Should people be allowed to just give their child up for adoption?

I think adoption is a great thing for children, I don't think they would be better off at times with their birth parents, who may not be as stable, and perhaps those babies would not grow up too well. A lot of people can't have children, or they would rather help others than have their own, so they should be able to adopt them. I think if a parent looks at their child like a "consequence" or a burden, then that child will not get all the love they need, it would be better for some to go to others that actually have an interest in raising them. I admire those who put their babies up for adoption, it shows that they cared enough to at least grow them to the point of birth, not have an abortion. Allowing something to be born is a gift itself, not everyone is fit or ready to be parents, don't punish the child in order to punish a parent for their actions.

I got pregnant when I was 18 years old. I thought long and hard about adoption (never abortion). I assure you, when someone chooses to give up their child for adoption, it's not a decision made lightly. They are not "dumping" their child. That parent is trying to do what is BEST for the child, regardless of how much it hurts them to do it. There are so many people out there unable to have their own children who could give an unplanned baby a great life, much better than many unprepared parents are able to provide. Sometimes the family can't help out. Sometimes it's not worth ruining not one, but two or even three lives just to teach "responsibility". That's absurd - many teenagers cannot continue their education once they have a baby, and can barely provide for the child. The family may not be a financial position to support both parent and child. In these cases, the responsible thing IS to give the child up so that someone who IS prepared can raise the baby, and the parent can still live up to their potential as well. It's not an easy thing, adoption. I ultimately could not give up my baby, and I sometimes wonder how both of our lives might have been different or maybe even better had I not made the somewhat selfish decision to keep her - I didn't keep my child because I thought I could give her the best life, but because I couldn't bear the pain of giving her up. So please don't think that people who give their child up are being irresponsible, because in many cases, it's the most responsible, selfless thing they can do.

Adoption is a really wonderful thing, if done right. I think adoption should be the parents choice. Why force someone to raise a child that really doesn't want that child? If you were to make someone keep their child, that child would probably be a punching bag. So, yeah, if a parent wants to give a child up for adoption, as sad as it might be, it needs to be done, because forcing someone to love a child will never work. The child stands a better chance without that parent as it is. Plus there are many other reasons why a parents chooses adoption.

I would never have an abortion because that would be the wrong choice for me. I think that a fetus is an innocent one that deserves to grow into a baby and be born. If the mother doesn't want her baby I think adoption is the best thing that can happen. Then the baby will get loving adoptive parents. Adoptive parents often can't have their own child biologically. It is lucky that they are there to be responsible for an unwanted baby or child. In an ideal world only ladies that want a baby would get pregnant but pregnancy can be a surprise for some ladies. Aborting their baby would be sad, taking responsibility and setting their life ready for parenthood would be far better. A teenager might not be ready for the responsibility of being a mother. She might have supportive parents that help her become an excellent young mum. What happens if a lady wants to adopt her baby but the dad wishes to keep him or her? Parenthood is lovely, adoptive is hopeful and abortion is horrible.

I recently did a debate in my University about a similar subject. We came to very different conclusions. I think it really depends on the situations. Because in some situations it's really just the best and most recommended thing to do. Since you know, not only the parents will get affected, also the child. And the child will just always be directly affected by the choice it's done. Although in sometimes it's better to do one thing than the other.

I think this is a very tricky question because it is working under the assumption that mothers that surrender their children do it because they want to. In reality, 98% of mothers who give up their children for adoption actually want nothing more than to keep their babies. I don't think it would be a good idea to force that 2 % that really don't want any children to keep them. It could end up being dangerous. We should, however, encourage the family to step up so the child doesn't lose their history or identity. For those 98% of moms that want their babies, we should be helping them so that they are able to parent. That's whats best for the baby, not adoption.

My two adopted sons were the product of a rape, and I am glad there is someone like you who does not think that their mother should have aborted them because of their evil father who attacked her while she was waiting for a bus. (She lived out in the country.) I also had a baby out of wedlock, and I gave her up because no one would help me. They waited until I had signed the papers and then they would have welcomed me home, but I stayed with my unofficial foster mother whose husband knew my dad during the War. I wish someone would have helped me. That slowed down my growth process. My father was too busy to care for me and I turned to another for love. That is what happened to me. I do think that parents should help the girl and not make it so she has to get rid of the problem. You do not know what happens down the road. the girl needs to grow up and giving away a baby or killing it, does not let her accomplish the task. I act younger then many of my friends because I did not have the baby to care for.

I agree there have been a lot of horrible cases of infant abuse lately. I feel it is very irresponsible for parents to simply give up their child for adoption, but I guess it is still a lesser evil compared to abortion.

Casey Anthony wanted to give up Caylee for adoption. Chances are pretty great Caylee would be alive if she had.

Sometimes putting a child up for adoption is the best thing a new mother can do. If they mother can not provide for the child or does not have the ability or maturity to raise a child it is better for the child to be given to a family who has the means and the ability to do so. There are so many loving people who are financially stable, and really love children who can not have them. Adopting a child is their only way of having a child. I don't think putting a child up for adoption is irresponsible. I think raising a child really badly is more irresponsible.

I hear what your saying, but part of me thinks your right and it's too easy on some people to just give up their child without any obligations. But part of me thinks that at least they will have a better life with someone who actually wants them or can take care of them. I think the only flaw with this is it's so expensive for people to adopt and a lot of children don't get the homes they need/deserve because of that.

Allowed as in making it legal? I don't think so. Cause morally it's very wrong to give your child to anybody for adoption no matter what kind of reason you have. I still remember my father telling us that he's been offered by our distant aunt to adapt my little sister cause she has no child and wants one. But my father refused and I don't think he even have the guts and think for a second to really give my sister to my aunt.

Of course people should be allowed to give their children up for adoption. You can't force a person to love and look after a child. The only people it would affect negatively would be the children.