Do you insult your kid infront of others to improve him?

I don't think that was good. There was no point to be proven by your friend doing that to the child. He may grow up to be a computer programmer or web-designer or something involving computers and make a lot of money while doing it. Then what will your friend have to say then. If a child does something wrong I think they need to be corrected on the spot and if it happens to be in front of people then that's different but I don't believe you should belittle a child because they are not interested in the things you think they should be interested in.

i think as adults things we say that may be meant in jest are not taken that way by children, kids have a very black and white view of the world and there is no inbetween so for them in would be taken as an insult and i think us as adults need to realise that children see things this way, comments and the like can have very negetive effects on a child and can last a life time i should no but thats another story. i never put my children down at all if i am honest, i have learned from my own upbringing, saying that i dont refrain from telling them off but would never critise something or be negative about it unless it was bad behaviour. good topic and thanks Lucy xx

I don't think that's a good idea, at the very young it seems that they already exposed in insult, when they grow, it is easy for them to make an insult to other, or the worst they might insult their parents in return, there's a lot option on how to improve you're child. Good luck.

Good day well, that's a a shame. It doesn't mean that if a child is focus in doing a single thing that child needs insulting to sway him/her to your way. I mean at least his child is good in one thing and it's in computer what bad in that. Just talk to the kid and tell him that he also need to learn other things.

nah, i don't. id rather talk to my child in private. insulting your kids in front of others may lead to a very deep problem later on. the child will then suffer inferiority complex, feel unwanted & unloved, and lost confidence. even if it's just a joke i don't do it. we respect our childrens rights and we respect them. we make them feel loved, wanted and important. we always appreciate them as appreciation is a part of growing up and at their age, they need it most. hope you won't do that to your kids too.

maybe it works sometimes,, for me insult is not a good habit,, haha,, but,,depend of its original purpose sometimes insult can be a good motivation,, like when a man chase his beloved girl.. but he don't have any brave to tell that he was in love.. so maybe his friend insult him,, you are coward,,etc,, then he burned,, then he tell to his target,, darling,, i love u so much,, be my girl please,, hahaha

No, I do not. In fact, this infuriates me when I see someone do this to a child. I would like to see more people hug their children and giveing them praise instead of yelling, cussing, and screaming at them all the time and telling them what they've done wrong. An even tone and just telling them what they have done wrong and explaining it to them goes much further.

In my opinion ajrox we should never insult our kids infront of others as this can have an adverse impact on the child which can effect his future behaviour. Parents are role models for their kids, so they should handle kids in a positive manner to form a strong, healthy foundation of their kids.

I agree, what ever idea they may have of 'improving' their children through shaming them is only going to affect them later on in life and this should not go on. I see many parents myself in public saying insulting things to their kids that seem so intentional in embarassing their children and I just feel so hurt for the kids and want to be able to reassure them so its hard for me to hear that. I grew up in a verbally abusive household and I know from experience that if that child does not have the right support the chances are 100% of those insults carrying on into their adult lives where they develop a negative self image and basically a mental tape of self criticism and its VERY hard to erase. Its sad, and I know not every parent intentionally means to say things hurtful to their children but I just think its important that they explain themselves to their children so that the child does not miscontrue any statements where that they feel unloved. My daughter I feel constantly relies on her mommys approval and its a healthy thing but I try so hard to reassure her even in my testiest times (where i feel exhausted some days) but its important to me because I can relate from how I felt as a child and their just so fragile as a young age.

I think my boss went through this as a child. When we have an office meeting he berates and discusses the wrong things everyone does right there in front of the person and the whole staff and that for as long as possible. It the most unbelievable experience I've seen in an office, ever.

Personally i think it is wrong to insult a child infront of other people. Instead of boasting there confidence they will be ashame already of ever talking to any friends of yours because they feel like everytime he/she is around your friend you will humiliate him/her. A proper way of letting the child do other things is by teaching him/her the importance of being aware of other stuff. Making the child see that there is more to life than just staying home infront of computer. That he/she can somehow help in cleaning the house or making his room clean. Teaching him/her in a way that will not make the child rebel or make the child keeps its distance from his/her parents. Instead of boasting his/her confidence you have discourage the child of ever came out and inspired to do other things and decide to stay on his/her comfort zone which will likely be an unhealthy habit. Childs have feelings too even at a very young age they can already feel the parents love for him/her. But they are not yet old enough to understand that the insults are the parents way of encouraging him/her to do other things. What will the child instill in there minds is that they are not love and that they cant make anything right at all. That everything that they do is wrong in the eyes of his/her parent.

In my own opinion, I will never insult my kids infront of others. I dont want to lose my child's self esteem and confidence. I would talk to him/her when we are at home explaining the issue.

NO I Will Not Insult My Kid In Front Of Others To Improve Him If I Do So Then He Will get To Think All The Things Wht he Does Gets Wrong So We Should Not Encourage This Type Of Tricks On Our Children

I would never "put down" or discipline my child in front of others unless it is to correct a behavior that could result in injury. Children today have enough challenges with developing leadership and self esteem. Putting them down in public doesn't accomplish anything in my view. I would sit down and discuss the issue with the child after the guests have left. I think children need positive influences and reinforcement, not negativity. Instead of telling a child what they did wrong, you could just as easily explain to them what would be the correct thing to do.

i am not married or have children. but it was the scenario with my mom. she used to correct me in front of others. i do not know why, she always had the pleasure when she used to scold me.I think it is not at all right. It brings a bad feeling in children.

No that is putting a child down and belittling him which is never good. I told my 9yr old off last night in fact and his friend because there was some other bigger kids and they were trying to light a fire on the fields by where we live, my son and his friend were standing watching so I quickly told both of them off and brought my son in because he should of walked away from it but that's different I feel.

I have a three and a half year old son and i would never like to insult him in front of others because he will feel let down in front of people and he will never become self confident in life.

train up the child in the right way they should grow, then when they grew up, they will never be depart from it,

In my opinion you are discouraging the child and plz don't do that and there are better ways to improving your child ....Tell that to you're friends

No, i think that is not good and not a good influence on the child.......he or she might hate that person ...or ..,.it might hurt he or she feelings....my younger brother who is only 6 ...i try to teach him..the right way to encourage him....If he do anything wrong....i try to make him understand that is only for his good....If the that person take it as a joke then it is different story..who know that person might be affected that person wrong way....