You be the boss.

Alok this has many facets. What I mean is taking responsibilities as in profession or otherwise is bit different. And also taking responsibility of what you do as in wrong doings and take charge of your duties and taking responsibility of the normal happenings in life are different. Professional responsibility is part and parcel of our job profile. You cannot and must not escape that ever. That would only prove how inadequate you are and your reputation would be affected greatly in the work place and career ladder. We must learn to be responsible for the things we do and that's both in personal and profession fields. We cannot get away shunning off the duties and obligations. Taking charge of our doings and misdoings is what makes us a true human. I have always tried to take charge of my duties and responsibilities gracefully. Accepting one's faults only make us wiser. Coming to the next part, ordering in a restaurant, deciding on a movie or a destination for a holiday, do not take us away from our responsibilities. And when and if someone does not he must not be tagged as 'irresponsible'. Many times we love to pass on these to the other members of the family just to make them feel special and when this delegated to young ones they learn to carry out their responsibilities. We have all learnt this way, isn't it? And also not to forget that the credibility of a task master depends largely on how he delegates his responsibilities. The ability to distinguish a dove from a falcon and sending them to their respective schools is what makes him dynamic.

Honestly speaking, I do not shy away from taking responsibilities, be it at home, a restaurant or at my office. I would be the first one to take the initiative, if there comes an opportunity. That is another matter, when later on something goes wrong........I curse myself, why did at all I take the initiative or responsibility.........LOL! But even after bitter experiences, when I find no one is willing to shoulder the responsibility, I come forward. However, when I find there are some others who are better than me in taking responsibility, I prefer to take the back seat. Good Post!!

even i do the same and i never decide on by my own and it is very few of the times that i decide on my own and i always try not to do that i think even i have life, even i have feelings and liking and why not decide on my own but most of the times i dont do it and i really leave it on others around me but i dont know till when i am going to do this and i feel its not good that everytime i just leave it on others. i think i have just got use to for this and i am continuing the same. but seriously we nee to change as some day we are going to realise it and follow it seriously only if any one takes the advantage of it. i think we need to just change before that and do whatever it is on our own.

If there are people who shun away from responsibility, i am not one of them. I usually take as much as I can, sometimes even things I cannot handle, and sometimes without even thinking, thus I am always faced with the problems that arise when I take much responsibility. Now I have learned my lessons. But here in my country, yes, people have the tendency where, like for your example, who orders in a restaurant. Here most people do it out of respect or shy. People sometime keeps pointing hands on who will do the ordering or deciding but I think is more on the out of respect or shyness attitude, not on the responsibility issue.

If like me you have a partner you generally make the decisions together,but then again neither of us are brilliant decision makers and if we have a biggy to make then lol the umming and the ahhing could go on for a long time,but it doesnt matter too much,we get there in the end.But if you are an assertive ,confident person then decisions come naturally to you,and confidence in yourself makes decisions far easier to make.We enjoy to talk about the issues together,it makes us closer as a couple,and if we can make that decision together then it is one that we are both happy with.

Hi....it happens with me...but not at work place....wen i am with my love i usually tel him to take decision....not bcz i dn wan that responsibilty...bt bcz i think he can take good decisions than me....n in family sometimes bcz r parents hv more experience...n cn judge somthing better than us...

I think that we all end up taking certain responsibilites for many things whether it happens by plan or not. There are cultures of course where the alpha male position is assumed by default but in many circumstances things just work out a certain way. Between my wife and I for example; our relationship is most definitely an equal partnership but by default I tend to be the one who will place an order at a cafe or pay the cashier at a movie theatre etc. This is not a control thing at all but is just the way it is! From a work perspective my roles have always been managerial in the last ten years or so, so in this instance I assume the controlling position as a matter of course. A good Manager with faith in their ability is also not afraid of delegation and has to trust in their people, but the onus is primarily on them as is the responsibility if things don't go as planned. I am not someone who shuns responsibility at all and if anything I am the complete opposite! My problem is that I want to be a part of everything at all times! lol. I actually need to focus more on trusting in others to do what needs to be done rather than thinking I can be everything to everybody all the time. But because I am in foreign countries a lot of the time and deal in English which is generally NOT the main language; I am sometimes just far more confident in handling many things myself. I do delegate and I do have faith in people I just need to relax more! I am working on it.

There are such instances in my life also. But there are instances I take the leadership as well. In many situations myself and wife get togher and take decisions. Why people slip away from responsibilities is that when they are not confident about the subject. Or else they very well know that they don't have a solution. Another reason which cannot be excused is the lazyness of involving in dicision making. It is not required for one to be the boss always. Depending on the situation this should be decided.