Get Over It!

Personally I don't need to have anyone tell me whether or not their lives were better or worse then mine. Hell, I have a friend who is married to an extremely jealous woman (who isn't a whole hellova lot to look at BTW), and has two kids...BOTH with autism, and he reminds me that he's married and I have nobody. I've told him that between him, another friend of ours who went through a nightmare marriage, and another one who, before meeting his soon-to-be wife, went through a relationship any one of us would've dropped out of LONG before he did, I don't even care if I ever get married. I'm probably better off.

lol, well maybe someday you will find the right one. Always keep a open mind and heart.

I'm occasionally the C in an A-B conversation when someone is having problems. Maybe because I want to hear it to sympathize with them or to possibly help, but never to ridicule them. I just recently had a coworker who was upset because, I found out, she failed the test that would've gotten her her HS diploma. I asked something about if she'll get another chance to take it before graduation? She then told me she had already graduated and was heading for college. The test was just for the actual diploma. While it was going through my head that, "Why would you be that upset if you've already graduated?", it also went through my head that "she might still want the certificate to prove it." I dunno, but I did tell her sympathetically she shouldn't worry too much about it, because hell I misplaced my diploma merely a few years after HS. How she takes it is on her, and I would never expect her to take my advice if it didn't work for her. After all, during a talk at a broadcasting school with someone (which I mentioned in a previous response over having a girlfriend), I was upset that I failed a test I know I would've passed with flying colors had a remembered to study the other night (long story why), and now I was going to have to retake the test and get nothing higher then a C. The guy told me that potential employers will never know my grades here, as they don't officially matter in that case, but I always felt that "I'LL know!" and maybe that's what mattered inside. Just like my coworker, she may have graduated, she may go onto college and graduate from there, but she'll still never have the certificate, and that may feel bad to her.

Shall we turn this into the "state the obvious" thread? LOL I donated plasma at one place where they didn't put an ACE bandage or gauze around your elbow, and expected you to just hold it down until god-knows-when. Well, I had donated so much in one arm, the skin wasn't healing as fast as it used to, and it took a good half-an-hour for it to stop so I could put a bandage on it, get paid, and leave. All this time, the morons there kept constantly saying the same things; "APPLY PRESSURE, HOLD YOUR ARM UP, ETC." Things I had been doing the WHOLE TIME, THANK YOU! I eventually quit going there.

Well, "quit feeling sorry for yourself" isn't quite as bad. Yes we all have felt sorry for ourselves from time to time, but the important thing is being able to pick yourself up and continue. As for "Get Over It", many of us (myself included) can get through the day with whatever is bugging us that makes a jerk like that say that. We may know what's wrong, but we might know where to turn to fix it. We try to fix it, but it may involve taking pills for the rest of your life, or until the pills no longer have any effect.

Well people obviously will not target you as one to talk to if they need someone to talk to. I won't. Believe me, the guy I had mentioned who last told me to "get over it" is literally the LAST person I will EVER talk to if I need to feel better or want to get something off my chest.