20 20 hindsight from the other side
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85146)
Shingle Springs, California
September 21, 2008 12:48am CST
Two co-workers of mine got married. Then they got divorced. When the were dating I had heard rumors that the girl was really wanting to get married because all her friends already were (she was 22 at the time). It was the opinion of some of my friends that she was only dating this guy because he was available, interested in her and because she wanted somebody to marry. For me, this was only hearsay. I didn't know her well enough to know if this was true or not. Well he came by with their daughter some time after the divorce and we were talking about this and at that time he asked me why I hadn't told him this stuff. And I told him, because it was just hearsay and rumors. And anyway he was in love at the time and wouldn't have wanted to believe any of it. I don't think I was wrong not to say anything back then. Do you?
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4 responses
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
21 Sep 08
yeh i think that you werent wrong as its was thier life and its better not to poke nose in between anybody elses life and not to give any suggesstions as well , as if something happens the person mite stand and blame you for his decission.
what you thought that the person was in love with the girl and wouldnt have listened to you which is absolutely right.
i agree to whatever you did.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Sep 08
Thanks, it will be very interesting to see if anybody has the opposite opinion though! :-)
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I wouldnt have said anything either. You can't tell someone something when you dont know for sure. I would think that they might not believe you!I wouldnt risk starting a fight in someones relationship. Sounds like you did do the right thing!
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Oct 08
Yeah there's really no way I'd mix in like that unless the guy was a really close friend and I knew for sure that the girl was playing him. And maybe not even then, you'd be risking losing the friendship.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
21 Sep 08
A friend of mine was dating a womanizer. I did not get quite well this guy so we got apart. After sometime they split up and when she asked me why I did not tell her what I knew about him, I just said to her that she would not have believed me. My friend said that probably I was right, because he is a sweet talker.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Sep 08
Yep unless you had proof and even then maybe she wouldn't have.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
27 Sep 08
I don't think so. Ppl have to make up their own minds and make their own decisions. Had you said something at the time you probably would have been accused of trying to break them up (possibly so you could have him) and of spreading lies and rumors. I would be willing to guess he will probably be a little more careful next time around.
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