How do you judge a person?
By Margarit
@Margarit (3676)
Philippines
September 25, 2008 9:26am CST
If you meet new person how do you judge them? I don't normally judge a person by just one meeting. I respect each individual pesrsonality and infact i don't know them well enough to judge them. I ask this because i know that there were people like to judge a person by just first meeting and sometimes it very hurting. I like to judge a person after several meetings and long conversation, i like to know the person first before judgng them its either i like them to be a friend or not. I like to have a good friends. How about you?
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@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Myself I think we all judge in one form or another. I have to admit if a person does not look into my eyes when having a conversation it makes me think that they are hiding something. As time goes on I will indeed find out if my observations are correct, sometimes it just happens because one is nervous. I do not judge by a way a person appears, or by the way a person speaks but when a person doesn't look in my eyes I feel uncomfortable.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
I agree with you grammasnook, We can see the true feelings of a person through the eyes. We can feel its sencerity if they look at you straight.That why it is important to have eye to eye contact in a conversation for you can determine if they are hiding something or not. Thanks for your comment.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Actually, depends on who you're talking to, it might be a cultural thing... I know for a fact that in some countries, especially in Asian countries, when you're talking to someone who is older, if you look directly into their eyes, it's considered rude... I know because I was born & grew up there... Some of the body gestures of other countries can give you a wrong idea as well... It's always good to know why the person might be doing things the way he/she's doing it... That's why I try not to judge people at the moment I meet them... I try to remember the things they say & do & try to find out little more about the reasons behind it... Even if they're born here, they might have parents that were born in other countries so out of respect for them, they might be used to doing sudden things in different ways with them & when they meet others, they may not even realize they're doing it...
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@cutelang (83)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Judging is already an act of creating misunderstandings toward other people.For Judging is not Understanding the other person.For when you already judge a person you already misunderstands him/her instead of understanding him/her.GETS?
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Sep 08
I think I am very picky in this aspect. I judge people by their look, behaviors and speaking. And I also judge them by time. As a nice person will always be nice. On the contrary, a bad person can never always hide the truth.
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I judge person whom I already met. I don't judge a person easily. IF ever I may, I always remind myself to give them chance to prove theirselves that htey're not the one whom I think of negatively. And I agree with you, once..twice...thrice of meetings is enough for me to judge who the person really is.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Judging a person is not easy to do, even in the court you have to undergo a lots of trial meetings, some it takes years and years to get the result , to be proven as guilty. No one can make wrong judgment for in can disroy person reputation and dignity which is very important to mankind. Thanks for responding.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
25 Sep 08
I'm generally like you! I don't judge a book by its cover! I think this is wrong. It's good to get to know someone first, their personality, their character and so forth. If you find yourself having a good conversation with someone then I guess you are on the right track to forming a good friendship and getting to know the person very well. I know it's hard though at times not to judge a book by its cover! There are some people that dress in such a wacky way that their clothes are the only thing we notice about them. As a result of this it can sometimes be quite intimidating to approach someone who dresses unconventionally! I still give all people that I meet the benefit of the doubt that they are going to be nice and polite, and easy to get along with, until they prove otherwise. Andrew
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 08
Hi, many thanks for the best response. Speak to you soon. Andrew
@chaska (170)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I do not judge a person when I first meet them but it is very hard not to get a first impression. That first impression usually changes as I get to know them. Some people you meet you get that first impression that they are really nice, caring, timid people. From my experience sometimes that person will not actually be that type of person as you see after getting to know them.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
I do believe that you have to know first all the detail before your judge a person in order to come up with the best judgement. Everyone is intittle to have a good and honest judgement for it can make or brake and person life. Better not to judge on the first meeting becauseyou dont see the whole things yet, it only the outside. They say that dont judge the book by it covers. Thanks for your comment.. Happy mylotting.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
Whenever I met a person for the first time, I am always giving them the benefit of the doubt that I can trust them. My profession trained me not to judge a person on how they look but on what they can do.
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@dropofrain (1167)
• India
26 Sep 08
I think it is really difficult to judge a person in the first meeting. I try and judge people but surely can not do this in the first meeting itself. I need to meet people again and again to judge what kind of person he or she is. I think it is little unfair also to judge people in their first meeting as it might be a wrong impression.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I agree with the way that you do things when it comes to judging people. I myself am a lot like you. I don't like to make a judgment upon the first meeting. I like to get to know someone first and then base an idea at that point about the person's character.
Sometimes the first impression can make it easy to define one's personality but then again sometimes someone can seem rude and it puts you off but then what I do is just give them another chance the next time we meet to see how they are at that point.
I know that I would like if someone gives me a chance to be a friend and hopefully they will accept me as I am.
After all, we all need acceptance in this life. 
@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Sep 08
I judge people based on the amount of effort they put into making conversation with you. I like people who I can talk to easily, so the people who make the effort with me are my favourites in my eyes.
I admit that sometimes I will judge people on their appearence as well, but I am learning now that it is not someone's appearence that makes them either a good or a bad person.
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@bittu2804 (31)
• India
26 Sep 08
Hi Margarit, I agree with you. It's not easy to judge a person in the first meeting itself. And I am not that good enough to judge a person and know about his/ her personality when I meet them the first time. I take time to form an opinion about a person - this is made possible after subsequent meetings. Must say that I have made some of my good friends this way.
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@ThePancake (31)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
I think judging people is something we probably all do on some level, even if it's in the furthest part of your mind.
I usually judge people on a first meeting, but my impression of them changes over time. So I don't really but into this "first impressions are the most important" stuff.
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@TerryYuan (229)
• China
26 Nov 08
very hard, by experience. but it can't be right always.
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@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
it is not right to judge somebody on your fist meet. I don't believe on "first impressions last". Sometimes people judgement is not always true. for example you meet a new person and at first you wont like her / his because he/she is like this like that. But in long run you will find things that are good from him/her.
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@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I do my best to not judge people at all. I much rather just let them show me what kind of person that are. If you will just keep your eyes and pay attention this will usually happen pretty quick. The Bible tells us to not judge others period and that's the way I try to do it.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I used to look at people and say "I don't like them"
but most of the time i was wrong.
now i give them a couple chances, maybe they had a bad day the first time.
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@nageshnnr (85)
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26 Sep 08
hii frnds .we should judge a person in the first meeting only.because.......there are many factors .....to judge among them what i follow is
1.his dressing sense
2.his flency in language.
3.qualification
4.helping natuire
5.his environmental conditions.......
like this i will consider many ........and what i feel with confidnse i had a great frnds .....and always remember never make frnds without knowing them and never lose frnds after knowing them.........dats wat i can finish........
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@amychen133 (29)
• Costa Rica
26 Sep 08
Good interpersonal relationships indeed help us to build trust, and trust in my opinion is one of the most valuable thing and hardest thing to get. It is important not to totally rely on someone, always reserve something... that's according to my experience in life. It is nice to have friends everywhere, it indeed makes life easier, but also lots of trouble if we don't know how to manage the relationships well.
About the judging part, I think we always have to judge, but we need to know with which criteria. Also we have to know that nothing is like it appears, and when I judge I try to have my mind open and respect things that differ from my perspective
