are the ones that tempt you to go back and add to them,the comedy/humour part is the atrtraction,it does us all good to have a laugh,but not at somone elses expense though
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@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
exactly thats what i thought two but so often am i seeing people just going off on one like guybrush and ellie said though you have to leave them to it and ignore them it just gets to me how many people are bullying others and forcing opinions unfortunately i can't slap them and tell them to man up and accept other peoples opinions as it's the adult thing to do. I can only hope that they will grow and learn and take something away from the discussion they probably won't though. I'm going to actively try to not let it annoy me and just carry on having fun regardless of their silly interuptions unless they get it deleted in which case i can't. I do feel slightly better though knowing others can see it also.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I agree that things have gotten pretty nasty on this website, but as for the rules that you just mentioned, they are not rules that are listed on mylot. I know that I am guilty of arguing and getting mad at some people, and I will apologize right now for it, but I am sick of people telling me to "convert or die" or people who say, "I am right, and you are wrong". I feel like I have to totally back up my beliefs every time I get into a discussion or else people are going to push me around.
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
I was meaning it sarcastically babes as in little unwritten rules that others seem to think we should abide by. I haven't had anyone telling me convert or die had plenty tell me that they are right and i'm wrong! the pushing people around is whats bugging me. I just take a leaf out of my boyfs book and just agree with them (in a sarcastic manner of course) "oh yes you've swayed me i totally agree now your opinion has been shoved half way down my throat" it makes it really hard for them to argue back and they find it really frustrating *grins*. Hope things get better for you hopefully people will realise not to get so insistant and rude but i think the people that don't do it in the first place will be the only ones to take heed.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am not sure, maybe you are on another dimension. (haha) I see joking and get to joking at times and I can see not tearing someone apart for their thoughts or veiws. However a respectful explanation can be given on your veiws. Oh man, I guess the real life is getting in here to.
Well I am with ya, I think that your expectations have not been wrong. Just dont reply if it gets out of hand or find another interest area that avoids this type of conflict. Life is to short, be happy.
@mands61123 (2098)
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16 Sep 08
hi ladygator it's often discussions that i've already responded to then some numpty comes along and all hell breaks loose and it gets deleted, just getting a bit frustrated with it all. To much politics i don't do politics i haven't the attention span i faze out. Yes your right it does look like life is getting in here! i am trying to be happy and your right life is to damn short hence the frustration grrrrr.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I was going to give a witty answer to start with but I can't top myklj's response so I'm not even going to try.
I have noticed this, I have experienced this, I am probably guilty of some of it as well. August turned out to be a really crappy month for me. I posted a discussion that got close to 100 responses (last I looked at it) but also made a lot of people pretty mad at be. I think it would be fair to say that of those 100 responses (not counted all the extra comments) at least half were bashing me for saying what I felt. I was open about being unimpressed about the reaction and subsequent loss of my 10 star. Then I had some home issue pop up that royally angered me. I thought I was going to have to leave mylot for good...but obviously I got to come back.
Ok, my point is...I used to try to fly more under the radar here but now I don't much care. I don't get to post much anymore but when I have I have put it all out there. It feels good.
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@mands61123 (2098)
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17 Sep 08
hey jill good am glad it isn't just me or even scarier maybe your in the dimension with me eek ;) did you get your pm just curious now as ellie got hers but opal, tatty and scoop didn't!
@littleowl (7157)
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17 Sep 08
Hi mands...no you are not in another dimension I have noticed that most of our discussions on her are serious and we all need a humerous,funny sarcastic one to give us all a good laugh!! there used to be someone here that did that but are unfortunatley not around any mor..I really hate the arguing but it is nice to give your own opinion on subjects strongly without being being rated nedativley..at the moment things likr this don't seem to be allowed or maybe I am missing something??...littleowl
@littleowl (7157)
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18 Sep 08
Hi mands..no I didn't get your pm about your friend let me know who she is...hugs littleowl
@mands61123 (2098)
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19 Sep 08
she must have pmd you cos your already on her list babes thanks kisses
@mands61123 (2098)
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18 Sep 08
yeh i like it being a mix i like to respond to both a bit of variety i don't mind a heated discussion but here and life often it seems to ensure into arguing people simply can not draw the line and keep out personal comments. I've managed to rid myself of those type of people in real life so i just have to make sure i weed them out here then i'll be happier. If i was funny i'd start some discussions but i'm not off beat enough i have a very offbeat sense of humour that i don't think everyone gets lol Did you get your pm about my friend jessica?
