I can't help but notice that people are more willing to communicate more via...
By brisk123
@brisk123 (2823)
India
September 17, 2008 6:03am CST
..the internet than they would be in person.Why is that so my friends? I was standing and waiting for my bus to arrive in a bus stand, there were 4-5 ladies who were also waiting for the same bus and I attempted to start up a conversation but it ended up without a connection being made.But here on the internet,I can start a conversation and the next thing I know I am being asked " Can I add you to my friends list?"
Are we more comfortable in conversations when there is some sort of buffer between us?
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 08
I learned about this and I studied about this kind of problem for my project last year. Based on he surveys I made, people tends to be easier communicating via internet (chat or website) because they don't see each other face and they could always edit what they want to say before really post it. It would be easier to avoid mistakes and the nervous than when you are talking face to face with person. In the internet, you can easily avoid the awkward situation because you don't see their face expression, that is why :)
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@brisk123 (2823)
• India
17 Sep 08
Yup,this can be one of the main reason,many people "live" on the internet in a way they would not otherwise ,live in real life. They can be the person they always wanted to be, whether it be prettier, smarter, funnier...so many other different personalities than what they reflect in the real world.
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@jonastabuena (2307)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
yeah i agree with you, but for me i don't usually chat online when a stranger, i chat only with my friends that are far away from me, there's a lot of fools on chat online, its hard for me to trust.
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
That's correct. I can be anything I want to be in the virtual world. Even I know that I am not so much different here and in the real world. But here in the internet I can always edit things before really send them, and I can always get more inspiration for the topic of the conversation because I always do something else than just chat with the same people
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@paid2write (5201)
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17 Sep 08
This is what I love about the internet. I can chat to people across the world on any number of topics. We can agree, disagree, share information, learn, and give helpful advice.
I simply don't have the opportunity to do this in person. I do exchange greetings with strangers on most days, and if someone wants to stop and chat I am always delighted to do so. Most people just want to get on with their lives, without having time for interesting conversations. I think we have all become used to watching TV or listening to the radio, which is an inactive form of communication.
The internet gives us a better opportunity to interact, easily and comfortably, with more people than we will ever meet in daily life.
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Hi there brisk123!
I have noticed the same thing. I think that people are more comfortable opening up with strangers. Most especially with people that we do not see in person. We can be who we want. We can say what we want. Without the fear of being judged by other people. I think it is important that we do not open up completely to people we do not know.
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@brisk123 (2823)
• India
17 Sep 08
Yup,absolutely!But,only thing that we need to keep in our mind is revealing our personal details.We should never do that.Otherwise,I guess, it is alright as long as we can take care of ourselves and know our limits while chatting and talking on net.Happy myLotting!
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Because you can do it when you have time. Many times I will try to call someone and they are busy or not home. When I write an email or post, I know they can look at it when they have time to do so. It's just like letter writing, it's just easier and faster.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Hello back, sis!! Yes, it's just easier because you can do that while watching tv or in between stuff. I think it's a good way to keep in touch when you can see or talk to each other.
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@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Hello sis ( Nanajanet is my sis)! Yes we communicate online more than by phone, bt every once in awhile we do call.
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@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Also sometimes it is cheaper. I know when I used to call my sister and had to pay long distance charges, it got expensive. Of course now we both have cells and the calls are included, but then again it does eat up minutes.
So when we just want to ask a quick question, we just send an email, of if I know she is online an IM.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
18 Sep 08
What else is cool, on line, is if you have Skype or a video cam and can talk to people with it via Yahoo IM (or others). My daughter talks to her friends around the world with it, several at a time, too. Imagine paying long distance to Australia? LOL
I am planning on getting one so I can do it, too.
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@super_jj (1416)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I would guess that it's easier for people to open up about themselves and communicate freely on the internet because there is a lesser "threat" on personal space "invasion". Sometimes people arent comfortable when others (especially strangers) look at them during conversations.
Well, tyhat's what i think, anyway.
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@brisk123 (2823)
• India
17 Sep 08
It is easier, especially if you're a shy person. I have a cousin, for some reason, she always have trouble looking people in the eye and talk, I'm not sure why,and thus it is easier for her to talk when she is not being stared.On the internet, it is easy to be a different person for every situation.She is more comfortable on net.Good day my friend!
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@sharay (2769)
• India
19 Sep 08
There are many reasons i can think of why we people are convenient in continuing conversations via internet than when in person, the main reason being privacy protected, we never would want someone to get close to us personally unless and until we know much about them and their character, only after starting to like them that we share our personal IDs even here in mylot...so, i dont think that could be always possible with the person who just stayed a short while with you in the bus stop who would not feel secured enough to give them their cellphone numbers for further conversation
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I think making a face-to-face connection is more difficult because you get to see the person and judge him or her more accurately. So you look at the person's mannerisms, clothing, language, etc. and notice things that you might not like. When online, you can't see each other. You can't see what car he drives or what clothes he wears. You don't know if he's fair skinned or short or chunky. So it's easier to be online buddies because all you need to have is a common interest.
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@sidwell1986 (160)
• India
18 Sep 08
Well it is more easy to express one's feeling through technology like the net or even sms.Many people find it more easier to start a conversation whilst online,cuz you are not directly facing the person.That is why nowadays,if people want to break up or propose also,they mostly do it through the net or sms,because they will not have to see the person's face while doing it.Somethings are difficult to do looking at someone in the face,but through the net,that is not the case.
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@johnsujan (27)
• India
18 Sep 08
Nowadays communication via internet is very active and whether
you are a successfull businessman on a trip everyday or maybe a housewife that takes care of home and her children most of the day, you pretty much use it one way or the other. Personally I believe that types of communication differ in order of needs to communicate. In order to confirm my opinion I will provide some examples.
Firstly, when we have a communication that is not urgent it can be done very easily by e-mail. This situation is highly advisable when you have a communication with your relative, friend or some other person that is physically located long distance from you. This communication can be on a daily-basis also.