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i made my notifications easy.. theyre all turned on. but i narrowed my friends list down to 17, and i dont accept friends requests hardly ever anymore.

I have them all on. I was gone yesterday and had 300 notifications waiting for me when I got home. It takes me a while to go through them, but I keep them because if I deleted them, I just know I'd hit a point where I'd think I couldn't find any good discussions to answer. So instead of looking for discussions, I'll always have those notifications, even if it takes a week to get to them all.

I have over 500 friends and do not recieve any notifications for any of them . I have them all turned on and the only notifications I ever recieve are for a best response or when someone adds or accepts me . I would like to be able to use this feature and thought I was doing something wrong but it seems I have everything the way it should be and I do recieve the notifications for best responses and for when someone accepts or adds me but not when they answer to a discussion I have started . I think it would be much easier if I was able to do it from my email . The only way I can responsd is to check all my friends everyday and I know I miss quite a few because I keep seeing the same discussions even after I have answered them so it makes it even harder .

[i]Hi gemini, wow..900 emails? that was a lot..LOL! Yea, it's better to do that because the number might stress you out and will affect your beauty dear, not good! LOL! I have over 500 friends..LOL! I never tried deleting anyone yet since I know more than half of them are inactive this time..LOL! SO each day I am getting over 100 emails and since I have no kids and I am alone here when hubby will work, I have all the time to work on this especially when none of my friends will invite me to go out! LOL! [/i]

If you don't have their notification buttons turned on then there really is no use to have them on your friends list. The reason we have friends here in the first place is so we can respond to each others discussions and have conversations back and forth and become friends. If they just sit on your list and you don't talk to them, then they aren't really friends, now are they? That is why I keep my list to around a hundred. I am always behind in my emails and I really don't care. At least I don't have to log into mylot and search for discussions to respond to. Like this discussion is 6 months old, I eventually got to it. And this way I am re-activating it and putting it back on top of the list and therefore it will get more exposure and maybe more responses and that would mean you would continue to earn from that same discussions without you having to do anything to earn it. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris

This is why I've deleted a lot of friends. When I add a friend I will turn their notifications on, but if I find I don't like their discussions I will either delete the friendship or turn off the notifications. Although I have a few select friends who's notifications will always remain on. I think instead of turning them ALL off, you should go through and pick your select friends who you know you truly enjoy their discussions (like me ) and turn them on while leaving everyone else off for sometime. Once you turn everyone's back on, find the ones you don't respond to and turn them off or delete the friend.

I leave them all on, but if I do not have time to answer them then I just delete them, sometimes there really are great discussions, and so I don't read the silly ones if I have no time just the good ones.

I have also had to turn most of them off. Infact I have to go through them again and turn them all off. I'm not on here as much because I'm back to working part time during the Christmas holidays and with my sons activities on top of that, I hardly have time to come on here anymore. I'll answer the odd discussion but that's about it.

Hi Gemini, There really should be a button where we can switch off all the friends notifications in one go rather than going through one by one when away for a weekend or know you are not going to online for a while I in fact have this problem at the moment and came home from work saying my inbox was full and I couldn't even receive aymore. Like you I am not as active as I was because am working extra, have the new puppy and with my son now at school not home as much either. In fact I think I have emailed in the past to suggest this. I too am getting so behind with all the discussions, I think I will have to find a system that works for me too but I love so many who do I choose to keep switched on and who to turn off, I'm just a big softie so i will be or all none I guess. I will checking other responses to see who has found a system that really works time amangement wise too. Huggles. Ellie :D

I don't have my email notifications on for when friends start new discussions for the very reason you just detailed. It would be too much for me to keep caught up with. So, the way I do my responses, and choose what to respond to, is through my sorties. I just read the titles and if one catches my attention, I open it and if I have something to add, I respond to it. I did the same with this discussion...your discussion. I know that that may mean some of my friends feel slighted and I hate the thought of any of them feeling that way but, if I did it your way, I would never have any time to eat, sleep, use the bathroom...etc... So, I like my method. It allows me some comfort and a little less stress and it also allows me to meet new people. I don't think you should feel obligated to answer every one of your friends discussions and the notifications sort of breed that feeling. So, afford yourself some breathing room. If you don't respond to every one of your friends' discussions, I am certain they will understand as they must feel the same pressure you are right now, now and then.

I only have notifications on for 'comments to my responses', everything else is off as I can find them using the tabs on the site. I am pretty inundated with emails already from other sites (surveys too) so I prefer to keep emails from myLot to a minimal. I recall when I first started, I once had 54 emails in my inbox from myLot in one day and that was it for me...

Hi there! We are having the same problems too. Before I only have my old friend's notifications turned on. Back then I don't receive a lot of emails. Then I decided to turn on my new accepted friends and my email is just flooded with their discussions. Now I am having a hard time responding on all of them. Some of my new friends would make discussions more than 10 posts in a day. I am having a hard keeping up on them and there are emails that's already a week old. I still try to respond on all of them. In fact, I even set a goal until the end of the month that I will respond on all of my friend's discussions on my email. I started Wednesday with 144 emails and now its down to 101. But it just keeps adding up and so I have to hurry up a bit. Ciao!

It can get so overwhelming with all those alerts going into your email!! I used to have them all turned off but as i have made real friends here at mylot i have turned the alerts on for the people whose discussions i always make an effort to respond to, once i have gone through all of those then i go to the friends started discussions page and look through there for other discussions i might want to respond to if i have the time!!! xx

Really! I didn't use notification mails for quite a long time. I just started a month ago. I have 200+ friends and I have notificatins for 60+ friends. As it is very difficult to me to make all the notification to "on" status at once. I did surfed the pages and made 60+ notification on and then gave up. Now on when I get a friend then I keep the notification on for them right at that time. This way it never becomes a headeache!

i can imagine how busy you will be with over 900 email notifications in your inbox... there is no way i will be able to keep up with that as well if i were in your position... that's why i didn't turn my friends' email notifications on but i am still able to respond to their discussions every now and then when i am free... take care and have a nice day...

I have all my friends notification on my list turned on. However this does not mean that I am going to respond to all of their topics. Not all of their topics interest me. I prefer to choose to reply to topics that I feel knowledgeable about..

I have select fiends that have notifications on. The ones that I know use mylot regularly and start loads of discussions (like yourself!!) I did have them all turned off but have recently gone through them and turned some on so that I know when new discussion has been started and the I won't miss it!!

I also don't like to see so much emails in my email inbox. I just want to get some post I really want to see the replies, not every post need post, just let people know what's I think.

I have a total of 121 friends here as of this date. All my notifications are turned on because that has been saving my time in looking for topics to respond to. Of course I give priorities to posts of friends first. There are days when I don't even look at others discussion because my time for my friends discussion would eat up all my time. But there were days when despite the floods of notifications, I could hardly pick topics interesting to me... even though my heart wants to respond... my mind could not so no way but go to others discussion. I don't mind if my mailbox would burp. I need to give first priorities to friends discussion and that is the easiest way for me to do that. If any of my friend did not find any response from me then there is no other reason but... his/her topic fall out of my interest. Sorry but there is always a next time!

I have all of my notifications turned on. Of course, I have not been a member for very long and only have about 20 friends so, it is not too much to deal with right now. But, then I sit here and ask myself why I have them turned on when the first thing I do when I log on is go to the friends started discussion tab. It seems to me that this is easier than having to read a bunch of notification emails and then try to sort it all out. But, I have not turned the notifications off yet either. I guess I just like to make things harder on myself.