4 year old not listening

My God!! Doesn't want to eat anything? You mean she doesn't have any likes or dislikes? How does she manage to have the strength to play and go to school? How do you force her to eat? I don't have good ideas for that, but I guess every child has some likes and dislikes and you might want to bribe her with something she loves at first to make her to eat like you want her to. About the listening habit, my 6 year old is the same type. It is not that she is deaf or anything, she can hear whatever she wants to hear, but just pretends as though she has not heard. Most of the time, her mind is always active thinking about something. She did have a tough time in school, because she wasn't listening, and the teacher wasn't very happy with her. She is hyper too, she used to go to bed at 11p.m. with us and get up at 6 a.m. to go to school and still wouldn't feel sleepy at home. I didn't know what to do. One day she just fell asleep by herself in the afternoon after coming home from school and she did great the next day at school. At this age, children need atleast 10 hours of sleep every day. Whether hyper or not, now I force my daughter to nap atleast 2 hours in the afternoon, and all the shouting and punishing has definitely gone down a lot. They might not know it, but their bodies need rest, without which they cannot think or react properly to directions given to them.

She may have physical problems that need to be attended to. A thorough examination by your doctor, and maybe some psychological testing at school, if they have that service. She may have ADHD, allergies, or other problems that can be helped witht the proper medication or diet.

Please don't take this the wrong way. I have been through this. I have a 4 year old and a 14 month old. I have went through so many things with my 4 year old since her little sister was born. Even tho she was happy to have her baby sister. She was also so jealous. She went throught so many different stages. When I was pregnant with baby sister. I was working and then found out that I was pregnant so I started working full time so that I'd have enough money to do everything I needed for my girls when I had to go on my leave. Well because of it she decided she was going to start going to the bath room in her bed room and then play in it. That lasted atleast 2 months. She already been potty trained for a year and half before that started. Then when she was born she would wake her sister up when I'd get her to got to sleep. I'd have to fight with her too eat unless its something that she wanted to eat. She still fights with about she eats. If she doesn't like it or want it she wont it. She'll sit there and play with her food. I Hope this helps.

I got my little sister which is really similar with your daughter. She always annoys my father that's why she get a pinch all the time when she acted like a bad girl during meal time, feels like she doesn't feel hungry and she likes to do more playing under the sun. For your daughter, i can say that you don't tolerate her,just talked to her nicely, and maybe giving her a small reward when she behave well and eat well during meal time will help her to be good.Happy posting.