Do you consider yourself a generous person?
By andak2007
@andak2007 (3229)
Philippines
September 28, 2008 4:10am CST
Today is my sister's 27th birthday...i wanted to give her something but somehow i could not think of anything to give since i am super broke...its not really about the money which i do not have...but i would have wanted to give her something special like a cake or a leche flan..which is her favorite..but somehow i realized now its too late..and i do not have time since i got my hands full with three kids and could not go to the market...ahhh enough for the excuses...i know im not a generous person but i always think that if i only have the money available then i could have exerted some effort to give special to her...or to my parents or to my loved ones...when it comes to my kids..i can do anything...i am always the pityful here since i ma the most poor in the family...what about you..can you consider yourself generous and giving?
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49 responses
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
29 Sep 08
As someone said below, give her your time, or a memory.
Take her for a picnic, have a little party with just the two of you. Rent a sappy movie, get chocolate, popcorn, etc.
Wash her car.
Clean her house/room.
Make her a great meal and birthday cake.
Give her a coupon book with things to do for her like her laundry for week or stuff like that.
Make a frame from something cool and put a great photo of the two of you in it.
Massage her feet and legs.
Give her a manicure.
Make a scrapbook of special events in your life together.
Go to somewhere like the zoo or museum that is no or low cost and make a day of it.
Memories are the best gifts that I have ever received!!
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
i offered here foot spa but she refused..she cannot take it from me...i am her older sister...so we just talked.
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@schulzie (4061)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I consider myself to be a generous person. So much so sometimes that people tend to take advantage of me. When I notice that someone is starting to take advantage of my generousity it really makes me angry and then I am no longer generous.
But my motto usually is it is better to give than to receive.
Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
well generousity have some limits and you should avoid those kind of people.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
28 Sep 08
Give her your time. Spare an hour in her company. Perhaps that is the greatest gift she will receive on her 27th birthday. A gift should not consist of money only in my opinion. I'd like to give presents on Christmas and birthdays.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
me too i like to wrap gifts and give it to my kids and husband and my godchildren and my sisters..sister in-law, friends...as with my sister..she likes to sleep all the time.
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@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I love to give to my loved ones. My kids and grandkids. Without them even asking. You dont have to have money to give. You can give of yourself by doing something for them. There are people out there that never tire of asking for handouts. It's those people that may think im not generous. Some come to my house plop down in a chair and start asking. I have to tell them im not rich and my house is not a food bank or a good will. They need to look up in yellow pages for that.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
my father is also very generous to all his grandkids..especially my kids...he sponsors the birthdays, baptismal, even hospital bills, the milk and the house, the food, the vitamins..he is very helpful to me...and even watches the kids.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
you should find another one...here sometimes the babysitter is my parents.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
29 Sep 08
yes, i do. don't mean to sound concrited but that's the way i feel. believe my family & friends would agree.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
that is a very wise decision...sometimes we have to be careful.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
now that is a different story...but there are really people who are blinded and fooled and take advantaged of..its very rare to find genuine people these days.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
[i]Hello andak2007,
I am not a very generous person too. I have a hard time giving substantial amonut of money to relatives or others. I think it is in my blood to be frugal. If you are poor in money, I think the best thing you can give is your time. Being there during anniverisaries, birthdays and celebration is always enough to compensate for material thing. I also make sure to attend family gatherings as mmuch as possible. Being present is the most important thing, second to material one.
Regards.[/i]
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
right now i am frugal since i know i really do not have anything to give..i am a needy person.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
well that is something...why would be generous to those evil people?
@msedge (4011)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I am very generous person.I hate to be like this that even i don't have enough i still give when somebody needs my help.I really have a soft heart.But you know sometimes its bad to be generous because i noticed some people instead of being thankful they become abusive to your kindness.I had experienced that and also my husband.Well, anyway i could understand your part but you know a family could understand and i'm sure your sister will understand your situation.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
yes she has been very understanding about my situation and even tries to share her blessings with me and my kids, i say thank you always and she knows how much i appreciate her.
@nini89 (670)
• India
1 Oct 08
Yes I consider me a generous person. As you said that you are not much better in finance even I am of the same level that my financial status are not well. But I wish my sisters in their birthday before anyone could wish, so that they come to know howw much we care for them. I give all my support in the way of doing all the help with two hands nd body without hesitating. Money does not come on the way of love,love cannot be priced. So a single birthday cards having a beautiful words will cost more than a gold chain. Happy posting and have a nice day.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
it is funny because it is my birthday today and she offered to give me money so that i can go eat out with my kids..i was really touched and i thanked her from the bottom of my heart.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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28 Sep 08
Hello there andak2007
Well I guess I am generous when I have the money. I tend to be more generous to people that show their generousity towards me. If someone has never really bothered to much when it comes to gifts for me and my family then I tend not to bother too much with them.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
i feel that way too when someone is generous to me i also wanted to give back to show my appreciation and gratitude..that is what i wanted to do to my mother on her next birthday..she is undergoing lot of heartaches as of the moment and i plan to treat her on a vacation away from our home.
@Humbug25 (12540)
•
30 Sep 08
Aww that will be really nice for her and I am sure she will really appreciate it. My mum will be turning 60 in March and I am trying to get her gift started now. I am trying to buy her 60 small things, she says she only wants a recent photo of me and my kids, huh, that sure ain't all she's gonna get!! She is great my mum and deserves only the best!!
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
[b]i understand your case, that you wanted to give your sister something but you don't have enough money to buy...i would say, it's not always been the case to make others happy by giving them a gift...somehow just be greeting them in special ocassion, like birhtdays means a lot...and i hope your sister understand your standard of living...just devote your time for her some other time...which also be a good case to your family or to your loved ones...money doesn't really a hindrance to make tohers happy...just being there on their side means a lot...taking your time to them for sometime, talking your everyday lives or the happy moments...that would mean a lot...
anyway, as for my case, i would say im too generous enough...both for helping with or without money involved...sometimes it feels great making someone happy or even just a smile...i can even lend money as much as i have an extra...and i always prioritize my family when it comes to our needs...i don't keep money much...im more into helping, than keeping it when i know it will help someone...lol...that's why as of now im broke...haha...no one bothers to pay their debts to me...lol...so i just have to keep working...save money for my son, and give the half to my parents...or help my siblings when they need it...i don't like being greedy...and i don't expect anything in return when i help, since i did that voluntarily...
happy sunday! God bless![/b]
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
you have such a great huge heart and i wish i could be like you but i am not.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
[b]well i know you wanted too, but their are some circumstances that hinders you from doing so...i know if you were just gifted enough or that you have enough for you, i know you will help...it's just that you were not that blessed enough with financial needs, but i know deep in your heart you are a good person...and that was indeed very important, to have a good heart...and by keeping so, just help in a way and make other people without money being involve...
happy tuesday! God bless![/b]
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
what you do not know?you mean to what extent you can be generous?
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
sure you are right me and my sister are becoming more closer now that we both have kids already.
@ipissakusina (930)
• United States
29 Sep 08
yeah.. i am generous, as long as i have money or goods to give to someone needy, i will. not only giving them the item that they need, but also sometimes helping them out, giving them volunteer work. :P
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
doing volunteer work is not an easy task...i am afraid i cannot do that as of the moment...maybe when the kids get older and have their own life.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
sharing is good...i always teach my children that value..it is so important that you know how to share especially to own siblings.
@miller1978 (1101)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I feel that I am a generous person by nature. I have grown up around people who were always giving to the less fortunate. We have been taught to give if we don't need, donate to those who do need, and spend time with the one's who have no one.
For our family we do not spend money on birthday presents for everyone. We spend money on our children to buy them things for their birthday but for other family members we always take the time making one of their favorite meals and spending time together. I think this is worth more than any amount of money in the world.
I often donate things that my children have out grown whether it be clothing or toys. They will also help when doing this. I have given online, to businesses, and to friends.
Everyone appreciates the thought no matter the value. Just remember that the next time you think you are not generous.
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@rhyannefranz (770)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I consider myself a generous person if I have the money. I usually treatmy friends if I have some extra money. But there is more to giving money, it is sharing one's knowledge, resources and time to some body. And I believe I am generous in that aspect.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
when i was still single i use to treat many of my friends to eat out...but now that i have 3 kids to feed and no income its really hard.
@sexykayla (1)
• Jamaica
29 Sep 08
Yes i think it matters but to who, because sometimes people say thing that they don"t mean. But if you be honest and tell the truth and your sister knows you and knows that you are telling to truth then it is ok. It is not too late, that is how she well know you are generous, just let her know about but it. Yes i do think that i am generous person
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
just today i offered to give her a foot spa but she denied it saying she cannot let me do her feet...then i said its ok but she would not let me so then i just agreed not to.