Best friend confusion.

The simplest thing I can say is... people are different. Personally, I'm the type of person that can go without talking to a person for years and when we meet again I feel as if we are closer than ever. There are others who I know are similar to you, who have that feeling of wanting/needing to talk to their best friend(s). It's a tough situation to be in I think to have these two characteristics clashing with each other, but as long as the pair of you are understanding with each other it should be fine. Talk it out with your friend and hopefully you guys can reach a compromise that works for both of you.

Listen, my best friends I have both known since before I was five. Now I don't always talk to them, mainly because we now live in different continents and are really busy. It doesn't mean that they aren't my best friends. However, if I have a problem, I know I can count on them and that I can talk to them about pretty much everything. Now, if you feel this left out, you should talk to your best friend and tell him how you feel. And in my opinion, if he doesn't take this into consideration and doesn't try to make his habits change, then honestly you should reconsider your relationship. But you are in a better position to know him and all. I hope that everything will work out between the two of you. Best of luck!

i have a best friend i have not spoken for a long time but if felt nothing until now where you made me realize i will definitely call him today

I guess maybe he sometimes needs a little bit time to himself. SOmetimes i get annyoyed of seeing my freinds everyday or them calling my all the time. Sometimes i just get angry and think he should leave me alone. Im sure you will feel this way too but it is gonna take time for you until you actually realize it lool.

I kind of went through the same situation, being left out, intimidated by my friend's company and you know what, that kind of idea blurred my judgment concluding me to hate someone I really treasured. People have different perspectives about friendship, probably your best friend believes its not the quantity that counts, its how much you value each other in spite of not seeing often. I and my high school best friend had been pretty much close for almost 8 years now and we only get to see each other once a year. Now I'm her maid-of-honor in her wedding this December and I'm very much delighted with the fact that we have kept our bond. Some people would also prefer to be with their friends often. I know it's hard to go through something without someone reliable you can depend on and I think you have become dependent on your best buddy. Just be optimistic that this is the phase in your life that you can enjoy exploring yourself. Divert your ugly thoughts, believe that what you went through together is enough for him to appreciate what both of you have. And if you still feel that he is starting to neglect your friendship, nothing beats a heart-to-heart talk. Whatever happens, at least you've done your part to show how you really feel.

Apparently I think he is just busy or something. If he doesn't talked to you for a week then why don't you make a move for you to talk to him, ask all you want for you to know what really his been doing for that week, because if you don't talk to him you will not find your answer you will be going confused forever. i have also a best friend but he's living now in japan. But even we are far to each other until now we were best friends, we have communication in ym but not always. I miss him so much but i can't help it. just give him support and show to him what really best friends are...

Maybe he is waiting for your call. Maybe he wants to know that you understand that he is busy but will still take the time to call and just say hey. I wouldn't be upset with him for not calling. Just give him a brief call and say, "I know you are busy but I just wanted to say hi and see how things are going." This will show him that you haven't forgotten about him and that you do understand just how busy he is.

Don't be upset, maybe you're just not used to it when he is not talking with you for a couple of days, understand you're friend he is busy.

i understand how you're feeling. My best friend of 10 years suddenly stopped calling/seeing me as much a few years ago. I stills truggle to deal with this because we were stuck together like superglue. We talk occasionally and although we never see each other there is a mutual understanding that we still do love each other heaps. In our situation I think it's a case of growing up, becoming busier with career, partners etc. It is sad but it is a part of life. Did this happen all of a sudden or slowly? Do you have any idea why your friend might not be as keen to talk to you as often? Don't worry too much, if he is a true friend he will come to you. Just always be there for him.

I have lots of best friends which depend on what I want them to be best friends for. If I only had one best friend then it would become boring and I wouldn't want that. Cheers!!

i think that you are just taking it very seriously. according to my experience never do that it happens most of the time and we feel possessive about something or someone but they really hurt us and i was thinking just like you, so i want you not to be hurt and since i am telling you my friend please dont feel bad for this. there are many times where we become possessive and instead of disappoinments and hurt we dont get anything, it doesnt apply to everyone but there are few people who does this and hence what i learnt from those is to be practical and not emtional and hence be carefull and never take anything very serious so takecare.

Your best friend thinks that it is alright not to talk to your for two weeks or more because he feels that you are always there for him. It is a torture not seeing your best friend, I have my best friend too and we are always together and we even have the same birthday, now even if we are living very far from each other, we still have communications. If you do not really feel good about no communication at all, then bother him , always call him, sms him or surprise visit him, if he tells you that he is too busy to entertain you, then do a reverse psychology. Stop calling him, stop the sms and never show up even if it is hard to do so, and then he will wonder why you are not there anymore, and then he will start asking himself why he ignored you then he will search for you. Then you can revenge hehe by asking him to treat you..hehhe..

hey guys.. friendship is like a tide.. sometimes it goes high and sometimes it goes low.. but it will always be there... i think the problem is you may be riding on a high tide while your friend may be on the lower side.. you have to understand that life always brings out the worst in people.. people sometimes lose their focus of what's really important to them in their race for a normal or better life ,but it is only a matter of time.. just give it sometime and i am sure the tide will rise up much stronger and higher than before...

The best thing to do is communicate how you are feeling to your friend - they may not know that you feel left out. Sometimes we take on too much to do and get overwhelmed and focused on what needs to be done rather than who is around us. Going to school and working can really consume a lot of time and they may not know or realize how much time has really passed. If they still don't understand or don't want to talk about it, the best thing to do is move on. I know you are close, but friendships do change over time. Or sometimes someone just needs a bit of time to themself. Remember, they aren't the only person that can be your best friend, you can have the same kind of relationship with other people too.

I would try talking to him and ask what is going on . If you are best friends you should be able to explain to him how you feel and how you are worried about your friendship . I am sure he is just busy but to ease your mind try calling him and telling him that your really need to talk to him . If he knew you were this concerened then I am sure he would make the time for you . Sometimes we just have so much going on in our own lives that we do not have the time for our friends but this does not mean we do not care about them it is just we need to get done what needs to be done in our own life first . I am sure when you talk to him he will explain what has kept him busy . I do understand where you are coming from because my best friend and I talk every day and if we did not talk in a couple of day I would begin to wonder and she is the same way , If I am unable to talk to her for a couple of days she starts to wonder what is going on but when we talk again we realize that the other was busy and we are best friends . Hope everything works out and take care :)

Hi its not that if your friend is not speaking to u, that means he is fed up or doesn't like u Its just that he had some important work that he must be busy in it. May be he too want to talk to u, but time is restricting him. Don't worry things wont happen as u think. Think optimistically :)

Well, I don't know if I am the best person to respond to this discussion since I have had two best friends in my life and talk to neither of them any more. If you guys don't talk nearly as much as you used, I think it's safe to say that your relationship is becoming a bit more distant. I would just give your friend the space that he needs right now. You can tell him how you feel, but I wouldn't really nag him about because there must be a reason why he is becoming distant. But, you can't make him adhere to a keep in contact schedule. Could be that he's really busy right now, but has not forgotten about you. Could be that your lives are leading you in different directions right now. Could be that he's focusing more on other parts of his life that have very little do with the relationship that you guys have. None of these means that he doesn't care about you. I wouldn't feel resentful or anything. I would just accept that things have changed for now, after I talked to him, and go on with my life. Hopefully, when he really needs a good friend, he knows who to call ... you.

I also feel the same way as you before.. I also have a best friend in high school and most of the time we always talked to each other almost everyday.. But suddenly he become busy in school since he is already in 3rd year and I'm in 1st year.. So, sometimes I'm asking some time to him since its been how many days that we had no talks.. I though he changed but I was wrong.. I realized that not all the time even our own best friend can give so much time and effort to us.. They also have their own life to handle and I should not be selfish with that.. I though that time that he is not a good friend since he didn't even do something to spend some time to me.. But I was really wrong... No matter how busy he was he tried his best to spend some time to me but I didn't appreciate it.. I also realized that I'm the one who changed not him because of being too selfish I didn't noticed that I was already hurting him... Now, I'm far from my best friend... We have no communications for almost 6 months.. I don't know what's happening to him already and same as him.. Just because of being selfish I lost my friend not only when he was busy but it seems forever... So, if I were you just give him time to do all the things that he needs to do and just be patient waiting until he finished his work.. I know that your friend is just really busy right now and maybe he was trying to communicate you but you just don't know or see his effort.. Just be patient to him..

Perhaps you have deeper feelings for him than he has for you. It sounds like you might feel he is more than a friend. I think you should tell him how you feel.

My best friend and I used to talk almost every day. In the last year, we have both moved and now live close to 1000 miles apart. When we moved, both around the same time, we talked about it and how it would effect our friendship. The conclusion we came to is that even if the best of friends are far apart, or do not talk as often, they are always there for each other. The best of friends can go years without speaking and pick up right where they left off when they are able to speak to each other again. I doubt your friend is intentionally leaving you out. He is probably jusy very busy. I am sure your friendship will pick up as normal when life gives him a break. In the meantime, maybe you should find things to do to keep yourself busier and pass the time. It really does help.