Happily EverAfter is a Fairy Tale, agreed?

hey hatley good question to me happily ever after is just that a fairy tale the wonderful notion that you have when your a kid where your imagination can run wild where anything is possible where you can dream to be an astronaut and no one will ever think your silly for doing so. The we grow up and abide by a different set of rules we still imagine, we still dream just with more boundaries. I think the only people that are happy all the time either live in their own dream world and have yet to come into the real one or have a mental condition. Sometimes i'd like to be there cos sometimes this life sucks but if i didn't have to bad i truely don't think i'd appreciate the good. I like the variety when things are all wonderful and rosey i get a sense of impending doom, i convince myself somethings going to happen because people don't live happily all the time. I like life but my life is no fairy tale and i like it that way, bring on the happy and the sad. I like to appreciate and grow as a person and i like to be realistic and understand that a wonderful life/marriage can be just that even if you do get mad, argue and fight the fact that you still love, trust and support each other 90% of the time is what counts and that bad patch makes you appreciate each other and makes your relationship (hopefully) stronger. So i say happily ever after is unachievable i'll just take the happy and after thank you lol

personally I don't believe in happily ever afters. It might sound bad, but considering that there are many broken families where parents, after deciding to spend the rest of their lives together, decide to separate. It is true that there comes a point when after separation someone new comes along, but my concept of 'happily ever after' is that 'two persons decide to live together for the rest of their lives' regardless of the tough turns along the way. It's the fact that they stay together. As I've read from For One More Day by Mitch Albom, 'it's sticking together that makes it a family'. So if two people decide to part ways, their promise of forever is not true anymore. and it doesn'y matter if they find someone new.

i guess the term happily ever after is good for fairy tales.....but maybe it could be mean in general terms...i mean the totality of couples union and togetherness(thats include the kids)..great marriage is the better term i guess..

Happiness is a state of mind and it's also a journey in life. I always believe it's possible to be happy even while facing adversities in life. It's up to us whether or not we wish to be. People are not happy as they tend to dwell on the bad things in life and forget to count their blessings for the good in life. Whether a marriage is a happy one or not, it's difficult for outsiders to judge. Some marriages may appear all well on the surface but truth proves to be the opposite. Only at the end of the lifetime can the couple say whether their marriage had been a 'happily ever after' one or not.

Definitely NO!!! As life goes by the more challenge we conquer theres no such thing as they lived happily ever after... Life would be boring without trials and hardship.

Hello mylotting friends!!!In life it is impossible to be always happy. With your loved ones you will argue more than with anyone else. We need to make our utmost to be happy, to have a positive attitude everday so as to live a better life with the ones around us. Happy mylotting!!!!

I think it is possible to live happily ever after as long as you and your partner can embrace your arguments and turn them into positives. Happiness involves going through the tough patches and coming out the other side still in love. Of course realtionships can't be perfect every minute of the day but I think that happily ever after is a romantic notion that we should hold on to. Nothing is more powerful than true love.

[i][/i]Hi Hatley, I agree about that, that is maybe only true to script and imaginations..hahaha...In this life, nothing is constant, we experienced ups and down..We will not be able to experience happiness when there is no sadness..LOL! So, to balance our feelings and life, we need to have these variety of experiences!

It is all myths. I fully agree that there is no such thing as living happily ever after even though the promises of such prompt us to quickly sign up for the marriage cert. The moment one signed on the dotted lines is the beginning of many untold sufferings in her new life as a wife. She has given up the happy and carefree life of singlehood. There are extra emotional feelings to coup with especially with the ever bickering of in-laws, the issue of infidelity and much more that makes life like the fury of hell. What is most commonly heard is the saying of an unhappy wife is 'should I have known I would rather end up an old maid.....'

happily everafter is a fairy tale. I am very happy with my marriage and we do have alot of happy moments. I do believe I found my soulmate but happily ever after doesn't happen in real life. Things happen that makes you not so happy. As long as you know how to forgive and things can be happy again.

It is true as a couple there will always be hard times but, if you are with the person you love and couldn't be without and the final outcome is you are happy, then it will be happily ever after :)... Most "real" people are not happy with themselves, therefore could not be happy with their spouse all the time either. Most are angry, frustrated, bitter, jealous, hate their jobs or the life path they chose and a multitude of other emotions without any help from the other person. Most people need a better relationship with God and the rest will be happily ever after :)

I agree. Happily ever after is a fairy tale. From my experience and from observing people around me that is what I would have to say. But I would like to believe in happily ever after. Maybe you can have it you just have to find the right person to have it with.

People shouldnt use it in real life i g uess because they would look silly.

I have been married for a year now, we're both young and are planning on spending the rest of our lives together. My version of happily ever after would be learning and growing together. We aren't happy with each other every second of the day but we have a marriage that we work at and that makes it worthwhile for us. I do believe that happily ever after does exist, it's just never what it looks like in the movies.

Considering Fairies dont have tails maybe we can decide that its a farse from the getgo. I do see this. This is also somewhat in the same lines as I was noticing with all the reality shows, like wifeswap, nanny, stuff like that. It seems like so many people like to watch them because it shows them what real life is really like. Its not all shiney and smiley all the time. There is tons of love in my home but its definatly Not happy all the time.

AGREE with big capital letters. you can find someone who is perfectly match for you but still both of you will have short comings and ups and downs. we are human and we make mistakes. that sometimes add spice with the relationship. real people can be happy but you and your partner must work to make the relationship happy. we can be happy but life is full of surprises and that surprises are the one that makes love and relationship strong.

I wish I could say I've had a happy life. Unfortunately this one hasn't been all that happy. My 22 year marriage was a nightmare that finally ended, only to be replaced with disabiling illness. I've come to the conclusion that I can only do the best I can with what I've been dealt this life, and hope that I'll learn whatever lessons I am here to learn. So that my next life maybe won't be so stressful and unhappy. Happily ever after? Maybe for some, but it isn't the case with me and my life.

I agree..life goes on after marriage..in fairy tale the story ends when they get married but after it was another story.