Do you think you should have a say on who your kids date

Scorpio, I also think that if you have raised your children in the right way, taught them all the rights and wrongs of dating and picking friends and such then they should have the knowledge and know how to follow your teachings. But I also think that parents need to monitor their childs dating habits and friends. Parents need to know where their kids are and who they are with for their own piece of mind I think. Forbidding is usually not a good thing, it will only bring out the rebellion in a child and make them want to see this person more just to tick you off. Unless they are dating a known criminal, a person known as being really, really bad to the core bad, then I would not interfer and allow them to make their own mistakes, trust them to know the difference and to know what they want in a dating partner. They will soon enough find out and decide who is good for them and who is not. Its all a part of growing up.

no i don't until they are 18.. been through this a few times with my daughter. i hated like 4 of her's ex b/f..

It depends how old you're talking here. If you're talking under 18 then sure; you should be able to have a say. If you mean when they're adults in their own right then no, they should be able to choose who they date on their own. Sure, you might not approve, and you may think they'll get hurt, but it's all part of learning, and your child will be strong for it.

I think that parents will have a say in everything in their child's life no matter what, but you have to let your children make their mistakes in life. Dating someone who is inappropriate in your eyes is one of those mistakes. You can tell them what you think, but the last thing you should do is forbid them from doing something, this will only create rebellion and hate in them. They will be less likely to listen to you on more important issues if you tell them they can't date someone just because you don't like them. I think in this case, perhaps talking to them about it and letting them know that you don't approve, but that you aren't going to forbid them from seeing that person would be a much better way to handle it. That way they know where you stand, but they also know that you are there to support their decisions even if they seem wrong to you. This creates a more trusting relationship so that when they do finally find themselves in a situation they will feel like they can come talk to you about it without being judged.

i think that if you are confident in the way you have raised your child that you wont have to worry about who they bring home because they will make a good choice. also if you accept your kids for who they are then they will trust you enough to talk to you and respect your opinion.