My mom's annoying!!!

@mimico (3617)
Philippines
September 18, 2008 10:25pm CST
I'm the only girl in the family so I've always enjoyed a close relationship with my mom. Lately though I've been going through a rift with my mom. I feel like she's getting under my skin all the time. Like she knows everything going on in my life and she wants to rule it. She just gives me unsolicited advice and she tells me what to do, what to wear, etc it's really annoying. So I'm trying to put some distance between the two of us. I figure if I don't share what's going on in my life then she can't give me any advice, right? I know that it's not really healthy, but it's working. Nevertheless, I'd appreciate it of you guys could help me out here a bit. Thanks!
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7 responses
• India
19 Sep 08
Your mom is very responsible mother who always guide you and advise about what to do and what not to do. What ever your mom is telling you it is in your interest but you get annoyed. It is not good, try to understand her. As a daughter it is also your responsibility to respect her and her sentiments towards your welfare. If you have some difficulty you can tell her and do not try to make some distance with her because it will hurt her.
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@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Again, thanks for the response. I feel bad now because I think I really did hurt my mom. I'll try to be a better daughter and talk to her about my problems instead of devising solutions on my own. I might be moving to another country for work as well so now's the best time to repair this rift between us...
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• United States
19 Sep 08
I am the youngest of five and my mom tends to get like that also. It might help if you talk to your mom and tell her that it bothers you when she tries to control you. If you do keep distancing your self from her she might get hurt in the end. I would try to talk it out with her and explain to her how it makes you feel and tell her you need your space. Maybe sit down a day every week to just have a mother and daughter day and talk about stuff that has been going on and maybe go see a movie or the mall so she doesn't feel left out. Ignoring the problem isn't going to fix it. It might seem like it is working but in the long run it might just fall apart. I think talking about it is going to be your best bet.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
I'm always at home nowadays because I don't have a job so I see her all the time. Maybe that's why she's always on to me. Hopefully our relationship will get better soon. If not then I might need to have a chat with her. I'm not good at confronting my mom though because being honest will just hurt her. And I can't talk to her when she cried because I'll start crying too... :(
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• United States
22 Sep 08
Aww i am bad at confronting my mom also about problems. I hope your relationship gets better with her. I hope she will start to back off of you. Maybe you do just need to get out of the house more.
@roshand8 (1478)
• Sri Lanka
19 Sep 08
It is their job.If they don't annoy you,they are not doing their job.she seems annoying but she does it because she loves you I think its for your benefits..30 minutes ago I was thinking the exact same thing..about my mother! Ha!ha!ha! cheers...
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Really? Shouldn't the good moms know when to step back and when to smother? Anyway thanks for the positive comments. I hope I'll be able to see her meddling in a more positive light...
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Hi!Maybe your mom just wants to be closer to you. Moms are like that usually but not my mom. Well sometimes yes but not too much that she's getting under my skin. I suggest you should be honest to your mom and tell her that she's overdoing it. She will understand I know. It's bad if you keep your distance from your mom. She will feel it that you are avoiding her. That might make her think that you're keeping secrets from her and it might cause misunderstandings. So better just tell her and explain that there are some things that you want for only yourself. Hope that helps. Ciao!
• United States
19 Sep 08
All mothers are like that with their daughters, over-protective and giving too much advices like as though they know everything about the daughter. But that's actually fine. You just have to ignore when necessary. But be sure not to rebuke her concern. It could hurt them to a great extent.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Well I don't know how to tell her to back off a little bit and give me a chance to live my own life. So I just ignore her most of the time...
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@vivapinay (231)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
I am the only daughter in the family myself and I am the eldest. Since childhood, we have developed a close relationship with my mom to the point that we sometimes shared about her boyfriend (my father passed away 9 years ago) and my boyfriend too when I was still single. Your mother loves you so much and she is just doing her job. She may not be aware that she is annoying you already. So its best that you tell her to back off a little bit as anyway you are already 22 years old. But tell her in a nice way as she might be hurt deeply. Do you still live with your mother in one house?
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
22 Sep 08
It happens with me too.Though we all love our mothers dearly but there comes a point when things get too close.Amost suffocating,Though they mean well they fail to undertand where to stop.LOL.I would suggest you tell her you are big enough to handle your life and that she should have faith in you and needn't get worried.You share things as before but convey to her that you are an adult now and you too need some space.I hope it helps.