some one please help me i need advice

Well, I am confused about why you live with your ex-boyfriend to begin with. I would think that when you break up with someone then you would move out if it is his place. I have to say that I can understand why he says you have to sleep on the couch as you are an ex. If he has decided that he can't be with you because of his feelings for the other girl, be glad that he told you and that he is honest that he doesn't want to be together anymore. It is time for you to move on and move out. He is being nice letting you stay there but it is not the place that you should be.

There's nothing else to do als move on, go away, he doesn't want you anymore and if you remain there you're only hearting yourself more..go without wait a second and shick him to hell.. Nun

well, my advice for you is really simple... if somebody doesn't want and respect you anymore, then why bother to still staying with him??? especially after he asked you to sleep on the couch and said that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore... for me, i will straight away leave the house as i still have self-respect and i won't let a man to do something like that to me... take care and have a nice day...

As hard as it may be to accept and act on I think you already know the answer to this! Your sweetest revenge is to get on with your life and leave this situation as far behind you as possible. Why waste precious time and energy on such a one-sided situation? One second spent unhappy and frustrated is one second of your life wasted that you can never get back!

when you left to work things out with your mom he had time to think about you and him he has made his choice so go home to your mother don,t worry about him maybe it,s for the best if he loves someone else why should you waste anymore time be ferm and do what you need to do

I can only imagine how much pain you are going through right now. Well, what they said are right. It may be the hardest thing to do but you have to move on with your life because if you don't he's just going to hurt you more and more. I'm so sorry that that happened to you. I'm sure one day, you'll find someone who'll love and cherish you and won't let you sleep in the couch. Cheer up! All will be well for you. ;D

Like others here say, it's easier said than done. Stop doing this to yourself. Move out and move on. If you don't matter to him then so be it. You don't need a guy like that. You deserve someone who will love and value you. Not someone who just used you to get over someone else. It's not easy, I know. But please think of yourself and love yourself more than this guy. Give more importance to yourself. Lose him cause you don't need him. You said you want to work things out with your mom then do it. But don't use that as an excuse so you can live in your ex's house. Better go back to your mom's house. She's the one you need and not your ex who, it seems, never loved you at all.

Well I think you just have to think of your self now what you have to do then insist your self with someone who doesn't care or even to respect you at all. I know anyone in your situation will just let go. Maybe if your also giving money and giving your share in that house of his you have the right to stay,while looking for a place to stay. That is one thing with living in together,their is consequences that you have to face. You can't ask for a return. Why do insist cause you love him? Still he said that he still love someone in the passed so let it be let him look for her and let him think your importance also by not being around. Why make it complicated? You still exist,and you still have a life to make.When you cry you cry alone,and when you smile the world smiles at you. Don't you think that it's already the end of the world. Your to nice to love someone who doesn't care about you. It's enough you showed him that your their loving him,accepting the pains his doing to you. If others can do it why can't you face life alone. Now you can't realized it cause your blinded with what you feel. We can't have everything in this world.Nothing is permanent. Let him realized,it's time and space.If it's really meant for you he will ask you back. You deserved someone better then him,that is deserving for your love. Time heals all wounds. In pain we learned to be strong. Letting it go doesn't mean you don't love him,it's just making your both world better place to have. hAVE A NICE DAY! GOD BE WITH YOU!

sourcherry, I just could not stay by the side and not say anything here after reading your post. First of all, did you go back to your mother's because the both of you had a tiff in the first place? Hope that you do not mind me prying here, but I do sense that there is some non disclosure on your part. I think you need to know that it is letting some unresolved issues settling between the both of you can really affect any normal relationship. The animosity will only increase and very soon will overwhelm the both of you. Please forgive me here if I am wrong, for IMHO I just felt that there should be some mutual understanding between the both of you and had you the need to return to your mother's place briefly - there should not be any issue and misunderstanding here. I am sure that as much as you have bent your back for him, the other side is equal on his efforts to have and accommodate you. As you open yourselves to the floodgates of relationship, I am sure that you are aware that you are opening yourselves to the good as well as the bad that comes along with it. Nothing is easy and plain smooth sailing. It is during these times that the both of you should try to be level headed and work this out. No point using hurtful words and physical. However, you mustn't forget that logic and nice words will leave us during the spur of the moment for him and for you as well. Just cool down and find an opportunity to sit down and talk it out. I am sure you will find this much worth a learning experience for the both of you and I cannot help to remind you that there will be more challenges ahead.

It doesn't sound like its too hard to make a decision to me. Why stay? There obviously is no point in doing so. He obviously doesn't feel the same way, so you are wasting your time trying to get him to change. Time to realize it and move on I'm afraid. Oh, and a year isn't that long to try a relationship. Try 22 years. Yup, I worked at my marriage for 22 long years before leaving and divorcing him. I had the stupid idea that staying for the sake of our son was the thing to do. Duh.

if he think he doesn't need you and he can stand with the decision be thankful. because you knew about it earlier on and doesn't have to guess what's going on and how the relationship ended. i guess you not really meant to be. i don't believe in people saying that they fall out of love because i don't think that'll happen instantly.

YES YES!!! you love him... but he already answered your QUESTION he does not LOVE YOU... well for him he really dosent care about your feelings girl because He dosent have any feelings for you... dont you see the idea he did try to forget about his feelings with the person that he really loves by having you and try to make it work but it did not change. Well you sacrificed. you did the effort.. BECAUSE your IN LOVE You feel that you were not APPRECIATED.. people can advice you but it is only you who can help yourself... reality bites your getting older everyday and you must think about yourself.. will you sacrifice everything for him and pretend that he loves you! or will you just try to think about your dignity that you are still worthed to be loved by someone else who will accept you on who you are? Being in love is happy if he loves you.. i maybe rude to you... but girl im also a woman who knows where my limits.. and you deserve someone else dont you think.. get out of his house start on your own and keep yourself busy.. Well for you where will you be... MISERABLE OR HAPPY?

Why are you still living with him despite the knowledge he wants nothing to do with you? Are you being a martyr? Are you hoping that your ex bf will come around and say he loves you? You need your own space. He needs his. And without that, he will not realize he lost a good person in his life. Continuing to be around him will not help you but make you more insecure and belittle yourself for not having him as your lover. Think about it.

This is your life... so think and take a best good decision.. but from my point of view, i say it is good if u come out of him..

I would move out of his house and start a fresh page. It's his loss. I know you might feel used because you have devoted one year of your life to him but move on in your life. Don't look back. If he is in love with another imaginary friend whom he have not met in four years, than he has not any time for you.

Well just look at it this way. He already said that he has changed his mind about loving you. You have no option but accept the truth about it. If you choose to let go it will be easier for you at least you already know what is in his heart right now and you know its not you so what is the reason for you to stick to him anymore. I know you have gone too far in sacrificing many things in life but for what it is worth keeping if the man you devoted yourself suddenly says he is in love with somebody other than you. You don't deserve him more than he deserved you.

good day.. Why stay when you have absolutely no reason to. I mean move on and the first thing for you to do to is t move out. Stop tormenting yourself by listening and being affected by him. It's obvious that he doesn't deserve you and he's drowning your self worth. So please leave and move on. Let him have his fantasy and rot.

Was he your ex-boyfriend before you went to your mother's house or after? You don't make yourself clear. Be glad you did not marry the lout! Get the H out of there now, shake the dust off your feet, and pamper yourself. Where can you live? Can you spend a little time with a friend or with your mom until you find another place? You are worth so much more than what this jerk has made you feel like. And, yes, you do know what to do, you just don't want to face it. You want to dream that he will change his mind. But, why would you trust him even if he did? Love hurts, but it is better to find out now rather than after having children together. You don't do you? I wish you the very best. Be sure not to rebound into another relationship. Be sure you are healed first.

wow, so sorry you have to go through this. It probably seems like nightmare to you. You can;t make someone love yopu maybe it was meant to be that you just patched things up with your mom. Maybe you can live with her for a while till you get over him and find someone new. You realize that you can't fight this right? He seems like he wants something else and you can't do anything about it. I mean I can't be sure, I really shouldn't say that cuz miracles do happen, but over all I think you should just be good to your mom for a while and find someone else. You poor thing, I feel for you. That's definitely a slap in the face. Good luck with everything. I know everything will turn out great for you, just don't make bad choices. Think first with your brain. Carrie

There's a lot of boy around here, don't be stuck to only one because you don't know if there's greater than him. Just move on and make yourself get serious on what you doing because life is not easy, and there's still a problem that will come to your life.